How to Avoid Burnout

Hello my friends. I'm Brendon Burchard, host of the Brendon show and founder of growthday.com and I'm honored to be your high performance coach today. I believe that every day we can be inspired. We can live with intention and purpose. We can bring the joy and honor the struggles of each day to push ourselves to grow, to serve, to be a role model, to lead extraordinary lives. I believe that every day is a great day to grow. That's why I started my company, growthday.com it's an online personal growth platform where you can get me and the world's best personal development teachers live coaching you every week, sharing our wisdom, keeping you motivated and accountable, encouraging you to find the aliveness and the connection and meaning of life that we're all after. If you're not a member yet, please go sign up@growthday.com and join our huge worldwide community of achievers. For less than a dollar a day, you get the world's best teachers live every week. And look, you've probably known for a long time that you needed some expert guidance, an inspired community and life changing tools. So please, your breakthrough awaits you@growthday.com now let's get to today's episode. My friends, please listen closely. Maybe you take some notes so you remember these insights of personal growth and share this episode with three of your friends because we all have to share more positive messages in the world today. So share this with three friends just like you who are committed to their personal growth. And also be sure to tag me or DM me on Instagram. Rendon Burchard, Join our million plus community there on Instagram so I can say hi. Thanks again for listening. Now let's begin. Are you the helpful burnout, the person who's always saying, hey, let me in, let me help, let me add value, let me be of service to other people. But sometimes you find yourself compromising your own well being, your own sanity, your own agenda, your own life. Do you feel like you go from relationship to relationship and you're the most helpful one in it and you don't get enough back? Or sometimes you're working and you're just giving and giving and giving and you feel like you fall off any self care, you fall off your own routines and you feel like you're blending those boundaries too much between life, between work, between relationships where you just go, I'm losing myself here a little bit in the mixture. First off, don't worry, happens for all of us at some point because if You're a person of service, if you're a giver, if you have high degrees of kindness and compassion. Wanting to serve and give others is a great, compelling need and a don't stop doing that. See, people think they have to stop doing that and then they get themselves in trouble because then their heart says, I want to give more. So it's not about stopping that. It's about achieving a greater level of balance. Now everyone today says, well, Brendan, you know, life balance isn't possible. You don't understand. I go, no, no, no, life balance is possible. The only reason people believe it's not is because so many people have failed at it that it's become a cultural meme to say it's not possible. But believe me, millions of people have found balance and they're doing just fine. Maybe you just don't hear about them as much because they're not out there complaining. But you can do it. You can find that secret magic of how much can I give without burning out my life or taking away from my own needs. So let's talk through that. First big idea is you need to make sure you are clear on what your needs are. What really are your needs and your priorities that you don't want to compromise or fall out of balance from. Lots of people will find themselves completely out of balance or burned out. And they're like, I don't know why? And I'll say, well, what did you want? And they're not sure. It's just like goals, right? You ask people, you know, what is it you don't want to deal with anymore in life? And they have a big long list. But then say, what do you want of life? And they go, I don't know. And so if you're not clear on what you do want for your own practices, for your own habits, for your own well being. If there's a list somewhere that says, this is kind of what I want my life to be like, my days to be like. These are habits and routines that I value, that I prioritize, that are big and important to me. If you don't have that list written down somewhere, then it's not real and your day will be continued to be defined by randomness, not routine. The more it's driven by randomness, the more it is you blend and bleed over the lines between work, career, serving others, serving your own well being. So make sure it's written down somewhere. These are things that are important to me. Second, you need to know where you really add value and where it is that you add value that matters because I bet a lot of people ask you for a lot of things. And as we talk to high performers, high level achievers, they're always the ones who get asked to do the most because they're good. And when you get someone who's good, they're constantly overwhelmed with requests. So it's important for that person who's good, the achiever, to know what's your role? Where do you add value the most? And be really clear on that, like, where do you really add value the most? And all the other things that come along. You say, I can't focus on those things. I'm going to focus on these big moving pieces that I know I add the most value to and these