How to SILENCE Your Inner Critic

Your job is to find your authentic voice. You're acknowledging, aware, compassionate, loving self voice, give that so much volume so many times that that's just, hey, that station's louder. That station is louder because you're on that station more. So now when the other one starts interfering and coming in, you can go, oh, what is it saying here? And it's almost always the inner critic is really a doubtful voice.

When you're in a moment where you're doing something and all of a sudden that inner critic, you hear that inner critic, right? How do you turn down the volume on that? What do you do to go to silence your inner critic or handle your inner critic or overcome your inner critic and then swap it to your inner champion or what are your tools? Because I feel like no matter what we're doing in life, where we're at in life, what our situation is inside our own family, inside our jobs, inside our hopes and dreams, it's just this, it's the biggest obstacle I think for so many of us.

Yeah, I think one, you have to realize that replacing the inner critic in the moment is super hard. And so you have to think of everything you're doing is like, there's the pre work, there's the actual in the moment flow work and then there's the post work. The pre work is okay. Before the inner cricket has to start, you start your morning by tapping into your authentic self meditating feeling, thinking about who you are, what's important to you, your morning routine of intention setting, your morning routine of purpose statements, your morning routine of filling your head with good thoughts, your morning routine of acknowledging your strength to show up another day. Your day of gratitude for appreciating that you have these opportunities. Meaning you got to start the day, the growth day starts with self talk and the self talk. You have to condition the positive voice inside your inner champion. You have to amplify that, turn it up and talk to it every morning and every day. If you ever want that to be louder than the criticism. What most people do is they bumble through the day, a doubt comes up, they hear it, they go, is that true? They start amplifying that thing because there's no other voices. Your job is to find your authentic voice. You're acknowledging, aware, compassionate, loving self voice, give that so much volume so many times that that's just, hey, that station's louder. That station is louder because you're on that station more. So now when the other one starts interfering and coming in, you can go, oh, what is it saying? Here. And it's almost always the inner critic is really a doubtful voice. It's almost always a doubtful voice. I doubt my capability, I doubt who I am, I doubt I'm capable, I'm worthy, I doubt myself. And doubt doesn't mean stop or shut down. Doubt means, oh, this is a signal to be more present and intentional. Oh, I'm not. This isn't to question myself and my capabilities. It's going, oh, hey, I don't know if I can do this. Let me pay attention. That's a great signal to pay attention and to engage the best of who we are. It's like, oh, those butterflies that's saying, oh, let's align here, let's get focused here. Let's bring some attention to this. So first, don't think that that voice will ever go away. It's going to be there, it's always going to pop up. But don't think it's a negative thing telling you you're terrible. It's saying, pay attention. And then also up the station on that authentic, acknowledging, loving self talk each day, the affirmative side of who you are, listen to that so often and give yourself that blessing so often. Because some of you, it's not going to be your spouse who's going to acknowledge you or validate you. Some of you, it's not going to be your parents or your sister, your brothers or the people in your industry. They're all going to doubt you or judge you or push you. So you've got to affirm yourself. You've got to tap into that truth, that knowing, that beauty, that soul, that spirit, that authenticity that says, ah, I do deserve to have a good day today. I do have good intentions for today. Let me listen to that part of me more often. And that conditioning of positive, affirming self talk starts becoming a part of real confidence, right? Conditioned self talk becomes confident capability.

So good. You know, one of the things I love about this is when we talk about even conditioning and starting our day that way with positive self talk. I feel like our inner critic can get so loud and I feel like so many of us know when we're hearing it, when we're hearing that inner critic. A, we would never say those things to another human being, and B, when we're saying them about ourselves, we kind of still know, in big part, we know they're not true. But it, but somehow we still, we still. It's so easy to believe it. It's easy to know we're made for more. We're created for More. We have more to give, more to offer, more to serve more inside of us than we're expressing or giving or living right now. And yet it's so easy to still doubt it anyways, right? So, so, so what if.

Good. What if, Jamie, what if the inner critic was an inner guide and the inner critic was just saying to you, hey, right now you've got your station turned on to me? The inner critic, the, you know, the low station, the self doubt station. And you, instead of going, oh, that critic's so scary. And let me find all the reason to criticize me. It's like, oh, the inner critic is actually calling you to summon the better part of you. And it's saying, hey, you're listening to the lowly insecurities right now. Let me amplify those insecurities so you're aware that you're listening to them. Dummy. What you need to do right now is search the demonstration. I am guiding you with all this blaring noise to summon a higher part of you. The inner critic is summoning the higher part of you, not shutting you down. It's summoning you. It's not going to go away. There's always going to be that part of you going, hey, dummy, you're smarter, you're better, you're. Hey, let me, let me, let me judge you just enough that you get edgy and you go, no, I'm better than this. And you show up. It's egging you on to show up. Better not shut down. Oh, I'm being egged on like a good friend. Because listen, the inner critic is you. And that's a good friend to you, saying, hey, I'm going to bug you just enough. I'm going to shame you just enough. I'm going to doubt you just enough. Until you finally go, f. No, let's go. I'm going to try to piss you off. That's what the inner critic is going to do. They're there to amplify you, to go, no, no, I am better than this. It is actually summoning strength. And if you can hear that, instead of being diminished, be called when crisis doesn't diminish you, when conflict doesn't diminish you, when fear doesn't diminish you, but rather you sense it as a calling to rise to something, to a higher standard, to serve. This is why today we celebrate Martin Luther King. Dr. Martin Luther King had the same challenges so many people did. What he did was he said, I have a dream. I'm going to rise up. I'm going to learn to do all of these things that he didn't know how to do to lead an incredible movement that we still celebrate today. You have to think about, like, Whoa, that's 60 years later. We're still celebrating this person. Why? Because all those calls, all those judgments, all that hate. He said, I'm not going to let the darkness shut me down, because it's only light and love that will lift us up. So I'm going to amplify those. You can hit me with all the hate you want, but I'm going to activate love. That's the change. It's not diminishment, but a calling to rise above it. That's. That's a mindset shift that now helps us activate. I hope that helps everybody.

