How to Develop Discipline

Stop saying yes to everything under the sun. Stop putting more and more on your plate when you can't handle what you already got. Babe, we gotta go. No, no, no. If I want to be disciplined, I gotta choose a few things, say no to the rest, delegate the rest, and do what is here. You don't lack discipline. You're taking on too much discipline. I'm gonna share four ideas with you today. How do I stay so disciplined? And I'm not saying that for me, because I'm like, I'm so disciplined and perfect. I get asked this by all of my clients. They're like, gosh, I need more discipline in my life. I'm like, okay, well, let's talk through what that means and how you achieve it. If you want to show up for something, be consistent. Be committed to something. How do you develop that discipline for something? I think there's four simple things. Number one, you must know your outcome. How can you possibly be focused or disciplined if you don't know the outcome you're after? Most people don't lack focus or discipline. They lack clarity. That would give them the focus and the discipline. That's why the first high performance habits is seek clarity. We learned it from our research. Right. Well, an outcome. What am I after here? What's the goal? What's the tangible or intangible thing that I know when I get there, when I see that, feel that, experience that, achieve that? That's what I'm after here, Some kind of outcome. You won't stay disciplined unless you can see, feel, sense, acknowledge intellectually what the outcome is we're after. If you're not disciplined on a consistent basis, it's because you don't know what you want. So don't beat yourself up that you're lazy. You just need to make a decision. You need to make a decision about what it is that you want. And it doesn't have to be what you want for your whole life. Your ultimate grand purpose in the cosmos of the destiny of universe. No, no. What do you want by Friday? What do you want by the end of the month? What do you want this quarter? It's like. Start there. If you're really confused about the next five years of your life, please start with the next five weeks of your life. Come on. People don't understand. Clarity is built upon. You don't have the epiphany where everything is perfect. Very few people ever have a complete perfect picture, epiphany, moment of everything coming together in life. Very few people. Very few people. Instead Usually what happens is, as we move throughout our lives, we get a little more clarity. What we like and what we don't like. What draws passion and strength and contribution and what doesn't. Know your outcome. You want discipline, know your outcomes. Number two, schedule. There is no discipline without a schedule. It's so easy. If your calendar doesn't have anything in it the next six weeks, don't be mad at yourself for lacking discipline. No one shows up on day go. It's discipline day and has nothing to do. Discipline requires the schedule. So fill out your schedule. Work the schedule. Fill out the schedule. Work the schedule. Fill out the schedule. Works. As you fill out your schedule and you work the schedule, you get more self trust. With that self trust comes confidence. From that confidence comes more competence. We gain more mastery and we're in the game more. We feel good about ourselves. The progress mind loves it, eats it up. It's like, hey, we're doing it. We said we were gonna do it. We did it. We moved towards our outcome today. With a schedule. What an idea, right? But you and I both know it's easy to get off track with this. So number three, you wanna be more disciplined, you're gonna have to delegate more. You wanna be more disciplined to what really matters for you. You're gonna ask for assistance, for help. You're gonna have to build the team. You're gonna have to socially engage people to support your focus. It's just real. Like, every writer I know who's become a major writer has assistance, meaning they get something. Their spouse, their partner, their agent, a personal assistant. Somebody is helping with a part of their life so they can focus on that thing. It's hard to be a disciplined writer if you're doing everything under the sun. You need time to be able to write, which means there's some things you can't handle by yourself. And you're going to delegate that. And if you're like, well, Brennan, I don't have anyone to delegate to, then I'm like, then stop saying yes to everything under the sun. Stop putting more and more on your plate when you can't handle what you already got. Babe, we got to go. No, no, no. If I want to be disciplined, I got to choose a few things, say no to the rest, delegate the rest and do what is here. You don't lack discipline. You're taking on too much. You don't lack discipline, you're taking on too much. Or you don't have a schedule, or you don't know your outcome. Outcome. Schedule. Delegation. And last thing is, I think this is really a critical thing for us in aliveness and fulfillment and connection in our lives. Often we don't have discipline because we've set up no reward and reflection in our life. And what I'm always trying to tell my highest performers, reflection is a reward. Reflection, it's a reward like sitting down and allowing your processing mind to think of all that you've been through and how beautiful it was and how grateful you are for it. We don't lack discipline because discipline feels like always the grind. Unless we stop the grind once in a while, look back, go, wow, look how far I came. Let me celebrate this small win. Let me take myself out to dinner tonight. Let me write down a few of the things I've learned and share them. Let me give thanks or prayer or meditation towards the great things that have been happening for me. I think as soon as we realize that, it's just a whole different experience of life. I'm disciplined because to me, discipline, being disciplined doesn't sound like I'm disciplining myself. What it means is I am reflecting and rewarding myself for my progress. It's so important for you to hear me say this. If you're lacking discipline, probably is because you've never rewarded yourself. You've never reflected on how far you've come. You still think you're the same as you were in your 20s and your 30s. It's like you've come so far and you're still thinking like that kid, because you let your protecting mind, your processing mind, your progressing mind run rampant without the peace practices, without those moments of purpose. If you want to be disciplined this month, know your outcome, put it on the schedule, delegate it, or say no. And fourth, reflect, reward yourself. I do my again with my high performance planner. I do my weekly reflection in every major area of my life. I just look at it and I think, oh, what a blessing. This is going good. Or, oh, I could do better here. And the reward is the reflection. The reward to me is learning. The reward is developing competency. Reward doesn't have to mean I have this much more in my bank account or these many more people following me. The reward is I am growing growth days. To me, discipline requires growth days, having the growth days and rewarding and celebrating, reflecting upon the growth days. I am disciplined because I have gotten so many hits of joy and learning by pushing myself as a growth day. But reflecting on those growth days to do all that, that was a good day. What did I learn about myself and I'm growing every day. So discipline gets easier. Discipline gets way easier. As you engage growth more discipline gets hard. When you went a season without even thinking about yourself, taking care of yourself, not sleeping, poisoning your body, not engaging in personal development instead of just engaging everybody's dramas, and now you're exhausted. You know when it's hard to be disciplined? When you're exhausted. So you take care of yourself. You recognize it, you reward it, you delegate it, or say no. All of these things, I hope, will help you have an awesome march. Sa.