other pieces. That's not for me. It's very, very important. Because just like not having a list of what's important to you, not having knowledge of what you're best at makes you do everything else. And now it's where you get the, you know, very senior executive doing tiny little admin things versus focusing on their unique ability or their strengths. Hey, it's Brandon jumping back in here again. Are you looking to go to the next level in your life right now? The next level of joy, abundance, success? Then you already know that you need to journal about your lessons learned in your life. You got to track your moods and your habits. You have to learn from the best personal development coaches and teachers in the world. And you got to stay inspired and accountable so that you can be more focused, disciplined, joyous and keep growing. That's what the Growth Day app is going to help you to do, my friend. It's the world's first all in one personal development app. It has all of the tools you need, all the coaching and the community that you need to level up, to progress every week, to track your breakthroughs and to keep growing in every area of your life consistently over the long term. So go start your transformation right now@growthday.com or just download the Growth Day app on your phone right now. Every day. You can keep improving every day. We are here for you. And every day is truly a great day to grow together. So let's make self improvement a way of life. Let's make that self improvement stick. Go to growthday.com right now. Third, big idea. Say no. Say no early say no Often, once you know those first two things. Anything that butts up against them, that's going to mess up with your values, your priorities, your routines, your habits or is not going to contribute to the value you really add, that's a no. It's got to be an automatic no. A first time no, an immediate no. Don't trudge around going, oh, you know, I'll tell them someday, I don't want to do this. It's no. Because the way to set boundaries is with a no. It's not with a yes to, and then I'll explain later. It's you teaching yourself and giving yourself permission to value yourself and value the value that you're capable of adding by saying no to everything else that comes your way. Look, if you say no and the person who you're trying to serve, or the company you're trying to serve, or the cause or the mission or the relationship that you're trying to serve doesn't like it, and they can make a great case why that you could figure out a way to do it well and do it without distraction to your life and still add value. Great. But if they can't make the case, it stays a no. I always tell people the higher levels that you get in achievement and success and fulfillment in your life, the more you should say no at the beginning. You know, you're just starting out and you're new to any opportunity. Everything is yes because you're trying to learn, you're trying to acquire skill, you're trying to make money. But once you've learned you've acquired some skill, you made money. More people rely on you, more people ask for things from you. The automatic first answer should almost always be no. Until you can justify. Until they can justify. Make yourself or make other people make the case why you should make yes to things. And if you can't make it and they can't make it, it's a no. Trust me, this will save your day. And last little simple one, have a weekly honesty session. My sessions are on Sunday. Every Sunday I sit and I journal a lot about my life and my week. And one of the honesty things is did I protect my boundaries? It's a question I ask myself every Sunday. Did I protect my boundaries this week? And I'll just think about where did I felt like I just kind of went over or I extended myself, I didn't recover, I didn't take time, I didn't complete that routine, that habit, that project that was important to me. And by having a weekly check in, it makes you more focused and diligent when those things come up. The reason a lot of people hit burnout isn't because it's a sudden thing. It happens because it's week after week after week after week after week after week after week of compromising yourself. So if you're checking in each week, it's more likely that you're going to stop that and say, oh, my gosh, look how poorly I managed this week. Look how poorly I failed to. You know, I didn't say no. Look how many places I took on new things today or this week that I shouldn't have. You need a weekly accountability moment, whether it's journaling, talking to a friend, talking to your life coach, your certified high performance coach, talking to somebody who can say, sounds like you're overextending yourself, or where you can write and look and say, I took on too many projects this week. And if you'll do these four things, you'll start to find it's much more likely that you say, like, ah, my life is in balance. Ah, I am happy with the amount of work I'm doing, with the amount I'm giving to this relationship versus just feeling like everybody's taking away from me. It's on you. You own your life. Nobody else is going to make it great. You got to set the stake in the ground, set your boundaries, do things that you know are true to you, that add value, that protect your life and ultimately make your greatest difference along the way. Okay, my friend, I hope you enjoyed this episode of the Brendon Show. Thank you. Tell some people about this episode. 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