Day 2: Wellness During Crisis - Free Wellness Masterclass

Hey y', all, it's Brendan.

And this is a special episode and season of the Brendon show where I've decided to release for you sections of my wellness masterclass, my, my online course.

For you guys right here for free.

As we are as a global community continuing to deal with the growing coronavirus pand, people are scared. People, you know, are really off kilter. There's a lot of anxiety and fear and you know, I've definitely sensed that. As you know, I released my two special episodes of coronavirus fear, focus and forecasting and I did a two part episode. If you missed that here on the Brendon show, go download those right away. Those were incredibly powerful, powerful sessions I did with my best clients in the world and I give that to you free here on the Brendon show. But in this episode today I'm gonna give you a section of the audio of the wellness masterclass and I hope it really serves you and you'll share this with everybody in your family, all your friends, your loved ones, your team. And I also wanna remind you that if you haven't heard yet, I decided to actually give the full online course, the wellness masterclass which we previously sold for 100 or $200 for free to my entire global community, actually anyone in the world. And it's a program that will teach you to master your mind and your body. As you're about to hear, we'll take on things like your motivation, dealing with stress, dealing with overwhelm, activating your physiology so you feel more energy, more vibrancy, more purpose, but also developing greater self discipline so you stay on your a game in terms of your health habits. And so if you'd like to access the entire course for free, we have a seven day free trial.

I decided to just give it away.

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This episode of the Brandon show, we.

Released a section of the audio that I hope really serves you and helps you manage your mind and your body during these chaotic times. With that, here we go with a special section of the Wellness Masterclass.

