How to Build Greater Connections

We have all these goals to become the millionaire and the billionaire now. And no one has any friends. You think I'm kidding? You know how many really successful people, I mean really successful people who. They forgot that part. We live in a lonely epidemic. And you know, we blame loneliness. Have you seen the media vilify loneliness? As if loneliness is a problem. Loneliness is not a problem. Loneliness is a consequence of practices. That's all it is. Loneliness is not a disorder. It's a symptom of bad practices. We all want connection. Connection. Now we want connection, usually on three different levels. We want connection with ourself. Like the human drive to know thyself is legend. We want to connect with others and we want to connect with something bigger. Presence, universe, God, spirit, something like that. Whether it's scientists staring off into the stars and the universes to try to understand our place in it, whether it's physics or spirituality at the same thing. There's something for all of us beyond in some way. And so as we try to understand those things, it's important to know that's really important. And most people don't understand how huge this is in personal development. On the relationship side, we want deep, meaningful relationships. Deep, meaningful, Let me add it alive, authentic relationships. And you have to build those. You have to what? Build those. You gotta build them. Oh my gosh, do you have to build them? If you don't have five amazing friends, five great friends. I want you to do the best gift to yourself ever. We showed All Access with Growth Day. I want you to get that. I want you to upgrade to All Access and I want you to go to the Learn section. I'll show it to you tomorrow, I'm sure. And I want you to go if you didn't know. You can go to the learn section and you can sort by coach or sort by topic. The past classes. We have 200 classes in there from literally the best in the world, the best teachers in the world. And I want you to go and sort by friendship. I know it sounds so crazy, but it was one of our most popular months we ever did on how as adults to make great friends. Because many people don't have any new great friends after college. Many people have one friend and they have no deep, meaningful, alive, authentic friendship groups. Do you know what we used to say? Friendship groups. Did you know that in the research pre 1960s it was friendship groups was a big concern of sociology and study. You remember used to say peer groups. You all heard that phrase. No one says it anymore in research now it's a friend. It's bowling alone. It's single experiences of life. Now it's a headset where you're imagining other people there and there's other people in the other rooms around you to go talk to. We've lost that real connection. But I hope, if anything here, I hope you meet somebody awesome here at Grote who's met somebody awesome at Groethe already. Would you keep in touch with each other? I hope you will. I want you to challenge yourself. Everyone's like, oh, Brendan's selling something. I am. I am selling challenge. If you want to know what I'm selling here, I'm selling challenge. I want you to challenge yourself again. I want you to get back in the charge. I want you to be more conscious. I want you to get in that called zone. I want you to feel so much different. And my challenge to you is to dramatically improve your relationships. I mean, to put that aliveness and that authenticity and that depth in. It's not about having 10 more. It's about deeper relationships. Real fun, engaging, heartfelt, loving relationships. I want you to have those. I want you to. And here, listen. Some of you have money goals and you never set a goal for that. Some of you, you haven't had that as a goal for a while. You just got into adulthood and you were doing the adulting thing with the job and the career and the kids and everything. And. And you have casual acquaintances, right? You go walking the thing with kids and the mom and everybody else. You got the, you know, you got the. You got the crew from the neighborhood. You meet at the Starbucks once in a while and you're kind of casual about it. Hey, you're cool, you're cool. We know each other. Our kids hang out. They're kind of friends or whatever. And it's so surface level that you're wondering what the hell is life about. You need friends who are alive and authentic and deep and engaging with you. You need like, you know, I call ultra friends all the time. It's like, have you met my friends? I mean, they are ultra. They are funny. They're up in your grill. They are. I mean, none of them are in my industry like my closest friends. Like, I met them long time ago in San Francisco or in college. They are funny. My current friends in the industry, some of you guys see it on social media. Like everybody in my industry, we're friends. We get together just to be together. I mean, the rooms that we get together, I'm just like, how do you do that I'm like, oh, everyone thinks it's a