How To Restart A Bad Day

Welcome to the Charged Life. This is Brendon Burchard. Hey, everyone, it's Brendan. Have you ever got in the middle of your day and things just fell apart and you were just like, I need a restart. You know, you just wanted to start the whole day over. You were thinking things were kind of going good, and now I'm derailed. I got distracted. I. I stopped doing what I was supposed to be doing. I had a bad interaction with somebody or a conflict, and now I feel bad about myself or about the day. And you just overall were frustrated with where you're at and you were struggling to restart. A lot of people don't have the resiliency to restart in the middle of the day. And so they lose those last couple hours or the rest of the entire day to a bad mood, to bad energy, to bad productivity, to being ineffective. And because of that, it's costing us great amounts of progress in our own personal lives. And frankly, as a country, a nation and economy, we struggle with it a lot. People need to become more resilient. So what can you do? I got four ideas for you that might help today. The first one is if you find yourself getting derailed a lot in the middle of the day, we got it back up to the beginning of the day and ask an essential question. Did you know what you are really supposed to do today? Because a lot of people don't. They just go to work and they check their inbox to see what the heck's going on in the world. And then they start reacting, reacting, reacting, reacting, reacting. All day. It's reacting to other people's texts all day, reacting to other people's needs all day, reacting to other people's emails, and they get in this reactive mode. And all of a sudden, either A, they're done with that and they don't know what to do with themselves because they've trained themselves only to react. They can't be proactive, they can't be strategic. They don't even know how to think that way. So they're just like, I don't know what to do with myself. Or B, they get in a situation where there is a lot more coming at them and they get completely overwhelmed by it and they have no agenda. So there's nothing to be returning to. There's nothing to get a footing back on because they haven't lost their way. They just never had a way. So at the beginning of the day, the best way not to lose your way during the day is to know at the outset of the Day. What are my key projects, my key priorities that I must work on today, must accomplish today? Who are the key people I need to reach out to, or I'm waiting on who I can interact with or socialize with or collaborate or create with to move those projects and priorities forward. So that no matter what, you know where you're going during the day, not knowing your direction in the day and not knowing the main projects you're working towards in your life is what happens, what causes so much distraction in our life and drama and cause, you know, people who are on the path of purpose, they don't have time for drama or distraction. That stuff gets pushed to the side. Cause they're busy crushing it every day. They're high performers, they're at that level that's just like they've gotten past the drama and the distractions of life and they're contributing, they're creating, they're being proactive. They're becoming the leaders, the artists, the people who are the influencers and the thought leaders of the day because they got over that other stuff. I would say the second thing that we need to learn to do is a true reset. If you find yourself at 2 o', clock, the day's, you know, just completely derailed. You need to take time to give yourself a break and reset. And here's my favorite ways to do that. If I need to reset, I realize the day's all gone to crap. I will immediately stop everything if the day's gone to crap. Don't stay in your inbox. Don't keep doing the same thing you're doing. Take a step away from it. Literally, go outside, take a walk. My favorite resets, I have two of them. One, I go outside, I take my phone, I put on my favorite playlist of music, and I don't think about anything at all. I just listen to the music and I walk for 20 minutes. When I come back to my desk, or I come back to the house, or I come back to wherever I was, I sit down, I bust out my journal, and I write three things. Number one, I start writing everything I'm grateful for because I'm trying to take my mind off of the day. So that's why I listen to the music with no thoughts, just listening to the lyrics and music, breathing as I'm walking. Sit down. What am I grateful for? Second, what three things must be accomplished today. Write those down. Third, what's my reward if I accomplish those three things? And for me, my reward is social. So I say if I finish These three, as soon as I finish these three things, I get to call my best friend from school who I haven't seen in years. If I finish these three things, I get to call my lady. If I finish these three things, I get to get up, I get to go have some green tea and some chocolate. You know, whatever it is for you, you need to have that reward. I write those down and it reengages me with the blessings of life. Re engages me with what I need to accomplish, and re engages me with a simple reward. That's my first favorite way to reset. My second favorite way to reset is meditation. To just stop everything, close my eyes, do the release meditation technique. If you haven't learned that before, you can learn it from me on YouTube, type in my name and release meditation technique. And I do that for 20 minutes. When I open up my eyes, I stand, I stretch, I get some water, I come back and again I write those three things, what I'm grateful for, what three things must be accomplished today. And ultimately, what's my reward for doing this? That's a great way to reset. I would say another one is to get outside of your head, to stop thinking it all has to be you accomplishing everything for you. And another great reset is to ask the simple question, what could I do right now to give a surprise, some attention or some gratitude and appreciation to somebody around me? Could I go thank the receptionist, someone who I haven't talked to for a while? Can I go pull a prank on a friend over here? Can I call somebody and prank them and make a joke with them? Can I call somebody randomly and say thank you? Can I sit down, just write a random thank you email to somebody I haven't talked to for a while? Can I shoot an iPhone video? Sending love to family or friend, get outside of myself and in service, or surprise to somebody else helps me reboot the day because it gives me a social enthusiasm to engage with with the day. And I would say then the last thing is to activate some just simple self talk. I know that sounds very sort of Personal Growth 101, but if the day is just gone all to hell, sometimes the best thing you can do is close your eyes and literally just talk to yourself. Just be like, I have this phrase I like to say. I said I like to close my eyes and say, be patient, I'm okay, I have faith. I'm here to serve. Here we go. Just say that over and over. Be patient, I'm okay, I have faith. I'm here to serve. Here we go. And I'll just repeat that several times, I mean 10, 15, 20 times, until I feel a calmness come over me, put myself back in place of service, open my eyes and say, all right, here we go. And I'll get back at the day. Sometimes it's just simple self talk to reset yourself. I hope these ideas serve you because I know how challenging life can get. And as it does, just know this too shall pass. You know you'll get through it just like you've got through it before. I hope these strategies help you get through it in a more resilient, strong, productive, enthusiastic, grateful way. Because you know what? This day, no matter what, no matter what happens, when the stuff hits the fan, when all goes to hell, you know what? You are still here. You are still blessed with breath. You are still blessed with this choice about what to make these next few moments, it's a blessing. This life we have, this energy, this ability, ability to live what we call the charged life. So take it seriously. Find faith in it. Find joy in it. Reset that day because you can. And the more you learn to reset that day, the more you learn to experience what we call the charged life. Hey everyone, it's Brendan. Did you like this episode? 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