Hey, my friend. It's Brendan. And welcome to day number two of my Wellness Masterclass. In this session, we're gonna kind of dive deep and help you pinpoint some areas of your life that maybe are going great and some areas that might be struggling and how those areas are affecting your wellness, meaning your overall happiness, your overall progress, your overall performance. Because remember, in session one, I really talked about looking at wellness from more of a holistic standpoint, realizing that your wellness is all about, like, your well being. So dealing with life well and living life, being intentional. Right? That's kind of what I think about when I think of wellness. I think of well being. I think about dealing with life well and being well in the world too. But we identified some areas maybe that you could work on in the first session. In this one, we're gonna go even more granular in your life. And then I'm gonna give you three big reasons that people really struggle with wellness in any area of their life. I think you're really gonna love this one. So do me a favor. Make sure you bust out a journal or a piece of paper, take some notes on this session like always. That will really help you in this session as well. We're gonna begin with with a download a worksheet that you have here in the course, and it's gonna be really important for you. Okay. It comes from my high performance planner. So if you've ever seen this before, this is kind of like a two in one productivity planner and productivity journal. And what we've taken in this course is one of the most important assessments that I created in this planner. It's called the whole life assessment. And the whole life assessment is 10 areas of your life that you now score yourself on on a rating of 1 to 10. And we're going to dive into each of these areas in this session right now. So make sure you download the worksheet that goes along with this video because it'll be really helpful for you to keep track. And I always feel like, you know what? Real wellness in our life starts with real awareness to where we're on track and where we're off. Because where we're on Track in our life. You know when you feel like you're on your path or you feel like you're on your A game or being your best self, man, that's part of wellbeing. You feel like you're congruent, you're connecting, you're contributing, that your energy's great, your motivation is great. All those things we talked about in day number one, well, that, like, feels great. But when you feel like you're off track, isn't it true that it affects your mental performance? Isn't it true it affects how you feel about yourself? When you feel off track in your life or lost even in one area, it's just like, it's a downer. And the more you feel like down in certain parts of your life, the more your wellness suffers. Think about it. If there's, like, five areas of your life you feel crappy in, do you feel like working out? Do you feel like doing your best work? Do you feel like you're the best person for your kids or for your team? I'm guessing you know the answer is no. So part of our life is learning to get greater alignment to the major areas of our life and improving each area of our life, which is, again, I know that's why you joined this course. So I celebrate you for that. And in this session, we're just gonna pinpoint some areas for you that I don't want you to look at and feel like, oh, gosh, I'm not doing well here and get down, but rather be, like, excited. When I identify an area of my life that I can improve, I get excited about that. I'm like, oh, wow. Maybe that's why, like, unconsciously over here, I'm not doing good at work, is because in this area, I don't feel satisfied, or maybe I don't feel like I'm being awesome to my wife, because in this area over here, I've been neglecting it, and my mind's frustrated. It's mad at me because my mind wants me to focus here, and I'm not focusing there, so I'm not being congruent with what I know I should be doing. So I feel upset internally, and that internal upset affects whether or not I treat my wife well. You follow? So it's important that we look at these different areas of our life. And that's kind of one reason I made the High Performance planner is that every day I make you measure different areas of your life. There'll be a link somewhere where you can check out the planner. But we actually included one of the major assessments in here again for you free. So make sure you download it or you have it on hand so that you can fill this out as we go through the rest of this video. So take a moment to access it right now. Okay, so hopefully you have your whole life assessment in front of you right now. And I mean, think about the pressure on that one. Right? The whole life assessment. But you know, I developed this because I was working with a woman one time who I was her high performance coach. Many of you know, that's like what I do. My role in life is I'm a high performance coach. I'm the CEO of the High Performance Institute. My whole life is working with high performers. And this woman's job was so incredible. She managed over 10,000 people in her company. I mean, a real rock star in her company. And she also had five children. And she also, you know, tried to work out and do yoga and you know, eat a plant based diet. And I mean, she had the whole thing down and she was working so hard, but she was struggling and she didn't feel fulfilled. And as I started working with her, I started finding out why. And she gave me this great line. She said after a period of time. At first she thought her issue was productivity and like getting things done. She's like, I just don't feel as driven as I used to be. I'm not as focused and you know, I have all these tasks but I don't do them sometime and I'm frustrated with myself. And look, you and I both, we can relate with that, right? We've all been there. But she said this line, she said, at some point in my life, though, Brendan, working with you, I realized that achievement wasn't my problem. Alignment was. She was a rock star at work. She had a great relationship with her spouse, she was a good mom. But there were other areas of her life that were so low that were neglected that she was unsatisfied with or she thought she just didn't deal need to deal with anymore because she was successful. That was dragging her down unconsciously and hurting her mental well being. Does that make sense? So that's why I developed the whole life assessment. I said, you know what, if we're really going to help people in any area of their life, whether it's just their physiology or their productivity or how they relate with other people or how they think of themselves, we better take on the whole picture. Otherwise we're just given band aids. And so that's what this whole Life assessment is meant to help you with. So you'll see here, there's 10 different categories of