Watch This if You Need a Confidence Boost

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Hey, my friends, it's Brendon Burchard and welcome to a special episode of the Brendon show. Hey, I'm Brendon Burchard and I'm honored to be your high performance coach today. With this episode, I've spent the last 20 years studying human behavior change and writing, coaching and training literally at the top levels on the topics of motivation, focus, productivity, confidence and more. My goal, inspired by my own personal journey, is to help you and my audience live love and matter, which means to feel more vibrant, more connected and more fulfilled in every area of your life. That's what we're doing today. If you like today's episode, grab a screenshot and share it on Instagram. Just tag me Enon Burchard so I can see you and give you a shout out or a hello. And if you want to go to another level of personal development in your life this month, be sure to join me live every month in my coaching program. Just visit hpxcoaching.com to get signed up. I teach a brand new personal development session every single month. Meaning it's like a personal development seminar for you. Live every single month on the first of the month and then after I teach that for about 75 minutes, then we do live breakouts where you get to meet new people, network with people, set your monthly goals and establish real accountability for for your growth. Listen, you know that expert guidance and real consistency and an inspiring community is critical to your growth. So join me this month on the 1st just go to hpxcoaching.com that's hpxcoaching.com it's time to level up, my friend. It's time to take your year back. It's time to find that focus and that confidence and that vibrancy and that vibe. Again, go to hpxcoaching.com and let me be your coach into full levels of high performance in every area of your life. Now, without further ado, let's jump in to today's episode.

Today, it's about you. So let's start with this definition of confidence. Confidence is your belief in your ability to figure things out. Now, often you cheat yourself because you think, well, no, confidence is I've done everything I need to do in the world and I have all the successes and I'm on the COVID of magazines and I'm rich. And we tell ourselves I'll have confidence when. But if you're going to change your life, you need to right now adopt a more confident mindset and say you Know what? Confidence. I don't have to know everything in the world. I don't have to be the most successful person on the block. What I need to do is believe in myself and believe in my ability to figure things out. Give me enough time, energy, resources, mentorship, study, I can achieve my dreams. That's where it really begins. Belief in our ability to figure things out. Now, of course, at a deep psychological level, we know that confidence is all about your sense of worth, your sense of capability or ability to do things, and your belief also in not only yourself, but your future. And let me say those couple things to you. Worth, ability, future. If you don't believe you're worth anything, obviously your confidence is there. If you don't believe you're able to go do anything, obviously your confidence is there. Psychologists often call this self efficacy. You just don't feel like you can be efficacious or be a person who gets things done in the world because you don't believe in your ability. And last, confidence has a lot to do with your perception of, of where you'll be in the future.

If you think you're going to be.

Broke and a loser in the future, obviously you're not going to go for it today, right? If you don't see, if you see yourself as lonely and an outcast in the future, you're obviously not going to walk up to her or him and say, hey, how you doing? And so these are big topics. Your worth, your sense of worth. Today we're going to really dive in there. Your abilities, we'll dive in there. And most importantly, what's your future going to be about? First, big idea. Like, these are foundational places where we're gonna get you more confidence. Okay? There's three big areas we're gonna get you more confidence. Number one, awareness. Like self awareness. Number two, ambition. Seeing your future again in a big way. And number three, action. Because with momentum develops a better confident mindset. We often think, well, when I change my thoughts, then my whole life will change. Or we think, when I do all these things, my whole is like, no, we have to immediately start taking action. Because as we get more progress in life or more momentum in life, and even if we're not confident, our confidence will grow. So let's talk about these three areas. Number one, awareness. This is so critical. Listen, I think that what happens is you sometimes fail to be as aware as you could about how far you've come. You know, you forget sometimes where you started. Sometimes you forget, you know, all the obstacles You've overcome. And so you never really integrated the wins into your body and your mind and your identity. You had some wins. You did good in that relationship. You did good at that test. You did good at that business. You did good on that day. You made that sales call. You helped that person, but you did all these actions, and you never changed the perception of yourself. You just held onto, like, well, my identity is who I was as a child or what my parents told me or what these people told me. And it's been shaped by other people versus you. Giving yourself credit when you do things, and you've overcome a lot of obstacles, but you overcame them, and you're just like, oh, well, what's the next obstacle? And you were reacting to going to the next one or chasing the next one, but you never integrated confidence. I mean, I've worked with major Olympians, major CEOs, super celebrities, on covers of magazines. And guess what? These people sometimes lack confidence, even though outwardly everyone goes, what? They've achieved so much. Yes, they achieved things, they overcame things, they helped people, and yet they never stopped and said, you know what? Let me, like, tap that into my identity a little bit. Let me allow myself to feel that credit. Let me appreciate myself and how hard it was to overcome these things or even just to survive today. Because once you start acknowledging having awareness to the struggles that you've had in your life and you still survived and you're still here, and you still want to help people and you still want to be good and you still want to love and you still want to build, give yourself credit for that. Give yourself credit for being here. Because I can remember the tens of thousands of other videos I shot. I know how far I came. I'm like, I'm getting better at this every day. Let's just keep going. Let's just keep working towards this. And I think that's important, that you've overcome a lot of struggles. I overcame bankruptcy. I overcame, like, harsh judgments. I overcame, you know, growing up in a place where my mother was discriminated against, my dad was dealing with, you know, basically, like, PTSD from being in Vietnam. I grew up in an environment that was incredibly angry and economically depressed. And now I'm living in my dream place. Believe me, I only got here because I gave myself credit. Every time I overcame those things. I overcame a harsh childhood. I overcame bankruptcy. I overcame failure. I overcame people making fun of me and all those things where usually those happen to you and you get discouraged. I say, I'm still alive. Good Job, Brendon, you still showed up today. You woke up, you got to work. Good job, Brendon. Yes. You're not. Maybe at the beginning you're not changing the world, but you're working each day to get there. Come on, kid. Good for you. You know what? Everyone else would have quit and here you are showing up, getting things done. Good for you. And even on those bad days where I'm not doing anything, I'm like, well, you know what? At least I'm still a good person. I didn't turn to the dark side when all these people tried to pull me there. Good. Okay, here we go. Just, you gotta give yourself that credit. You've come so far, so start with that. Self awareness. What obstacles did you overcome? Also give yourself credit for what you're good at. See, you're good at things, but you don't recognize you're good at things. Cause sometimes you're waiting to be the best in the world or you're waiting to be like a kur billionaire at it. It's like, no, you're good at things. People tell you you're good at things. You know that you're good at things, but you just think, ah, maybe one day I'll give myself credit when I've made it. No, if you don't give yourself credit now, don't fool yourself and think you will when you get external recognition. That's what I'm telling you. The movie stars I work with, guess what? Sometimes they never give themselves any credit. They're on their 10th movie, right? Or this big entrepreneur who's on their fifth business, just sold another one, doing really great, still lacking confidence why they didn't give themselves credit. So please make sure you do that. Self awareness, being aware of what you're good at and giving yourself credit for how far you came is a foundational element to confidence. And you need to do that every time you go in a new situation. Even if you don't know the situation, even if you don't, you're not like, I don't know how this is going to go. Go like, well, I survived all that. I can handle this. You're scared to go to a networking party tonight. You survived your childhood. If you survived your childhood, you can handle a few trips to the punch bowl and say, hey, how you doing? So give yourself a little credit here, my friend. You can handle this.

