How to be Happier

Welcome to the Charged Life. This is Brendan Burchard. I'm always amazed by all these people who say that they're unhappy in their lives and they act as if happiness is this big, mysterious force that is, you know, difficult to figure out. Happiness is one of the most studied areas of human endeavor in the history of the world. I mean, when you look at psychology and you look at philosophy, this is all I've been talking about for literally centuries. It's unbelievable. So we figured out the basics of happiness. It's that sometimes common sense isn't common practice, so people struggle for no reason. I mean, look at what we know about happiness. We know, basically, happiness usually comes from an orientation towards the world in which we look at the past, the present, and the future in specific ways. We often tend to look at the past with gratitude and with fond recollection. Even if there were struggles, challenges, suffering, turmoil, we find our places in the past and we feel a sense of acceptance about the past. It happened. It's good. All things were as they were and today they are as they shall be. And it's being okay with whatever the past is. Finding a peace and acceptance and. And a gratitude there allows us to be a little more free in the present. And being in the present, what makes us happy? Being engaged in whatever we are really doing. I mean, really engaged in it. Mentally engaged in what we are doing each day. You know, where we're challenging ourselves just a little bit. You know, where we're finding something we're passionate about, interested in, and challenging ourselves to bring our full conscious presence to the moment, to develop awareness. Right. Almost all spiritual sort of texts and teachers and trainers or are always trying to help people become just more present in the moment, more accepting of the world as it is. But here, you know, the power of now stuff, right? It's like, get here, be here, be engaged, be present with the moment, and then with the future. It's all about anticipating with excitement what's to come in the future. Even if the future is scary, even if you know there's still gonna be hardship, because there will be. Even if you know there's gonna be struggle, Yep, there will be too. But finding your marks, what are you excited about for tomorrow? And if you can't. If you can't find anything to be excited about tomorrow, that has nothing to do with the reality of tomorrow. It has to do with your mindset. You've poisoned yourself in pools of pessimism for so long that you've drowned yourself of hope that you've forgotten that there is magic to life, that there is something. Tomorrow you could find something. Even if tomorrow you're just gonna say, you know what, tomorrow I'm gonna get up, I'm gonna feel better. Just come and decide to be. Be excited about that. You know, tomorrow I'm gonna go do something nice for somebody to. Tomorrow I'm getting focused into this one project I've been waiting to do. Tomorrow I'm going to make the damn bed, whatever it is. Find something to be excited about for tomorrow. That's the basics of everything we know about your emotional world and your mental world of happiness. So simple, right? Be accepting, at peace with the past. Be present and engaged here in the present. And be excited. Anticipate something for the future. But we've also learned, what does it take to be happy and healthy physically? Well, you don't need this one. This is again, common sense not being applied to common practice. What does it take to be happy and emotionally healthy? Physically healthy? Well, physically healthy is easy, right? It's sleep your eight hours. Drink more water. Make sure that you take breaks throughout the day to break your concentration, to stand up, not sit hunched over all day, right? It's work out two, three, four times a week. Okay? Simple. Get outside, move around a little bit. Eat more greens. Avoid the sugars and the caffeines. Avoid the things that make you up and then crash you down. Avoid the white starchy things. Avoid the food groups that you find you're allergic to. We all know this. But what's so easy? Common sense isn't common practice. Cause we're hungry. Pizza. It's like, come on. Like, happiness. And being physically happy is very simple and easy. You're just not doing it consistent enough if you don't feel physically enlivened and vibrant. You know, another thing that people often struggle with their happiness is their relationships. And I'm like, really? People are still struggling that bad? And I'm not saying relationships aren't hard, but are you applying the common sense, common things that we know from years and years and years of relationship advice? Are you present with your loved one? Are you appreciative and adoring of them? Are you giving them the benefit of the doubt? Are you realizing that it's you in the relationship with them, fully interdependent, they aren't causing the problem separate of you, that the two of you are in a dance together in which you have to honor and respect each other, that you have to make life fun for each other. If your marriage isn't stale. It's not because the marriage is stale. It's because you and the other person allow each other to go stale. You got to fire each other up again, right? What about spirituality? Well, everything we know in spirituality comes back down to the basics. To having faith, to having a sense of connection to something larger than ourselves. To allow ourselves to be amazed and awed by the mystery of the world, of this universe, of our God, of our Creator, to be honoring of those very things in which we have faith towards. None of this is magic. It's about the looking at your life sometimes and just doing maybe a full scale evaluation on a Sunday, once in a while, look at your life and say, okay, all right. Am I emotionally happy? If not, how am I looking at the past, the present and the future? Am I physically healthy? If not, how am I eating? How am I sleeping? How am I working out? Am I doing the basics here? If your relationships aren't happy, then the answer is okay. What is not happening in the relationship? What am I not bringing to this relationship anymore? How am I not sensing and contributing to this relationship anymore? What have I not asked for consistently enough? What is it that they specifically need that might turn it around and spiritually just to feel gratitude? Aren't we so blessed, aren't we so blessed to have these moments that you get to be here listening to me now, listening to just ideas and concepts about improving our lives? How blessed are we to be at this time in our lives where so fast and so easily digitally I could be sharing some ideas and thoughts with you. How blessed are we that we do have people who are around us? How blessed are we that we could give more love to the world just because we choose to? How best are we that we can get up tomorrow, decide who we are going to be and start becoming that? How blessed are we that we can wake up tomorrow and start designing the life we always wanted to live. Hey everyone, it's Brendan. Did you like this episode? Be sure to subscribe to the next one and tell a friend about us. If you want free books and world class training on motivation and high performance, visit me@Brendan Burchard.com and enter your name and email for our newsletter list. Until next time, stay charged and go out there every day of your life and live fully, love openly and make your difference today. Sam.