How to Be Self-Reliant

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Let's talk about personal responsibility and self reliance. Have you ever met somebody who just drives you nuts because you're like, why are they not more responsible? And it drives you insane. Or, or, you know, somebody who just, I mean, they just, for whatever reason, cannot stand on their own in life. You're like, could you please make a decision? You know, you go to dinner with somebody like, I don't know, honey, can you tell me what to order? And you're like, ah, right. Now, we all know somebody like that, and some of us have been guilty in some parts of our lives of being that type of person. So let's dial this in. What does personal responsibility really mean and what happens in our lives when we have it? Well, I personally feel that when we are more personally responsible for our own lives, life blooms. A magic enters our life. Not just the magic of confidence and certainty in who we are, but a sense of total truth with what life is supposed to be for ourselves. We are not meant to be victims or apathetic people laying around hoping that something comes along and changes our lives. Because only two things change our lives. Either something new does come into our life and it changes our direction, changes our insight, changes who we are. Maybe we win the lottery, or that lucky white knight comes in and saves your life, you know, or something new comes from within you. And I think what that thing is that comes from within us, that's so powerful, that retakes our life, what is that magic? It's personal responsibility. I know, that's so simple. It's like almost like. It doesn't sound sexy to say, be responsible for your life. But I think we have five main responsibilities in our lives. And if we take control of each of these areas of our lives, like a new power comes into our life, a new joy and zest, and I would argue more over time, success, connection, joy, love, abundance come along with it. That first thing that we are personally responsible for is our aim, right? Our ambition, our desire, our goal, our dream. I just call it our aim. You know, successful people, they kind of look out there and they say, what is it that I desire of my life? And they go for it. You know, they've set an intention, they have set a direction for who they are and where they're going and what is meaningful to them, who they want to have along with them. I mean, their aim is extraordinarily tight. I mean, they really do see where they're going and what they want. They don't always know the full picture. They just kind of know, I want to be like this, I want to do things like this. And they start along that path. And because they're following their own path, even if they don't know where exactly it goes, they're living the adventurous life. You know, they're entering a new phase of their life where they truly feel like this journey is their own versus just being carried along by their parents or their professors or their peers or their co workers. It's their own. They have their own aim in life. I think we have to take control of that. I think tonight would be a good time for you to sit down and say, okay, what is it I want in the major areas of my life? What is it I truly have an aim and ambition for in my work life, in my relationships, in my sense of spiritual and emotional self, in my physical health and vitality, you know, my overall direction in life, you know, what do you want next week to be about? And if you don't know, then you are, quote, unquote, aimless. And when you're aimless, it's pretty easy to feel pretty lost. You know, it's like you kind of wander around and the world is a big, full, big wilderness. That's why in Montana, we always say the time to have the map is before you entered the woods. You know, the world's a big thicket of crazy throngs of people who have all their wants and their wills. And if you don't have your own direction, if you have not set your own life agenda, they will set one for you. So you have to direct your own aim. The second thing you have to direct is your attention. Where is your attention going each moment of the day? Right. The ability to be fully present is really just guiding one's attention to this moment. Giving ourselves an alertness and attention, an awareness to the very now that we are experiencing. Right? That's power. When you are more attentive to your life, to the moments that you experience is amazing. But attention also applies to what are we paying attention to overall in our life? And most of us are being guided, again, by the aims of others. So we are taken from our own attention of what we should be focusing on and stripped away into the distractions of the world. Most people's attentions are not being. They're not paying attention to what they should be paying attention to based on their goals, their desires, their dreams, or their demands and responsibilities of life. They're paying attention to the distraction that showed up. I'm just saying, you know, sometimes we really. We're gonna accomplish a lot and go where we want to in our lives and really sense the fullness of this moment, we have to guard our attention from all the garbage that can come in and sweep it away. I think the third thing that we are absolutely responsible for in our lives, and when we take responsibility of this thing, life absolutely explodes in joy. And that's our attitude. How are you meeting life? Are you meeting life energized and alive and buoyant and excited and enthusiastic and positive? You can't wait for the next moment to unfold? Or are you like, well, here we go again. And you know these people, have you seen them? I see them watch people when they walk down the street, Damn light. It's like they're so upset. It's like their attitude stinks so bad that I can't stand to be around them. It's just like they're just. Just emanating nasty, dark, bad energy in the world. And why? Because they chose to. And some people say, no, Brendan, no one would choose that. Yeah, they did. They chose to have a bad attitude just enough over a period of time that became part of their personality, that their attitude now is just fixed. It is closed. It is angry, upset, or bordering on the negative emotional qualities of life rather than realizing the incredible magic and experience that we all have available to us each and every single moment of the day. There's a lot of magic around here, you know? And when you sense that when your attitude is open, you're allowing yourself to learn. When your attitude is open, you're allowing yourself to connect with other people. When your attitude is open. Finding happiness isn't something you do. You create it. You choose the attitude of happiness. You don't have to have happiness. You generate. You don't have to have good energy today. You generate it. I always say the power plant doesn't have energy. It generates energy. And you yourself are generating an attitude. It was not fixed on you. Everything we've learned in psychology over the years that you can literally change your attitude just by controlling your thoughts and directing them in a new, positive, healthy, social ways. Why not do that? You all deserve to have a good attitude. It's a choice. Just like happiness is a choice, It's a choice. Choose to have a good attitude.

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Sam.