How to Push Through Your Threshold

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I'm Brendon Burchard, host of the Brendon show and founder of growthday.com and I'm honored to be your high performance coach today. I believe that every day we can be inspired. We can live with intention and purpose. We can bring the joy and honor the struggles of each day to push ourselves to grow, to serve, to be a role model, to lead extraordinary lives. I believe that every day is a great day to grow. That's why I started my company, growthday.com it's an online personal growth platform where you can get me and the world's best personal development teachers live coaching you every week, sharing our wisdom, keeping you motivated and accountable, encouraging you to find the aliveness and the connection and meaning of life that we're all after. If you're not a member yet, please go sign up@growthday.com and join our huge worldwide community of achievers. For less than a dollar a day, you get the world's best teachers live every week. And look, you've probably known for a long time that you needed some expert guidance and inspired community and life changing tools. So please, your breakthrough awaits you@growthday.com now let's get to today's episode. My friends, please listen closely. Maybe you take some notes so you remember these insights of personal growth and share this episode with three of your friends because we all have to share more positive messages in the world today. So share this with three friends just like you who are committed to their personal growth. And also be sure to tag me or DM me on Instagram. Rendon Burchard, Join our million plus community there on Instagram so I can say hi. Thanks again for listening. Now let's begin.

How do you have that comeback story in your life? People have been doubting you. You doubted yourself, you feel like you failed, you feel like you struggled, you feel like you're not breaking through or activating your full potential. Bam. You're in the right place. Welcome. First concept today is the idea that we all know where we're off in life. So I'd love for you to start with a real motivational thing here and just kind of be honest with yourself for a minute. Are there any places or any areas of your life you've been kind of frozen in fear or if you're honest, you've been holding back, or if we're going to be truthful, you're not moving ahead as you know you're actually capable because you just got discouraged or hurt. Is there anything you know, you should be doing, but you're just kind of like arms crossed. You're kind of observing the world, doing it right now. But you're like, well, you know, I'm not any good at that, or I don't deserve that because I screwed up in the past. And is there any way that you're still the one holding yourself back? You're the one who's torturing your own self with negative thinking. I like to begin and just kind of check in sometimes. You know, some of you, you're so hard on yourself. You're so hard on yourself. And in fact, many of you, you've been living in fear or discouragement or self hatred. And that's kind of. I know it can feel like flippant for some virtual coach to tell you here today. I get it. But many of you know I've been through my own depressions and suicidal thoughts in my life. And I've been with literally thousands of people who've experienced just such trauma and difficulty in their life. And, you know, they kind of gave up. And sometimes giving up looks different to different groups of people, right? Sometimes giving up. What that really means is someone's stubborn, sometimes someone's given up. And what it really means is they're just people pleasing to avoid their own reality. Sometimes they've given up and they're trying to be such a great person over here for these group of people, but they're dying inside because they're not living their truth. And I know that we've all been in that story a little bit, and it's hard. And some of you, you're so hard on yourself, even though you're the high performers. And I bet many of you, you're watching this, and you're the one actually in your family or community who's more dedicated to personal development than other people. So it's almost like, I know I'm preaching to the choir, and I know we don't have a bunch of sorrowful people out there and sad stories all over the world, especially with this group. You guys are high performing. You're going for it. But I also know that we have that dichotomy in life. There's only two narratives in the human story. One is struggle and one is progress. And there's always even me. There's parts of my life where I'm struggling so much. Sometimes I'm frozen or I'm slowing down or I'm sucking at my discipline. Some of you know that. And other times you're like, no no, no, I'm progressing. I'm doing great. But we were progressing and doing great in maybe work, but you're really dogging it in your relationship. And what I want to share and the reason I set this frame this way is because I want you to know that's normal. It's just normal. If you are struggling in some areas of your life and you're frozen there, you stop there. That is normal. Stop hating on yourself, Stop beating yourself up. It's part of the human narrative. And now we just have to decide to turn that page and. And start that new story of progress today. Right? It's okay that if you're. Listen, if your last couple chapters in life sucked, that's normal. There is no one here who hasn't had a couple chapters that sucked a couple parts of their life that they didn't like. Some negative experiences, traumas, difficulties, people screwing them and just being awful. We've all had that. Everybody has had that. The difference is some people hold on to that forever and they stay in that chapter and they never write the headline of the next chapter and start writing the acceptor and step into the future. That's the difference maker. Everybody has the story of struggle. Everyone has the difficulties. Everyone has the traumas. It's that some people say, okay, okay, enough with this. Enough, enough. Let me reset now. I am tired of being stressed, tired and fearful. I'm tired of that story. I'm tired of holding back. I'm tired of not living my life. I get it. My childhood wasn't great. I get it. These people laid me off. They fired me. These people stole from me. This person broke my heart. Okay, you all got that story. No more living back there. No more living in the past. If we're going to accomplish anything today, it is a demarcation line from the story of struggle and discouragement. The story of fear, the story of sadness, the story of victimization, the story of freezing and fearing. And it is the beginning of a new chapter. Let's go. If you can't make the decision to commit to starting a new chapter, you'll be forever reading the old one. So today is that new day. You must begin this session with that fire in your bellies. I know you got it in your heart and in your soul. There still is a fire. Even it feels like sometimes somebody threw a wet blanket over your fire. Even if you feel like you know the passion has been extinguished because you got hurt. No. New chapter, new chapter. Let's go. That has to be where you and I Start your coaching today. It has to be. It has to be. I know the passion got extinguished sometimes.