your life here. And you can score yourself on a score of 1 to 10. Again, 1 being like low agreement or bad, 10 being you totally agree with it or it's awesome. Right? And we take on these categories like your health. So do you feel like you're regularly taking care of your mental, emotional and your physical health? One would be, no, I don't take care of myself. Brendon10 oh, my gosh. I do all the things I drink, all the things I have all the healthy things. My cupboards are full of supplements. Oh, my God. Right. So whatever it is for you, then we take on your mental, emotional life. We take on your partner, your love, your spouse, your family, friends, mission, experiences, spirit, finances and learning. You can see all these areas. And what I want you to do is fill this whole thing out, scoring yourself in each of these areas. And then I want you to identify the three highest performing ones and the three lowest performing ones, meaning like the three ones that you didn't get a good score on and the three ones you did get a good score on. And what I want to do is teach you why, like, why are there some areas that you're just, you're doing better in and some areas you're not doing better in. Because isn't it true sometimes the major challenge in our life is we've got an area and we're struggling in it, but we don't know why we're going to cover that today. So you've got your scores right, You've got your top three and your bottom three in this whole life assessment. So let's talk about why those are the way that they are. This is really going to help you. I'm going to give you three big concepts in this session. They're going to explain all of those scores and, and these three big concepts also explain why do high performing people in their life sometimes fall from that perch? Why is it sometimes you're great with your health and then you're not? Why is it sometimes you're great in your relationship and then you're not? Like, what is it that causes that, like, variability? It's three specific things that we learned in the study of the high performers we did at the High Performance Institute. So here's the first concept that explains a lot of that and it's a basic one. This concept is called neglect. Okay. If you got a low scoring area in any given relationship that you have as an Example, let's say you thought, well, you know, my relationship with my daughter, it's like a 3 out of 10. The reason that tends to happen is because we are neglecting to develop that relationship, or we are neglecting to be our best self in that relationship, or we are neglecting to add time into that. And what's the opposite of neglect? Attention, time, energy. And we need to identify right off the bat if we're really going to get honest about your wellness and your overall progress in life. You and I need to get clear, like, where are you not providing enough time, energy and effort in your life? Are you not doing well in time, energy and effort with your spouse, with your learning, with your health, with your own mental and emotional, like, freedom and time? Like, I really want you to identify, like, where is time, energy and effort causing you pain? I know you're like, dude, I thought this was gonna be a motivating course and I know some of this is heavy, so please, you know what, allow that. Let's like work together here and like, honor this process to get greater awareness to our life. I know it's gonna be uncomfortable and sometimes you're gonna be sad, like, oh my God, I'm sad. I have a 3 out of 10 with my daughter. I want to be a better mom. Hey, listen, we all got to start with where we're at. And I'm not here, you know, preaching in any way. There's been parts of my life that have been neglected too. Like, that has caused me turmoil. I'll give you an example here. I am shooting this wellness course with you, and this year for me was my busiest year on the road I've ever had. I had the blessing this year of speaking to over 55,000 people in arenas and convention centers and hotel ballrooms all around the country. Right? That's a lot of people in person, live in my audiences. And it's a lot of handshaking and a lot of how you doing? And a lot of selfies. Just a lot of interaction with a lot of people and a lot of travel. So guess what? That did. It hurt my health. And if I'm honest with you, I neglected some of my health practices when I was on the road. And so what happened is I actually got sick and I got. At first it was like the sniffles, and then it was just like not feeling good. And then it got into a full blown pneumonia. Now, for 40 years of my life, I've been a very healthy guy. I've never had the flu. I take great Care of myself. I'm that weirdo in the morning who's got the perfect health shake with the blueberries and the spinach and the chia seeds and the mct. I mean, I got it all down, right? But I neglected some of my practices of recovery on the road, and it cost me my health. And if I wasn't honest with that, if I wasn't aware of that, guess what happens next year when I go on tour again? I'll get sick again. So awareness gives us the opportunity to do better. So I'm not mad at myself. I don't get down on myself. It happened. It sucked. And I want you to be okay with that, too. Maybe you look at like your partner or your love or your spouse and you're like, oh, my gosh, why are we a 4 when we should be a 10? We fell in love, but we're not anymore. I don't want you to get down about it. I just want you to be real about it. Awareness and real well being starts with truth. And I'll tell you what. If you neglect or avoid any of these areas of your life, guess what? That avoidance grows up into a big, ugly monster. If you neglect or you avoid that health diagnosis, your health gets worse. If you neglect or avoid the fact that you're not growing three years from now, you feel miserable now, it's okay. But if you neglect the experiences of your life, the adventures of your life, the learning of your life three, four years from now, even if you have money and you love your spouse and you do your yoga, something starts eating away at your psychology. So that's why it's important to be honest as you're doing these ratings but also not get down. Because whatever your low scores are, we got to be honest. Did any of those low scores come from neglect or avoidance? And if it did, what's the first right action of integrity you could do to improve it? So number one thing that throws people off their perch is neglect and avoidance. Number two, and this is a big one, listen to this dissatisfaction. Think about this. Maybe you scored really well and you're like, brendon, I don't know what you're talking about. Dude, I scored 10 out of 10 in all 10 areas. But I've actually had people who's told me that. And then I said, are you happy? And they said, not as much as I want to be. And here's what's interesting about humans and our psychology that really affects our performance