trick. I'm like, no, Amazing people want to be with amazing people. That's why we're all here in Austin. Can I get a hell yes? Yeah. 10% after checking is like, you're amazing connection. You're dying for it. Find it, build it. But please listen to me. I'm sharing something with you. Please listen. Because we think that the most successful, happy people in the world are doing crazy things. These are practices for them. They're what? And they're how often you got it. Daily practices to connect. This is why I send out three voice messages to three different people every single day, praising them, often telling a joke, recounting an old story, rekindling that relationship, saying, thank you, cheering them on. I saw you got this going on online. I hope you're being great. I'm praying for you, you know, and. And I've generated that so many times with so many people that even at this event, I got so many texts from people who I haven't heard from or seen in years, writing me these long. Brennan, I'm praying for you to have the strength and the energy to serve your people. I know how hard that is for that many hours. And just these beautiful notes cheering me on because I send it to them. Even people I haven't talked to for a while. I'm that guy who shows up in your life, and we hadn't talked for five years. I still remember everything. We have this great time together. I want you to be that for other people. Like, we have all these goals to become the millionaire and the billionaire now, and no one has any friends. You think I'm kidding? Do you know how many really successful people, I mean, really successful people who. They forgot that part? And I had mentorship. I didn't find this out, you know, by myself. Like, everything I'm teaching you here, I had the blessing. I came up, you know, seeking out psychologists and personal development people and history people and business people. And, I mean, I learned from all the best. And. And I remember one time, Brian Tracy. You remember Brian Tracy? Oh, Brian, he's so amazing. And he taught me this. He said, you know how. He said, brendan, you know how some people say it's lonely at the top? I said, yeah. He goes, if you're lonely at the top, you did it wrong. I was like, I love that you should never be lonely. We live in a lonely epidemic. And, you know, we blame loneliness. Have you seen the media vilify loneliness? As if loneliness is a Problem. There's this old thing called cause and effect, right? Loneliness is not a problem. Loneliness is a consequence of practices. That's all it is. Loneliness is not a disorder. It's a symptom of bad practices. And no one wants to say that today because that sounds rude. I'm like, wait, no, no, loneliness doesn't happen to somebody. Like we forget to being response able for our relationships. I want you to have vibrant relationships. Go, I mean, go home and just have like the most amazing connection with your spouse ever. I'll talk a lot about that on Saturday. About how to do that in your relationships. Unbelievable. Have unbelievable, deep connected, intimate, loving, physical relationships with your spouse or your partner. Have incredible, authentic, alive, fun, joyful relationships and conversations with your friends. Can we make that a goal? Yes. I promise you. I promise you. I just changed your life. All human beings, what we really desire, once we get past safety and sustenance are these four aspirations. We want a greater sense of aliveness. That might mean presence, consciousness, awareness, vibrancy, passion, enthusiasm. We all want more of that. Some people call it adventure, some people call it just the spice of life or joie de vivre. Whatever it is, we want a sense of aliveness. The second aspiration we talked about was deep connections. That means your relationships. At the end of our lives, it's the relationships that matter so much to us. And we know from research that the deeper relationships you have, the longer we live. Third, meaningful pursuits. Some people get this through creating, some people get this through service. But I'm here to tell you the important phrase here is meaningful pursuits. You have to pursue something. We all want to get better, to become more, to be a better leader, a parent servant role model. That sense each day that we have something to do that matters. Growth day. World's number one system for achieving it. We know from research. To improve your life long term, you gotta track your habits. You need a mindset journal. You gotta have a goal setting system. You need deep dive education. You need coaching. You've got to have ongoing conversations with other people about your personal and your professional goals. Our goal for you is to help you make self improvement a way of life. By giving you things that give you the guidance, the inspiration, the drive and the motivation to continue becoming more and more successful, healthy and happy in your life. Every day is a great day to grow. We say that every day in growth day. Let's make this day the day you begin that journey.