I know your feelings got hurt sometimes.

I know they stole, cheated, lied and judged. I know it hurt. I know they took advantage. I know you failed. I know it wasn't fair. That's fine. Old chapters. What's the new chapter? That's what we have to work at. The comeback story begins with writing the new headline and the first couple paragraphs of the future unencumbered by those last 300 pages. My brothers and sisters. That's it. New chapter. Let's go. We have to have it. We have to have it. And I'm not here just to be the motivational guy in your life. You know, I went through this in deep, difficult, dark, horrible ways in my life, from depressions and suicidal thoughts to many of you are with me in 2011 when I got my brain injury and I had a horrible two years after that. Horrible, horrible in every possible way. My physical, mental, physical, spiritual relationships, finance, like everything just was so discouraging and hard for two years as I'm trying to overcome this brain injury. And it was just like everything, just like everything was just so hard. It was like I was trying to crank this thing. It wouldn't click, you know, for two years, it wouldn't click. So I don't just mean to hype you up, but my hope is that you can say, okay, there's gotta be a demarcation line. There's got to be that turning of the chapter. And if you will accept that today, then these items I will share with you could change your life. If you can't start with that readiness for the new chapter, then it's going to be hard to address some of the issues in your life that have been holding you back, you know, because listen, if we start talking about all the things that have been holding you back and you're still living in the past, guess what? When you start talking about someone's past, the issues holding them back, and they're not ready for the new chapter, what do they do? They get down on themselves. They start hating themselves. They give up faster. But if we can begin in a new context and be ready for that future and acknowledge where we've been putting on the breaks or where our fears have been, boom, we go faster. That's what I really believe. And here's my first thing. If you know it is time to revivify your life, that's a fancy word for Montana by way to revivify your life, to re Energize. To reignite your life. If you know that is time now if you genuinely know, like, gosh, I gotta, I gotta turn it. I gotta crank on here. I gotta, I gotta amp it up. I gotta get more disciplined. I gotta be more energized. I gotta take care of my family better. I gotta earn more. I gotta protect ourselves. Like, if you feel that sensation, that restlessness, that fire, that frustration, that hope inside, you damn well better listen to that close. That message is coming through you. And if it's in your heart, I'm here to tell you, listen, my friends, Listen to that. Listen to the rumbling inside. Listen to the restlessness. Listen to the whispers. Listen to that part of you saying, holy cow, we gotta now turn it up again. And if we can do that, that's where it starts. Okay? That's where it starts.

