How To Prevent Distraction

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Hey, my friends, it's Brendon Burchard and welcome to the Brendan Show. This is a podcast about helping you reach high performance in your life, in every area of your life. It's about staying more motivated, more confident, more disciplined and on purpose. You know, the high performance experience is really about feeling more vibrant, more connected, more excellent, more fulfilled in your life. But it's also challenging you because you and I both know it's difficult to reach those levels of high performance without support, without ongoing commitment and dedication to your own personal development. So welcome to our HPX community. Thank you for joining us here on the Brendon Show. I'm super pumped for today's episode. Before we begin, I want to let you know that we have specials right now on our HPX nutrition line. If you didn't know it, I rolled out three specific products to help you with your performance. These are three specific supplements that will really give you the edge. Now, don't worry, I'm not starting an MLM or a downline. I'm not asking you to promote any of my products. And frankly, just like you, there's a lot of different companies and a lot of different products that I love and I enjoy and I'm not trying to compete with. It was specifically, I could not find three world class supplements that specifically helped me in these areas. So we've got HPX Optimize, which is a mental focus and energy product for your brain health. Then we've got Essentials, which is a functional multivitamin which we've basically enhanced for longevity, for joint health and for vitality and digestion. But what we did, instead of like making a multivitamin where they sprinkled a million different things in there that actually have no effect, we put in dosages here that you'll be amazed by. And then finally we've got HPX Organic Boost, which is the energy drink mix that I take because it's 100% organic. It's actually delicious too, I have to tell you that. So go check it out. Hpxwellness.com, everything you need to know is right there. And if you've ever wanted to know how to reach the high performance experience in terms of your biology and physiology, these products can really support you. Go to hpxwellness.com and without further ado, onto today's episode.

This is how I stay on my agenda. This is how I make sure I'm productive. This is how I don't let other people. And this is my transition in the people Conversation soon. I don't let other people throw me off of what I determine to be right. Because I use this little simple thing. It's really important for me because I don't know, do we have any of you in the room like me? Any people pleasers? Okay, I'm super guilty of this. This thing helps me so much because my heart and my brain and my spirit says, help everybody. And that doesn't always serve me. So this helps me choose among priorities or tasks, but it also helps me stay on my agenda because I have to own my life's agenda, not let other people direct my agenda. It's that old thing. If you have vision, you will work your life for that vision. If you don't have vision, you will work your life for someone with vision. And so you got to know where you are at. This helps me stay on track. The first thing I say, okay, this interruption, this request, this thing that came up, the first thing I ask, is this planned? Is this something I already wanted to do, could see myself doing, or could be a part of my plan as a stepping stone to get to the next level. Could this be part of my plan or is it planned? Meaning I don't let a lot of left field things throw me off in my life. Once in a while, some great, amazing offer comes up and I jump in. But most often I say, does that whatever I hear, does that help me lead me to the next step of where I want to go? Can that support my plan or be the next step in my plan? A1 is no, not planned at all. A10 is absolutely, this is part of the plan or could be part of the plan to take me to my next highest level. It's important. Is it planned? Which presupposes I have done what planned? I have thought, I have strategized, I've considered my week, my month, my year, my life. Number two, do you own this meaning, is this your responsibility? Do you own this problem? Do you own this situation? This is my favorite one. Because people like to come into your house through your email and your phone. And what they like to do is deliver you train wrecks. They like to come into your house with a train wreck. They like to come into your house with an emergency that they didn't plan for. And all of a sudden you're diligently working on your dreams, you know your path, you've got your projects, you're doing your thing, and some come, I need, I need, I need, I need, I need. And you're like, why didn't you tell me earlier? Other people's agendas are not your own. Other people's messes are not yours to clean up. You are not responsible for every person in your life and every choice and decision and. And mess. But what you have to do is two things. One, recognize false emergencies. False emergency is when someone says, I need this by Thursday, and all of a sudden your heart gets anxious and you're like, oh, my God, I have so many things to do, and you start experiencing anxiety. As soon as you feel anxiety from somebody else's request, realize it's probably a false emergency. They probably came out of nowhere and need that from you. So your reply is, thank you for your request. Every day I receive dozens or hundreds of them. And since most of my days and projects and hours were planned weeks, months, or even years ago, it's necessary for me to prioritize and properly serve those in line. Since I just got your request today, I would love to know when is the real deadline on this? I see you said Thursday, but could you give me the day in which if you don't receive it, on this day, your house burns down, people attack you, you lose reputation, and the world begins to burn on fire. Which day is that, please? And you know what they always come back with? Oh, I know I said Thursday, Brendan, but I don't really need it until the first of the month. It is very easy to be caged in other people's needs and expectations. And most of the bars they threw up had no planning. You gotta be aware, I am absolutely clear that life is short anyone else in the room. So when someone puts something on my plate, it better damn well be good. And people say, oh, yeah, you can do that now, Brendan. I'm like, no, no, no. That's why I am here. People always, they get that wrong. They say, oh, well, Brendan, that's easy for you to say because you're blah, blah, blah, blah.

