How to Prioritize Your Life Goals

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Let's talk about how you prioritize things in your life. How you prioritize your tasks, your activities, your responsibilities, your obligations, your days. Cause you know, it's kind of difficult these days to prioritize anything because there's so many people coming at you from left and right with their notices, their messages, their texts, their voice messages, their emails, begging for your time, for your.

Attention, for your energy.

And most people, I hope this is not, you just give that away so freely. You give all of your attention to everybody else and to all the world's false emergencies and to all the world's needs and all the messages and the texts and the timelines and all of a sudden your day is gone and you had no sense of peace or progress or vitality. I hope that's not you. But if you are finding your days feeling a little frustrating, usually it comes back at some point to how you are prioritizing things during those days. Makes sense, right? So how have you been doing in this department? I mean, really think about it. Do you feel like your day's agenda has been your agenda, or is it somebody else's? Or do you even get to shape your agenda? Do you just wake up and respond to everybody all day? And that's your priority, is just responding to everybody all day? Now, if you're in customer service, and that's your job, rock on. Good job. Keep doing that. But if it's not your job to do nothing but respond to customers all day, then we've got to have a higher conversation now and get you back in control of what your day is about. And the only way to do that is to teach you some new ways to think about your prioritization. Now, the first idea I have for you is stop prioritizing. Easy. Stop prioritizing Easy. A lot of people, when they look at their to do list of the day, they just start working towards the easy things, knocking off the easy things. They think that's gonna get me some momentum, it'll get me into the day, I'll feel like I'm succeeding. And. And the reality is it's making them less likely to actually do the things that count. And how do you know this? How do you know if you're guilty of that? You know it. If your day feels like there's a lot of busy work, but there's an absence of your life's work, you know what I mean? If you don't feel like your activities during the day are really creating to your vitality, to the contributions you want to make with the world, to doing activities and tasks that you really enjoy, whose fault is that? Is it the man's?

Is it the government's?

No. It's like you're setting up your day. You could choose what to do with it. Maybe you need to look at doing things that would support you. Your health, your vibrancy, your joy, your real growth and contribution in a more significant way. If you feel like there's always busy work, but it's not your life's work, you probably prioritize things at a larger level, maybe incorrectly for you. Now, I don't know this. I can't gauge it. I mean, I'm just talking you through here. Now, as I look and as you listen to me, all I can do is encourage you to just look and say, how have I Been prioritizing. Have I had a structure? Have I had a framework? Have I had ideas about what's important to me in the world? And I always run my decision making through those. Because if you haven't set that up, this is the time to do that for yourself. First step, stop prioritizing. Easy. Just because there's something that's easy to do does not mean it must be done today. What I would rather you to do is say, I am going to prioritize things today that will make significant steps forward in my life. These are, I just say, the opposite of stop or sort of prioritizing. Easy is to prioritize progress. Things that actually move the needle of your life forward, things that actually contribute in ways that you find meaningful and significant and fulfilling. And you know, you deserve that. But sometimes you get caught up, right? Maybe you've just been caught up in everybody else's, you know, hot mess. And your life thus became a hot mess. It's not because you are. It's that you were just doing the easy things to please people. Because, you know, that's easy. I'm going to please some people today. But what we need you to do is say, what would significantly move me toward my dreams today? What three things must happen today that would be real movement forward, not like little checklists. Our whole world has gotten so addicted to little tiny checklists, but they're not doing anything meaningful. They're not checking off. I'm living my life, you know? So I want you to get back into what would really progress me today. Stop prioritizing. Easy. Start prioritizing progress. Things that matter. I want you to take on something hard. Every day you do that, you'll start to find yourself getting a little more confident, a little more momentum, a little bit more into that space where you feel like you're doing things you were meant to do.

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Second thing is stop prioritizing false emergencies. Just because someone put it on your plate today does not mean you need to reply to it today unless it again is your job in customer service to reply back within 24 hours. But that is not for everybody. We fall into this false collective belief that we all have to reply to the text on the second we receive it, that we gotta return the call the second it came in. We don't. What I always tell people, you know, as, you know, being blessed to do what I do now, I mean, it's like tens of millions of people watch my work every single year now. I mean, every single week we send out 2 million emails. I mean, we talk to a lot of people. I'm out on the road, you know, nine months out of the year, I'm doing an event with hundreds of people traveling from dozens of countries there. I talk to a lot of people. I get a lot of feedback. And with that feedback comes a lot of requests. Brendan, could you do this for me? Brendon, could you help that? Brendan, could you endorse this? And I know you get the same thing. Could you help me? Could you do these things I need? Da, da, da, da. And you get all of these people asking you for something. How often are you doing what they're saying and what they're asking for? The more that you're doing what the world tells you or asks of you, frankly, the sad thing is, the more you lose your life, you lose yourself in it. You become a pleaser or a placator. You become a person who is just so busy all the time, you're wiped out. You know what I'm talking about? You cannot prioritize other people's emergencies.