is we can have everything going for us and still not Be happy because we're always dissatisfied. I know people who they like, it looks like they have the perfect life, but internally, they're always dissatisfied with themselves or their performance. And because they're dissatisfied as they are striving, it might as well be misery. And so I want you to think about this. Is lack of appreciation leading to any of those scores you wrote down? You know, in wellness, we always talk about gratitude. In personal development, we always talk about gratitude. In everything we have measured in the last 30 years in happiness comes back to gratitude. But a lot of people, they fail to appreciate the different parts of their life, and so turmoil internally starts happening. So look at your whole life through that assessment. Is there any area that you just felt you've been so dissatisfied, dissatisfied, dissatisfied, dissatisfied that you enter it? Dissatisfied, for example, your partner, your love, your spouse. Are you entering the day with your spouse already dissatisfied? Because if you are, what's the odds of you improving that? I mean, think about the experiences. You're going to take your kids to Disneyland and you're already like, okay, the weather's not going to be good, it's not going to be okay. I'm already dissatisfied with this experience. What's the odds of you creating a great experience for your kids? Not good. But so many people have gotten trapped into living in dissatisfaction. And when you live in dissatisfaction, I mean, think about the well of wellness. It is a deep, dark pit. But here's the tell. You know what sounds different than dissatisfaction? It sounds, you know what the pretty version of dissatisfaction is? Perfection. People say, brendan, I'm a perfectionist. I can't be happy. Nothing's ever perfect. So I can't be happy. And if that's you, listen, perfection is just a fancy word for dissatisfaction. And so you're poisoning yourself with perfection. You're not appreciating what is good and what is there. Listen, we can all be excellence driven, but being excellence driven is different than being a perfectionist, where everything has to be perfect or you're moody and crappy and horrible to human beings. Right, but that's what a lot of perfectionists are. They're moody and crappy to other people. What's the difference between a happy perfectionist and an unhappy perfectionist? The unhappy perfectionist is striving, working, diligently, dissatisfied. And the happy person who's excellence driven feels like, you know what? I enjoy this process. I'm going to bring peace, positivity, joy, vibrancy, passion to what I'm doing. So out of all those areas that you wrote down about your life. Are there any areas where you have been moody, crappy, judgmental, or perfectionist in a way that is hurting your performance there and causing you internal struggle, internal strife, internal suffering? I want you to tell you this. It's the energy that you are bringing into these things that are leading to those results. You know, I've had the blessing, as many of you know, to train Oprah Winfrey and her team. And I'll never forget it. It was like one of the great highlights of my life was getting to work with her. And I remember learning a lot from her, too. And one thing I learned from her, she tells the story of one of her favorite episodes of her show that she'd ever done, where a woman entered a green room somewhere, and there was a sign. And the sign said, please be responsible for the energy you bring into this space. I love that. And what I'd love to encourage you is, please be responsible for the energy you're bringing into each area of your life, whether it's how you learn, the adventures you take with the people you love, your mission, your finances. Because think how easy it is to be dissatisfied and poison the whole well, because that's what people do. If you talk, especially in our world, in the real world, a lot of people, they're so dissatisfied with their finances. Every time they talk about money, it's complaining. Every time they talk about money, it's lack. Every time they talk about money, it's disgust. Every time they talk about money, it's disappointment and frustration. Well, if every time you talk about something, it's disappointment, dissatisfaction, frustration, and lack, what's the possibility of you improving that area? The mindset and the energy we bring into something is really important. Right? You know, I told you previously that one time in my life, I went broke. And I went broke because I didn't know how to be an author. I didn't know how to make money in my brand, or there wasn't the term influencer yet. And, you know, I was an author and a speaker and a coach and a trainer, and I was doing all these things. I didn't know how. And the truth is, I didn't just go broke because I didn't know what to do. I also went broke because I had an issue with money. I grew up with so much lack and abundance. I never thought I could have it. You know, I never saw myself as achieving some kind of, like, remarkable financial abundance. I wasn't putting out that energy, that hope, that ambition. I wasn't trying to attract it, because I couldn't even see it. You know what I'm saying? And so for me, my finances for, you know, the first two decades of my life were like a one out of ten. And what changed there was it just, I knew what to do in my finances. I started learning a little bit about that, but I also changed my mindset. I said, I don't want to be a one, I want to be a 10 in my finances. What would that take? How would I have to save? How much would I have to earn? What conversation would I have to change in my mind to do better in this area? Now, again, finances might not be your area. Maybe your area is your health or your partner or your spouse or your family or your friends or your adventure. I don't know. But listen, the energy you are bringing into it and the mindset you have to improve it is leading that result. And so I'm cheering you on, my friend. As much as I'm like making you look hard at this, I'm like, I want you to improve this area so much. So give yourself that gift of knowing. Either neglect and avoidance are leading to that, and the opposite is giving it enough time, energy and effort, or it might be dissatisfaction. And the opposite is bringing joy to that area, bringing openness, awareness, thoughtfulness, ambition to that area to improve it. Last big area that people really struggle in that like, knocks high performers off their perch or prevents people from becoming a high performer. Is, is this thing called superiority. Talk about a sensitive subject. O M, G superiority. Like, if you feel you're better than other people in that area of your life, that might be why you're struggling to break through to the next level. Because when we feel superior, we stop asking questions. When we stop asking questions, we stop