You just don't understand.

I go, no, no, no. Oh, trust me, I understand. I'm only where I'm at because I said no. Like, I can look back to all the no decisions, all the great opportunities put on my plate, everything I said no to. And see how it led to it. Right before Motivation Manifesto happened, which got me into, you know, the stratosphere in my space and just, you know, bestselling book of the century so far on the topic of motivation. It was like a big, big burning fire. Brandon, come join the show. They wanted me to do this reality show. It was like the 17th television show I've turned down. And I said, well, they wanted me started right. It actually was good. It lined up pretty good on the terms and everything else, but it was like this burning thing. It needs to start filming in three weeks. Good deal. Definitely good money. Absolutely. Bigger exposure. Totally made sense in a lot of different ways. And it was going to make me insane, wreck my entire lifestyle and not really add that much future value versus finishing my book. It was another no and another no. Because do I own this? Do I own this problem? That even this good problem? Because, listen, some problems that come to you are really good problems, but you still gotta go, am I responsible for that? Am I responsible for bringing that thing into the planet? Am I responsible for ushering that. Is that the dream that was sown in my heart? Or is that someone else's dream and I should let them have that and be responsible for that? And I stay on path to the dreams that are in my heart. Because sometimes people pleasing isn't just about, you know, wanting to help people. It's that sometimes it's that maybe you're unsure of what your dreams are. And when you're unsure of what your dreams are, you'll help anybody do anything, which is a kind thing and sometimes can help you. Sure. Maybe find some clarity. But you need to ask, do you own this dream? Do you own this problem? Those are two sides of the coin. I want you to write down. When I say, do you own this? I mean, do you own both the problem and the train wreck they're bringing to you the sudden urgent thing. But are you also responsible for ushering that thing into the world? Is that the things you're supposed to be working on? Is it a dream, an idea, a task, an activity that's true to your heart now? And if not, it's a pass? Number three. Do you feel it's right? Do you feel it's right? There's been so many deals or opportunities I turn down. I'm like, I just don't feel that's right. It's not a right fit. It's not right for my community. It's not right for my brand. The word right, I love that word. One of my favorite questions to ask myself is, what would be my next right? Action of integrity? What would be my next right action of integrity? What would be my next right action of integrity? Change my life Asking that question because we intuitively know what's right. We know what's true for us. We know what we should be doing changed my life.

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Next up, is there a need now? Is this a real need? And is there need now for me to be involved? It's very similar to do you own this? But it's very relevant to now, meaning a ton of deals that I did do. I just said, you know what, let's do it next year. This is great. But the need isn't now. Let's like, let's put this. Let's absolutely do it. It's a yes. But maybe not now, a year from now. Like, I get interview requests all the time. And most interviews I'm like, I like it, let's do it. But it's not gonna be now. Cause I got all those other things lined up. Is it real need now? Next. Is this a passion? Say it with me. Is it a passion? You need to start cutting out some of those things that you're just not passionate about or outsource it or hire it, or get some support behind it. Next up, Will this help you grow? That's where my personal development comes in. Over and over and over and over. Is it a passion? Will it help me grow? Personal development. Personal development. Personal development. And the last one. Will this help you lead? In your heart is sown a desire to lead. I believe that is true for every single person on the planet. Every single person on the planet wants to either lead their family well or lead their community well, or lead that individual they're trying to help well. Even if just one to one or one to many or one to the world, everybody in some way wants to make that difference, to know that, you know what? I guided somebody for something. Either I guided my child to be a good child, or I guided my spouse to build a good life together, or I guided my company to do something. There's a leadership component to things. And sometimes you keep making decisions that keep making you the worker ant. And the yeses you're giving are yeses that are keeping you at a low level versus elevating you to a high level. I want you to start saying yes to leadership. Yes to leadership. Yes to what you want. Yes to that next level. Yes to those places that will put you in a place of challenge and contribution. All right.

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