And here's what you need to do.

Learn to say no. Prioritize the things that are going to move you forward and everything else. Realize that's got to be initial no and it needs to sound like this. Here's what my email literally says when I send it out. To people I say thank you so much for your request, really appreciate you thinking of me. However, while I recognize this is really important for you today, the reality is my plate has already been full and is packed with things that I have planned and prioritized months and months and months ago. I'm executing against a plan that has been in the works for a very long time. So I'm sorry I can't get your sudden need fit into that. I'm happy to put you in queue, but please realize it's likely you won't be hearing from me or I won't be able to participate. That or I won't be able to do XYZ whatever they asked me of for several months, if at all. Now people say, oh my gosh, that'd be hard to say. I was like, you know, the first. It's true, the first couple times I did that, it was difficult and it made me uncomfortable. It made me feel like, you know, I wasn't being helpful to people. But what is helpful to people is you living your truth is you serving your highest good in this world. Not everybody's speedy, needy request. Look, when people come to me with an emergency, I'm okay going back to the days of self reliance and saying, you know, why is this an emergency for you all of a sudden? Did you not know this was due? Like, yeah, no, I knew it was due. Or someone will say, brenda, I need this tomorrow. And here's what I love to say to them. I say tomorrow. I said, tell you what, when would you need it if you didn't get it by this certain day that like your house would burn down like major catastrophes. Oh crap, your world's gonna fall apart. I mean, the last minute of the last moment of the real deadline. Not when would you like this, not when would you prefer this, not when would it be convenient and nice for you. When would the hit the fan if you didn't get it and people would start dying? And they'll always say, oh, well, you know, then in that case I really don't need it for another two weeks. People will always tell you they need something immediately. One, they usually don't need it. Two, if they do need it, they should have went and got it themselves and been more prepared. Three, you owe nothing to anybody but your own health, your own family, your own major true contributions of what you are and what you want to give to the world. Everybody else is a sudden distraction. That is not going to make me popular saying that. And I get it, but that's how you have to do if you really want to learn how to prioritize. You have to realize every request that comes into you is a sudden distraction. It's not on your plan. I'm not saying you can't meet it. I'm not saying you can't handle it. I'm saying don't reprioritize your life's work to handle somebody else's false emergency. What I want you to do is saying what's important to me today. And I want you to make sure you accomplish and achieve that and then fit in everyone else's little requests as is appropriate or needed or responsible for yourself. I know it's difficult when the kids come in and they throw off a couple hours of your day because they have this sudden need or emergency. There are real obligations and responsibilities. Please live your life and manage it responsibly. But also stop doing that little thing that everyone does, giving away all their pieces of the day to anyone who asks. And suddenly they find themselves broke with time, broke with energy, broke, fulfilling everybody else and never having lived their own life. Prioritize real deadlines, real responsibilities, real obligations and and prioritize everything else as a sudden distraction and you will start finding yourself leaping for it. Last one's much more positive. You're like, geez, Brennan, I thought you were like the positivity guy and the motivation guy. Last one's a lot more easy and more palpable for you, maybe. Or palatable, I guess I would say. And that is start prioritizing freedom. Start prioritizing your ability to gain more emotional freedom, physical freedom, social freedom, financial freedom, time freedom. I love looking at people's actual day agenda and I say, where in here is freedom? Where is your ability to do a 20 minute meditation? Because it's going to make you feel alive and back and grounded, connected. You don't have anything where you prioritize your own psychology today. Where are you thinking about your strategic plan? Where are you thinking about the vision for your life? Where are you daydreaming and napping if you need to do that? Were you prioritizing your physical energy? Because if you can have physical freedom from fatigue, you'll accomplish a whole lot more, even if your priorities are not always in whack. Like if you absolutely have the physical freedom, I should say, to be able to just cultivate energy on choice that comes from having prioritized health during the day. What about time freedom? I mean, I think we're all after time freedom. So where are the breaks in your day? And what are you doing with those breaks? Are you reading stupid trashy magazines? Are you sitting and dreaming about how you can contribute more, what your next art is, what the next major thing is that you want to give or serve or be or develop as a human. You have the ability to make your days magical. And I wish someone told me that when I was younger. They said, hey, look, you are the architect of your day. How magical do you really want it to be?

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