learning. When we stop learning, we stop developing competence in psychology. When we stop developing competence, our confidence goes down. Because there's this thing called the confidence competence loop, right? The more confident you are, the more you're willing to try. The more you're willing to try, the more you learn, the more competent you become. The more competent you become, the more you're going, I got this. So the more competent you are. The confidence competence loop, we call it in the High Performance Institute. So with that known, is there any areas in that whole life assessment where you just frankly stopped asking questions? I've always noticed the lowest performing thing, people avoid it and they stop doing research on it. Right? When I meet people and their health is like a 1 out of 10, they stopped asking questions because isn't it true. There's so much data, so much insight, so much research about how to become healthy these days, but they just neglected it, they parked it, they set their ambitions low because they're dissatisfied there. So they put it over here and now the score is low because they stopped asking questions. And you think, well, stop asking questions related to superiority. Because most people think of superiority as just know it all. Know one thing about the ego is when it tips into superiority, it thinks it knows the answer. And so it says, nope, that's not for me, I can't do it, won't learn it, I'm just this way. The ego loves to say, I'm just this way, can't improve, screw you don't need to listen. Judges things as bad ideas. And superiority's essence is closed mindedness. And a lot of people in the big important areas of their life, they got closed minded. They gave up on their husband, they gave up on their work, they gave up on their family. And hey, listen, maybe that was healthy for them. So I'm not judging it. But what I'm here to say is if we get into a place where we're closed minded or we've already gotten to the conclusion or we've already judged it as possible or not possible. We struggle in our wellness, but also we struggle socially. One reason people fall from the perch of high performance is socially they started judging other people too much. Socially they think they're smarter than other people. Socially, they think other people can't figure things out, but they're so bright. And because we're so good and other people suck, we start poisoning relationships. And when you poison relationships, isn't it true your relationships with yourself and other people causes like this toxicity? And now, I mean, what's the opposite of wellness? Think of like a well, like a deep, pure, beautiful well that feeds into a, you know, a mountain spring. What's the way to ruin that? Poison it with toxic materials. And that's what we do when we hurt our relationships. And the number one way to hurt your relationships is to think you know somebody, to judge their potential, to determine whether they're capable or not. To set a label upon them and close them down forever in your mind because that prevents you from growing and connecting. And if you remember day one, we talked about the importance of connection to your well being because you start disconnecting from other people, then you stop feeling that vibrancy of human relationships that you deserve. And so you have to kind of look at yourself and say, have I been humble? Am I Asking questions in these areas. Have I shut down the possibility or potential of this area? For me, have I shut down the possibility or potential of another person? Those three things that we've talked about so far, neglect, dissatisfaction and superiority tends to really affect people's scores here. And I know this might sound like kind of like an academic way to go on about it, like, geez, Brian, there's a lot of scores here and these frameworks here, but I'm trying to give you new ways to conceive and achieve well being and wellness. Because I really deeply believe that if we can just start pinpointing areas of our life and then as you're gonna learn in the future of this course, setting better intention and setting up better foundations of habits and mindsets, we can start improving those scores and, and listen, on that whole life assessment, the more you start moving those scores ahead right to more positive numbers, and the more they start aligning, the more you feel like, whoa, there's a balance and a truth and a beauty to my life. If one area is poisoned all the time, it can bring down the other areas. Isn't it true? So all I want you to do today, all I want to achieve with you today is give you this framework, have you score yourself and ask that simple question, what, what's one thing I could do in each of these areas to improve it? Now, if you have the high performance planner or you download the tool or you access it here in the course, here's what I want you to tell you. Make this a Sunday practice. You want a wellness practice, Here it is. Every Sunday. Score yourself on your whole life so you never neglect something, so you never forget to think about that important part of your life. I don't want you to turn your next age where there's a zero on the end of the age and go, oh my God, I forgot about my health this last decade. The reason people neglect parts of their life and forget to have progress in them is they took their eye off the ball. They forgot to look at these areas of their life and sometimes neglect. It's not, wasn't purposeful. They got busy and they forgot to think about their family, they forgot to think about like their mission. They forgot to think about extra experiences and creating beauty and adventure in their life. It's easy as you're trying to achieve big things in your life, to take your eye off the ball. But now that you have the whole life assessment in this course or in the High performance Planner, you can measure yourself every single Sunday and go where Am I honest? Where am I really right now in this area. Let me improve it this next week. Here's some goals to improve this area and if we can just improve each of these areas, my friends, we will improve your overall well being and wellness. I hope you enjoyed this session. So as always, please comment in the community. Tell me what you think. I want to know what was your aha. What was your breakthrough? What area are you going to work on? Because I want you, my friend, to give yourself the credit that you can improve these areas. I want to hear it from you. Like brendon, I'm going to improve this area. Don't be like, I'm so sad in this area. I'm like, no, Brendon, I'm going to improve this area. I want you to have that self reliance and that personal power that says I'm the captain of my fate. I can improve this area. I know I can. Because I know you can. I know you can. So give yourself that credit. I'm telling you, my friend, you're stronger than you think and the future holds good things for you.

