Make Love Last All Year Long - Valentine's Day Special

Valentine's Day is coming up and I know you're wondering how do you keep the love going all year round? Not just on date night for Valentine's, when you go out and you have that crappy commercial food, right? Even the best restaurants in town are making so many friggin meals that the food's not as good as it usually is. You know what I'm talking about? So here's the question. How do you get beyond the holiday? How do you create an incredible loving relationship that endures all year round so that as much magic and fire and passion or intimacy that you can put back into your Valentine also exists in March, April, May, June, July and so on. A couple simple ideas. Very, very simple that you can do. Four big ideas. Number one, before you ever get there, try this. At the beginning of the year, set your getaway dates with your partner, right? Your getaway dates. So as an example, at the beginning of the year, my wife and I usually sit down and we say, okay, over the course of this year, every 90 days, let's take a vacation. So we set it up every 90 days. Those are times when we're either going to go away, say take 3, 4, 5, 10 days off and go completely off the grid together or we'll do it at home, we'll do a staycation, but either way it's multiple days off the grid and yes, off the phone and yes, off the laptop together, where we just disappear from the world together. And people say, well, jeez, that sounds like a lot. I'm like, if you can't make a few days every quarter for your spouse, your husband, your lover, your partner, your girlfriend, your boyfriend, you're not in the game of relationships. You're prioritizing everything else and it will cost you over the long term. Now some people say, well, Brendon, but lots of married people don't do that who are still happy. I'm like, of course. But think how much more happy they could be if they spent some extra time together. Look, happy people get happier when they're together more often. So don't fear doing it. Just set it up and schedule it. The best way to have an extraordinary quality of life with your partner is to approach at the beginning of the year, block out those times just like you do during Valentine's, right? If you're gonna take Valentine's seriously, take the whole year seriously together, okay? Second big idea is you developing a personal reset. You. And what I mean by that is a lot of the conflicts and the anger and the frustration and just like the weariness that can happen in relationships and happen because of you bumbling into the relationship or bumbling into your partner. At the end of the day, when you've got all of this stress on you when you're leaving one activity and now you're going to this other activity with your partner and you're tired or you're upset or you're just kind of going through the motions because you're just dealing with life, you need to reset. So if you're somebody who like, comes home to your spouse as an example, sit in the car, close your eyes, and before you go in, just do a meditation or set an intention, but get yourself ready to go into that, right? You're leaving the work, you're going to meet your spouse at dinner somewhere. Before you go in there, get your mind in the game, Okay, I got to switch gears now into love, into putting vibrancy on this person, into just being in a good spot spiritually and emotionally and physically so I can serve and be there in love. Be more intentional. And the way to be more intentional is you need to give yourself a break. You need a reset, right? I never, I don't even call the people who are important in my life without doing a reset, right? I'm gonna be going through the work day and I'm busy and everything else, but right before I pick up the call, pick up the phone. If I'm like, let's say I'm gonna call my mom, before I call my mom, I'll go on a walk around the block so that I'm in a good spirit and I am free to participate in that call fully. I know it sounds so simple, but it's like a two minute activity, right? Doesn't take a lot to walk around the block and then call. Same thing goes for. If I'm going on a date night, I'm going to, before I enter that situation, reset. I want you to think about this. Relationships. Reset, reset, relationship. That's what I'm always doing. I'm resetting myself before I enter. That will serve you tremendously. Number three, big idea. Ambitions. You need to start talking about the ambitions your spouse has again. And maybe you already do this, and maybe it's not your spouse, maybe it's your girlfriend or your boyfriend or your partner. But listen, too many people, they kind of go through the motions. So they go to, you know, lunch and all they talk about at lunch is what's on the menu or how the kids are doing or what they're doing. At work, and they forget to dream together. Couples that stay together dream together, and they explicitly verbalize it, but your partner won't know to do that. You need to pull it from him. You need to pull it from her. In other words, ask them questions about what they want in life, what they prefer in life, what they like in life. If you're not aware of their hopes and their dreams and their ambitions, and you're not aware of their soul, you don't know them. You don't have a connection with them. You're going through the motions. And I know, look, everyone can be there if they don't reset enough or they don't do these activities enough where they break away to talk about life. I have a lot of friends who they say, you know, the best time they have with their spouse is on vacation because they sit next to each other by the pool and they talk about stuff again, usually about life and what they would like and ambitions. Don't have to be like, what? What do you want to achieve in your life's purpose? That's helpful, though. I encourage you to do that. I think more couples need to go, like, personal development seminars. And I'm not speaking that just because it's selfish. And I run personal development seminars. I think more couples need to get away and learn together so they can talk about things together. But that could be as simple as, you know, you're out with your spouse and you start talking about, hey, wow, look at this restaurant is really beautiful, right? Look at their decorations. Would you love to decorate our house? Ideally. And that starts the conversation about ambition, about your home. It can be as simple as that. It doesn't have to be life, you know, esoteric things. I think that's really important. Too many people don't know the hopes and dreams and desires and wants and needs of those around them. And that's why they struggle. And now we get to the fun stuff. This last thing I think is so important, and I bet you were really good at it at one time in your life, but watching this now, you might need a checkup. And that is flirt. You must flirt with your partner more than you think you should. Okay. Most people, when they end relationships, when they're ending the relationship, it's because the energy between the people has gone down. One of the reasons is because one person's not appreciating the other person, or one person's not respecting the other person. But either way, both probably aren't imbuing that relationship with the same flirtation that caused the intimacy at the beginning of the relationship. So how often do you flirt with your honey, your spouse, your partner? Do you walk by and give a little tap on the butt? Do you walk by and kiss them on the cheek and say something in their ear? Do you give them that energy that only you can give them? You know, you know I'm talking about you need to get that flirtation up again if you, if you want the energy to last all year round. Look, Valentine's Day comes and everyone's so sweet on each other and flirtatious and going to nice restaurants, talking about their ambitions and their relationships again. In other words, Valentine ends up being a day when people do what we talk about. They get away together. They find some time to reset and reengage that relationship. They talk about their hopes, their dreams, their needs and desires again. They flirt again. And if they could do that at Valentine's Day, can do it all year long and have an extraordinary relationship in their life. I hope this serves you and I hope you go out there and just spread some love on somebody tonight. Thank you for being here, being a part of the charge life. I love serving you as often as we do. I appreciate you being in our community and sharing posts and messages just like this one with your friends and yep, those you love to. Until we see you next time, go out there every single day of your life. Live fully, love openly, make a difference today. And remember that you can if you choose and you desire and you set the intention, live the charge life. Hey, my friend, it's Brendan. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Do me two favors. Number one, subscribe to this channel so that you continue to get updates every time I release new training for you. 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