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Do not wait until X happens for you to start changing your behavior, changing your lifestyle, changing your habits, and starting this new chapter. Do not wait. Many of you are in a wait story. You're in a waiting pattern. I want you to think about this. You're like, oh, no, no. You know, soon as the kids leave, Brendan. Oh, once the kids leave. Yeah. Oh, then we can be happy. Once the kids leave, things will be good. We're just going to wait. No, it's time to start living your life each day. You know, I had this friend of mine recently, this last week, said, oh, yeah, Brenda, you know, I've been waiting to change my diet here. I'm going to do that. But I'm going to wait till after rehab. Literally said, I'm gonna wait until after rehab. I'm like, what? No, but that's how. And you all, I know you. I hope you think that's as funny as I do. But listen, it's just as silly for you to be telling yourself, well, I'll wait until I feel better one day. I'll wait until one day, you know, the kids leave. I'll wait until I'm rich. I'll wait until we get the new house. I'll wait until we start the new job. I'll wait until we move, new city. I'll wait until she finally says yes. I'll wait until he finally approves. I'll wait until I finally feel like it. Do not wait until tomorrow is the beginning of the new chapter. Because the new chapter always begins with a new way of thinking, doesn't it? It starts with the new way of being in the world, new habits. And you don't have to wait for people to understand you. You don't have to wait for anybody to give you permission or approval. Like, you have to accept it's on you. That's where this begins. The comeback story happens when you go, it's on me. It's my choice. Here we go. Tomorrow I'm going to start speaking to myself in healthier ways. Tomorrow I'm going to start eating healthier. Tomorrow I'm going to start working out more. Tomorrow I'm going to protect my time more. Tomorrow I'm going to value my wellness more. Tomorrow I'm going to do my art more. Tomorrow I'm going to be happier and more connected. It's a choice. It's a choice for you. It's a choice for you. Got it? Like, at some point you have to go I don't have to wait anymore. Some of you are waiting until you earn something or you're certified at this or you get promoted to that. And what I'd love for you to do in your own honesty today is ask where have you been waiting? Like, what's that thing you're like, well, I'll do that someday. Because listen, the more that you are waiting on, the more that restlessness inside is activating, the more that you're waiting on the things that you know you need to be or do or create or move towards, the more of those they stack up an internal dislike. You start feeling like your psychology goes, well, I want these things. I know they're important to me, but I'm not acting towards them. And what it does is it erodes your self trust. Do you know why so many people say in the chapters of discouragement versus starting the comeback story? Because they're still living in self distrust. And a lot of that self distrust isn't because they're a bad person. It's because there's a part of them that's waiting and their mind and their body in the background is saying, hey, Brendon, do these things. And my mind goes, I know those are good things and those are the right things but you know, I feel bad about myself today. So instead I'll go watch three seasons of something on Netflix. You know what it is. I know those are the right things to do or that's the right way for me to behave. But I'm going to wait until she's better. You know what? It is nice to be nice, but I'm not going to be nice because look at her behavior. So I'm going to be an ass just as long as she is. And your back of your mind goes, but that's not congruent with who you are. Why are you acting and behaving to somebody else's level and waiting to be your best self? The reason so many people live in the discouragement story versus the comeback story is because of self distrust. They're not doing now what they know they can should. They're not being now who they can and should they are not moving forward like they know their potential is capable of and inside it's just like, it's like every single thing that you're waiting on that you know you should do is one more layer of distrust in your identity and you stack up enough waitings on somebody things they know they should do, waiting to live their life, waiting to speak well themselves well, waiting to Start the diet or the nutrition plan or the healthy activities and their brain starts distrusting themselves. Says, you know what? I can't count on you to do the things you know you should do. I hope you guys get what I'm talking about. It's a way of hurting ourselves, is waiting. The longer you wait on the decisions or forging the character that you know you should do, the more hurtful it is to your character and your identity. Now, I know some of you come here for a lot more motivation than that, but I do believe that my role as your virtual coach is sometimes to have you look at yourself and be honest here. It's hard to start your comeback story if you can't trust yourself to wake up tomorrow and do the things you know that are right for your life. That means some of you, you've been waiting to have that difficult conversation with your spouse until never. Some of you been waiting to ask for that thing you dream of at work until never. Some of you been waiting to start that business or that new book or that new endeavor until never. Now you tell yourself no until you know these things. And what you're telling yourself is, I'm going to wait until all the perfect things completely line up. When it's all perfect, then I'll go. And your brain goes, you are so full of crap. You know, you're waiting because you're scared or you're mad at yourself or you don't trust yourself. So what are you doing here, brain? You're lying to yourself. And then your heart, your spirit knows you can't trust yourself. And that's why you're not being more decisive in starting the new story and the new chapter. And listen, I know I'm teasing a little bit here Today I try to poke fun a little bit, but I spend my life with people who are literally paying half a million dollars or more to work with me. And I cannot tell you how many times this is the issue for them. And you would think, oh, no, if they can afford that, they must not have this issue. I'm here to tell you, everyone has that issue. The people who I coach on the covers of magazines, my friends, they have this issue. When I was down and out and my worst of myself, I had that issue. I know you all have that issue. We all do things that create self distrust inside. And so do not wait. Do not wait.

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