How to have more FUN in life

How do you have more fun in your life? You know, this is about the fully charged life. We're always talking about that. And the qualities of a fully charged life is a life that's more engaging, you know, more enthusiastic, more energized. And a lot of that comes from having more fun. You know, I'm happy in my life. I finally reached a point where I feel like I'm having fun all the time, you know, And I had to realize how that happens for people. You don't quote, unquote, just have fun. You have to generate fun. As you've heard me say over and over and over before, the power plant doesn't have energy. It transforms and generates energy. If you want more fun in your life, you're gonna have to generate more fun. You're gonna have to have more of attention and intention to create fun and silly and ridiculous and humorous and just joyous moments. So what are some ways you can do that? Well, first and foremost, realize most great fun in life comes from an immersion in the moment. It requires presence. You know, it's like so many people are so their attention is a million different places. But have you ever been at a restaurant and you got your four or five friends around and you all are just riffing, like you're just having fun. You're all kicking around ideas and telling funny stories, and the phones are off, the four or five of you gathered around, or maybe the two or three of you just gather around telling stories, and you're all immersed in that moment in immersion. Joy arises in immersion. Humor can perpetuate in immersion in the moment. In presence of the now, you have access to a greater level of energy and awareness all around you that now you can really translate, transform into fun. So you have to begin by having an intention. Each day, say I. I'm be present in my moments. Today, I'm present in everything that I do, Present in my conversations with people, present in the tasks that I do. Because in that presence, more passion can come to a light and more fun can be had. It begins with having intention to immerse. The second thing is to realize, well, what is fun for you? Right? I know that's so basic, but can you really think of, I mean, if I asked you right now, and be honest, if I ask you, what are the top 10 most fun times you've had in your life? Do they come easily to you? See, for most people, it doesn't. They're like, well, that was that time that I went on a roller coaster and I jumped out of a plane or, you know, that time I was at a wedding and I danced like a chicken. You know, like, they really struggle. And partially what happens for people is they just go through life kind of bumbling and crashing around, and they never have any real reflection on what brought them joy, happiness, engagement, enthusiasm, fun. So what I do is when I have a fun moment, I'm a big journaler. As many of you know, I'm always encouraging at the end of your day, journal about things that you're grateful for, things that you desire, cool things or inspiring things you saw people say or do. Just journal about your life, about philosophy, whatever it is. But I like to write at night and I always try to write also a component of what was fun. Today I reflect on what was fun. So for me, you know, I've got so many access points, so many references of what was fun in my life. It's just immediate that I know the things that bring me great joy because I've thought about them. So do you have your fun list, things that bring you great joy and great fun in your life? And you know what? Those should be your to do list. Because here's what people do. Their to do lists every day are tasks, not life. And that's why they're miserable. They've gotten lost into the minutiae of what must happen versus who they could be that day. And that's where their life starts to derail and they lose that charge. It's so magical in life. So what's your fun list? You know, what are those things that you could do that would bring great joy and fun into your life and do them more often and automatically you're having more fun. A third thing you can do that's so simple. That's so simple is write down what is not fun for you and quickly and efficiently and with honor, integrity, to the utmost ability that you can remove those things for your life. If you're doing things that just are not fun for you, you have to ask, can I delegate those? Are those truly necessary? Are those, are those creating an opportunity cost in my life where I could be spending more time doing things that are fulfilling, that are fun, that do move the needle of progress forward in life? What are you doing right now that you just like? Gosh, you hate it. You take no meaning or joy from that. And if there is something there, you need to quit that activity, delegate that activity, or seriously question and plan for the removal of that activity, the utmost of your ability to sooner than later. If you're like, dude, my job is no fun. Then either A, you need to bring more fun to that and transform the energy there into fun, or B, you need to plan your exit. And if that sounds scary, make sure you watch my YouTube video called why to Quit. It's about quitting and the power of quitting. Because sometimes, until you quit, what is wrong in your life? A white space does not open for what is right in your life to enter. So sometimes quitting something that is not fun is a way to get closer to something that is fun. But first, question yourself. Are you bringing the fun? It's the old Zen master tale that the only Zen that you find at the top of the mountain is the Zen you carry up with you. So being fun is what will make anything fun. I mean, frankly, I do a lot of things that sometimes I'm like, it's occasional work. I wish I didn't have to do it. But if I'm going to do it, I'm going to bring full presence and joy and fun to it myself. The next thing to remember is this, that most fun, the fun that just really is magical and so grateful, often comes in a social environment. Friends, we've so lost the art of friendship in our modern, distracted, digitized world. Let me tell you what, just try to go out to breakfast or lunch or dinner with your friends at least, at least once a week. If that sounds crazy to you, then you have lost your life into a world of work and tasks and fake responsibilities that are only pulling you away from life. You need to evaluate your life and say, why can't I get away with some friends once a week for an hour or two for some lunch, dinner, breakfast or brunch? Why am I not going out to drinks with my friends anymore? And don't pretend and say, well, it's because I got too old to go out and come on. It doesn't mean you have to go out and party like rock stars till 5 in the morning. It means brunch, lunch, dinner, you know, a walk, a stroll, a workout with some friends and enough time with them to enjoy sharing stories about life, sharing stories about what has been fun with them. Friendship is the ultimate, ultimate bedrock of fun. It's the great source and the wellspring of fun. There's a quotable friendship is the wellspring of fun. I mean, it's just like one of these things. It's just like once you have friendship in your life, fun follows you because it's your buddies, but you have to be around them. And I know that's hard. Look, we're all busy, but that's where life is. So do not. Do not neglect it. Last, very simple. Adopt a little bit of a mischievous mindset. Here's what I encourage you to do. Every morning when I'm in the shower, I think, what could I do today that's a little mischievous and fun for somebody? Not fun for me. Fun for somebody. What can I do to cajole, to tease, to prank somebody who I love, not in a mean or disheartening way, but in a real fun way? What could I do to make some fun between us, to make some jokes and stories between us? What unique things could I do to make somebody say, even if. Just think of this. What. What could I do today to make somebody's day? And you know what? You'll find that fun and fulfilling. And when you start having days that are much more fun and fulfilling, and you have weeks that are more surrounded by friendship, doing things that you care about, that you find fun, and you're fully immersing yourself in those experiences well over a period of time, all that fun and that fulfillment that gives you the charged life.