How to Attract More Love

How do you attract more love into your life? Now, this counts if you have no love in your life or you're already with somebody and you're like, gosh, I wish I could just get more from him. I wish I could get more from her. And how do you pull that energy of love in from another person? How do you elicit it? How do you get it from the universe? All these big questions that people usually talk about when they start speaking about attracting love. Now, for the first and foremost, your initial attention should not be to attract love. It should be to give love. Let's just get that straight out. I'll talk about how to attract it, but come on, let's be real here, that the real force and the real pull of the universe isn't just to hand us something, because if it did, it'd already be there in all the time. And I believe a love is, by the way, at a spiritual level. Absolutely. But I also feel like people go through the motions of their day, you know, and they get caught up and they're easily distracted and they're easily emotional in the positive and negative ways. And, you know, life catches up to them. And so love, if you really want to experience it in your life, you need to get disciplined to put it out there. So let's just start with that. If you want more love, put more out there. That's what's going to, quote, unquote, attract it. Okay, so now we got that covered. Now let me give you four ideas for those who do that. Just give it to me right now. Let me attract it. First and foremost, be open. Be open. Like, what's going to attract something new into our lives is when we have created the white space around us that a new energy could enter. Right. Most people, they say that they are open. You know, well, Brendan, I'm open. I'm a liberal or Brennan, I'm open. I'm a this or I'm open. I'm that. No, no, that's not what I mean. What I mean by openness is that if you think about it, like, spatially, right? Like this room, what makes this room open is the absence of structure. Does that make sense? So in your own life, sometimes all that structure that you're trying to build to perfect things, to organize things, to discipline things, to keep everything great, that structure can also blind you or prevent and block out more coming in. So sometimes you need to be okay, that your routine doesn't have to be perfect, that your habits don't have to be exact, that what you think needs to happen when you go into that networking experience doesn't need to happen. That dinner out with the girls doesn't have to go a specific way. That especially in social situations, you structure less, lower your expectation, lower your anticipation, and instead go in with a full openness and trust to that universe. A full openness and trust of faith that something amazing could come in that you might not have any control about. If you need help on this, go watch that old movie. Was it called Serendipity with John Cusack? And I can't remember the lady's name in that movie, but it was all about like, she was in this. She's going to trust that things are going to come back around. And it's a beautiful thing. So you have to trust that in your social situations that things will come into you. Be open to that possibility of things working out. Here's a simple way to do that. I call it the door frame tag. Anytime I walk into a new door in a social situation, that matters to me, right? I'm walking in to go meet somebody new, to go to a networking event, to go out with my friends into a bar, when I walk through a door frame, I tag, I trigger my mind to say this. What's this gonna be like? There's an enthusiasm. What's this gonna be like? Not like I know what I want and I what's this gonna be like? People who are like, what's this gonna be like? Have higher curiosity, thus they have higher openness and faith and trust that something is gonna. Something cool is gonna happen that's going to draw people into you. Like that anticipation that something good around here is going to happen, that's going to draw people to you, okay? So that openness, that trust, that faith, whatever you want to call it, number two, and this is really important, joy. Nothing is more attractive than when you are in your full element. Your joy of life, that gratitude, that just sense about you that says, I'm happy my life. Because, you know, nothing's less attractive than the person who just always is complaining and moaning and hey, look, it's okay that you're not always happy. This is not about putting a smile on for everybody and faking it. But do everything you can to set up habits and take care of your mind in such a way that you generate more happiness. Happy, beautiful people. You've heard it, right? We're to be vibrant people, we're to be happy people, we're to be joyous people. But that doesn't happen by itself. What we have to do is we have to try. And the reason we have to try is because life gets in the way. There's that jerk who cut you off at work, that person who stole your trust, that person who was mean to you over here. And you have to remember, like, okay, I have to bring the joy for myself. Don't wait for it to enter. Because when you're beautiful, that's when you're joyous. Your beautiful laugh is that one that's true and genuine and joyous in the moment. Joy is spontaneous. It is present. It is something, though we can also learn to cue. We can learn to appreciate that thing that it brings us, joy. That person that said this, that person that did that. Your child walks by. You can use these as cues to remember to be grateful and to feel more joy. The more joyous you are, the more you attract good energy into your life. I think the third big piece is, and I know I said the word earlier, just try. And what I mean by try is try with other people again. I watch people talk at lunch. They're not really trying to be engaged. They're not really there. And it's great that they're comfortable with themselves, but they've kind of. They're going through the motions, and very few things ever happen. Amazing when people are two people are just going through the motions. Because our default going through the motions, unless it's imbued by, like, challenge or presence or vibrancy, usually our default is homeostasis of just like. Yeah. And that is not very attractive. Okay? That is not. Something gets people's attention. What people get people's attention is when you put an effort to listen to them, to be with them, to be present with them, to change the energy between the two of you for you to spark something. Stop waiting for good energy to come into your life and start generating great energy. And you'll feel the difference. Try with your energy again, right? Really pay attention to people. Be present with them. They'll feel that you're trying and they'll appreciate it. Not saying faking, right? So if it's not authentic and real, don't do it. But you must try more often to show up as your best self into conversations and to try and pull out the best of others. I think the most sexy thing in a person ever is someone who's trying to pull out the best energy from you, right? Whether they're trying to pull out the flirtation of you or pull out the joy of you or the gratitude of you or that positive Range of emotions from you, that's pretty sexy. So try to bring out the best of others. And then I guess the last piece is be willing to spend more time with people. I think a lot of people who struggle attracting people into their life is because they're so transactional with their relationships and so quick with them. You know, let's grab a quick bite to eat, okay? And they go to fast food together and they leave. Like, sit and enjoy your time with people. As you enjoy more time with people, they want to introduce you to more of their people. Your network expands. As your network expands and people meet you in a place where you are open. They meet you in a place where you are joyous. They meet you where they can tell that you're trying and you're spending quality time with them. They start introducing more people into your network, and all of a sudden you've got more people referring more people to you, and you attract more people. And guess what the odds are out of those more people, you will also meet that one. Find that love. And if you already got that love, all these same rules apply, my friend. Could you be more open in your relationship? Maybe for too long you've been too fixed about how things need to go. Could you bring more joy in that relationship and stop waiting for him to take out the garbage or waiting her to be perfect and just give them joy? Could you try a little bit more to be a good husband, a good wife, a good girlfriend, good boyfriend? And could you give a little more quality time to them? I bet if you did those things, you'd start to feel like you've attracted love without realizing what you've done is you've put out the very thing that you so desperately desire. And so it came to you. I hope that serves the. There's a lot of love in this world. It's there spiritually. It's there all the time. It's in our heart all the time. Now we just need to amplify it if we wish to attract it. I hope you've enjoyed this and you always live in the charge life. Hey, my friend, it's Brendan. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Do me two favors. Number one, subscribe. Subscribe to this channel so that you continue to get updates every time I release new training for you. 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