Okay, my friends, I hope you enjoyed this special section of the wellness masterclass. I'm hoping that you'll just share this with your friends, your family, your loved ones, people who you really care about right now in this time of crisis. Again, if you'd like to actually access the entire course. Course, My entire wellness masterclass course, I'm giving it away free to our global community right now to anyone who goes to HPX wellness.com that's HPX wellness.com and you can access the entire wellness masterclass.

All the videos, all the tools, all.

The resources, the entire course that we charged 100 or 200 for in the past for free as part of our seven day free trial into our courses program. You know, it's a program where every single month I release two new personal or professional development courses for that community every single month. It's the most comprehensive courses program in personal development. A lot of people call it the Netflix of personal development and I would love for you to check it out and we're doing that by giving you away. The wellness masterclass right now for our global community for free@HPX wellness.com.

Hope you enjoyed this episode.

We'll give another section tomorrow. In the meantime, share this with everybody you love. Take care of yourself. Choose to protect your health. Care deeply about your mind, body, your spirit right now. During these times, maintain your emotional center. Remember, you get to choose your focus and your thoughts right now.

You get to set the emotional tone.

For your family, for your friends, for your team, for your community. Right now, how you show up really matters. So care for your health. Be a person who is positive out there.

Take care of others.

You can choose high performance today. You can choose to go beyond ordinary, and you can still be extraordinary even in times of crisis. So do that. My friends. Thanks for listening to the Brandon Show. Please share this episode around the world for me. I'll talk to you.