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Brendon TEST Burchard discusses how social accountability and healthy relationships drive personal growth. He shares why community matters for mental and physical health, and encourages viewers to challenge themselves with support from others.
That impulse to reach out and talk to somebody needs to be honored. And it is really often the jet fuel of personal development.
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We can do so much personal development, but I always say self development is often social development. As we develop ourselves, we're better to others. As we work with others, we become better ourselves. Social accountability. Social accountability. Having other people around you who are healthy is as important as quote, unquote, biological luck. It's true. The people around you really do shape your expectations and how you show up in the world. And in this category more than anything else, if the people around you tend to be healthy, whether that is emotionally healthy, mentally healthy, physically healthy, your odds go way up. Especially the odds of conscientious discipline and design. Your ability to surround yourself with people who are in a good place is one of the great gifts of our life. We are social animals. A lot of what we do in life is mimetic, meaning we kind of copy what we see of others. We set expectations on ourselves of what we see of others. A lot of our behaviors, our habits, our mental models are really a fact of sociology. And when you understand that the people you surround yourself with, you talk with, you look at, you work out with, you're around, you're healthier. I am a greatly healthier person in my life because of my wife. And for most men out there, or those who are partners in couples where one other partner is healthier than the other, that's one of the greatest gifts of all time. You know, I'm a way healthier person. I don't think I knew what kale was until I met Denise. What's kale? What you talking about? Like, I had. I had no idea. No idea.
Broccoli. What? What? Why?
Wait, that's. How come it's dark like that. I mean, there are no cheese on it. I had no idea. So that was important for me to learn a lot about. And all of my friends in the health and wellness category, like, being around them all the time and seeing their posts and their Instagrams, or being at conferences and studying their work, or going to conferences that are about health, surrounding myself in an ecosystem has made me healthier. It really has. If you look at where I grew up to where I am now, I mean, it's totally different peer set. And that was by design. You might not get to choose your biology or all your family, but you get to choose your peers and your friends and the inspirations who you follow or learn from. Especially in this category of health, once you have that energetic vision I promise you'll surround yourself with better people. Social accountability. Work out with friends, get a trainer. They expect you to show up, so you show up. Social accountability. Surround yourself with people who expect you to do well, who expect you to take care of yourself, who are empathetic when you're struggling because they themselves are empathetic. People who struggle too.
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Having vulnerable, honest, open, truthful, transparent humans around us who enable us and allow us to be vulnerable, to share our hurts, our pains, our. Our shames, our sadness, increases our mental health. When you're around people who push down emotion, who push down thinking, who push down your ability to be vulnerable, we tend to be in less health, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, all of it. When you are pushed down all the time, don't talk about that.
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Don't admit that.
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Don't let anyone know that when you're around that, that is poisonous to your health. And we as a society still do it. It's tragic how often we try to silence people who are struggling and how often we silence ourselves when we're struggling, when the very healing was gifted to us by sociology, by other people. Just like you heard earlier in a conversation of Mel Robbins reaching out to talk to her mom or to a therapist or to peer group when she's struggling. That impulse to reach out and talk to somebody needs to be honored. And it is really often the jet fuel of personal development.
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We can do so much personal development, but I always say self development is often social development. As we develop ourselves, we're better to others. As we work with others, we become better ourselves. So that social accountability in our health is important. Another big idea, and I'll end with this one. Today, just challenge yourself. Just challenge yourself. Challenge yourself at the gym next time. Challenge yourself when you're on the road next time to go a little bit further. Challenge yourself to get a little faster. Challenge yourself to be a little more mobile or flexible. Challenge yourself to stay a little longer in that yoga pose. Challenge yourself to reset your mindset after you get angry or. Or hurt or down. If you're not challenging yourself, who is? I know people say, but, Brendan, isn't perfectionism such a problematic thing in mental health? I'm like, totally, totally. That is a super thin slice. The reality is, perfectionism isn't the problem. The problem is people think they should be perfect. But perfecting ourselves, growing into our full potential, expecting a lot of ourselves, that can be done in healthy ways. Especially when you consider all the things we've talked about today, it's okay to challenge yourself again. Last time you might have challenged yourself. Maybe you got down on yourself this time. As you challenge yourself, allow the grace. Do it with social accountability. Have an energetic vision. Recalibrate. Find what feels good for you and stick to that. You can figure out a way to feel better.
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You can figure out a way to get healthier. It's going to be on your own path, in your own way. No one can tell you all the right ways to do that. You'll probably need support. You'll probably take months and months and months and years and years and years to figure it out. And often you'll fall off the wagon. You'll do a terrible thing. You'll make a bad choice. But you'll recalibrate and you'll keep getting better. Because you and I both know that every day is a great day to grow. I want to thank you all for this incredible session today, hopefully on Health. I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you'll share it with family and friends if it supported you. Just go tell people what we're doing here at Growth Day. Like holy. They're having an entire month of conversations about health, about mental health, emotional health, physical health right here in Growth Day. We'll be live every single week with you guys as always on our Wednesday wisdoms. So tune back in, watch the replays. Make a commitment Journal today about your energy vision. Please do that. Please stay. Please stay on path. Please take care of yourself. Please be kind to yourself. Please practice self respect and self love. You deserve a vibrant and energetic life. Do your work to move towards that, to align with that, to honor that impulse and know that you don't have to do it alone. We're all doing it together. We're all figuring out together. We're all on this journey together. That's why we always say every day is a great day to grow together. Thanks everybody. Talk to you next time.