So good what you said. And I always, you know, one of the things I think about a lot is we all face opposition, right? Sometimes it is our inner critic, but we also all have a calling. And I think that so many times, I believe always your calling is stronger than your opposition. But so much of life comes down to which one we listen to. And you talk about Dr. Martin Luther King, and I think obviously, so much opposition, you know, during his time, and obviously his calling was so much bigger, right? And that's what he listened to. And I think that. I don't know, I just keep going back to those words you shared earlier, too, about walking into a room, and instead of saying, here I am, saying, here you are, right? I think that's when we make it not about us, and it's something so much bigger than us. For me, I think that's. I mean, in my journey, that's, you know, how I've. One of my. One of my best strategies for overcoming that inner critic. Because for me, that inner critic is there every single day. Every single day. I even doubted, even though I've gone on national television thousands of times, and no makeup. This is my first Growth day morning show, and no makeup. And I had a moment where I'm like. But it's like, oh, no, no, no. The only way to have authentic human connection is to fully show up as ourselves. The only way to. Is to not worry about stuff like that. That literally doesn't matter, Right? And so it's kind of growth in progress, growth in process, I think, for so many of us. And some of the tips you shared on how you frame in your own mind that inner critic. I've never heard that before. That's so powerful. That's so powerful. As if it's the station summoning you to get so angry that you're like, f that. And you transcend it huge.

It's your best friend egging you on, saying, oh. It's like if your best friend was like, oh, oh, yeah, you suck. And you're like, hold it. You know, it's just like, if you ever saw people playing sports and you're playing basketball with someone, the crap talking is done to summon a higher level of game. They've actually measured this in communication studies in sports. Less crap talk tends to lead to less incredible performance. And it's not because we're being. We're not diminishing each other. We're egging each other on to play at a higher level. Now, I know there's lots of judgment about even that in sports, but I think my point is recognizing that all your inner fears aren't meant to shut you down. They're meant to help you pay attention. You know, you were talking about resistance and all the resistance. And I hope everybody, by the way, spend some time today watching some, you know, speeches from Dr. Martin Luther King. If you haven't read the autobiography, the official biographies, or any of his collected works of speeches, I can't even imagine this day. You know, for the last 23 years, this year now, I read his speeches. I have a big book that my dad gave me that I just read his speeches. And it's so, so powerful to see what he was willing. And not just him, the entire Southern Christian Leadership Conference and so many other great leaders of that time trying to really speak up for something. And he said, you know, if. If our main question is, who are you serving? And he said that if we aren't. If we aren't willing to speak up for what is right, then we're. We're not living life. And. And so many of his great quotes that everyone will share on the Internet today, I'm sure. Just remind us to stand for something. Even if you are scared. Stand for something. You're not doing a magazine shoot today. You're standing for something today. You're standing for a message. Yeah, we aren't worried about our insecurities of, you know, I'm like, is my kettlebell in the shot today? I hope not. You know, I don't even care. It's like we stand for something at growth day. We stand for the belief that you can grow, that you can change, that you can have better days, that you can shift your attitude. We. We stand for something. So we're not trying to make everything pretty. You're going to stand for something today and everyone needs to realize, what do you stand for today? What is it that you stand for? And the less you ask yourself that, the more the insecurity voice just fills it in. Oh, you aren't intentional enough to stand for something. Let me just fill it in with some noise here. I would say your negative self talk is because you haven't filled in the void.

Yeah. So good.

I work on this. Look at this. I got this. I pulled this off the desk. This is a. A calendar of affirmations from Hay House. This is Louise Hay. I hope you all read you can heal your life from Louise Hay. Louise Hay and Wayne Dyer, who were like some who really made and rounded out Hay House with Reed Tracy as CEO. That so a whole book of affirmations. I. I've been doing personal development for 20 years. Professionally. I still read my affirmations and I read them out loud because I want that voice to be activated. I would love for you all, in your morning routine to read out your Bible verses or read out your favorite motivational quotes or read out that part of that spiritual text that you love. Read something out, like activate the voice you've been given voice. You have the blessing of speaking you've been given voice. Activate that in a positive, affirming way and it becomes a language, language pattern in your head that's louder than the insecure.