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The second big idea I really want you to focus on is your ambitions. Often when we really lose confidence, we've really lost sight of the future. You know, we're so trapped in today and doing things and we're busy and we've lacked that ability to really connect with the dream, to see it, to feel it, to touch it and let the dream energize you. Even if you don't feel good about yourself, there's days I don't feel good about myself. Even today. Even today, I'm a human, just like you. There's days I'm like, ugh, there's so much going on. I messed up this thing. And it's easy to do that. But if I detach from the future, I can guarantee my performance goes down and I can guarantee my confidence goes down. See, part of confidence is you see yourself in the future in a good way. You see yourself in the future having good things, doing Good things, feeling good things, making meaning, making a difference, having good relationships. So here's what I want to challenge you to do, if you would. I want you to. Every morning that you wake up, every morning that you wake up, for the next five days, when you wake up in the morning, before you get out of bed, I want you to lay there and just Visualize your life 10 years from now being great. If you want to. You know, like, for me, I wanted to be a public speaker. So I would literally lay in bed in the mornings, and I would just see myself on stages, and I'd imagine myself speaking, and it would make me sweat and get all nervous and weird because I had a lot of anxiety about that. At one point in my life, I would see myself in front of video cameras on television. Even though I had a lot of anxiety and fear about it, I would force myself to see myself doing it well over and over and over. I would force myself seeing myself making my difference. I would force myself seeing myself writing books. I would just visualize it every morning. And were there mornings I didn't believe in it absolutely. But by seeing and being in the dreams in your mind, it trains your mind to be a little more confident. Because when you understand something or see it, you get a little more confidence, right? Familiarity by itself can breed confidence. Think about why you're so confident in the things that you do all the time. Like if I ask you to tie your shoe or ride a bike, you've done it enough times. It's real to you. You can see it, you can imagine it, you can feel it, taste it, experience it in your mind. So you're confident about your ability to do it well. Now, the future, we need to pull that to your mind today and start having you visualize it more, see it more, see it more. Because if you can see it, you can achieve it. You've heard that in personal development. I know you have, so that's really important. Third big thing I want you to think about today is action. Right? Action. I said at the very beginning, momentum develops the mindset. Momentum conditions the mind to confidence. Like just moving forward every day, even in small things. If you just said, every day I'm going to do three things to move my life forward, and you just did those three things every single day. Today I'm doing these three things to move my life forward. It could be sending an email, calling somebody, having that prospect meeting. It could be as simple as, like, oh, okay, I'm gonna work towards this goal. I'm gonna finish this presentation. I'm gonna create this thing, whatever it is for you. Like, do that thing. Maybe it's like, oh, today I'm gonna work out today. Great. You worked out. Your mind goes, I said I was gonna work out. I worked out. I developed a little more confidence. Cause you were congruent with your intentions. See, action is what makes us congruent with our intentions. That old thing you've heard me say, if you've been studying my work for a long time. Intention without initiative is just sorry. Hopes. It really is. Intention without initiative is just sorry. Hope.

You have to apply yourself again.

You're already a confident person. Okay, what's the next level of action that will raise you up to the next level of success? What's the next level of action? And bold decision making that will change your life? I know you might already be a confident person. So what's your next level action? Well, Brendan, I already feel confident going up and talking to a person. Great. Now go up, talk to four people. Good job. Okay, well, Brendan, I already feel good, you know, trying to put out this message. Great. Do it again. Be more vulnerable. Oh, Brendan, I already feel good. You know, I started the business and I built to this. Great. Double the business. Let's see you do it. So when you challenge yourself to take actions that are a little bit outside your pay grade, a little bit outside your comfort zone, and you actually follow through, congruence comes in and you go, I set that intention. It was hard. I took the challenge and I made it happen.

That's it.

That's really, truly it.

All right. Hey, my friend. I hope you enjoyed today's episode. If you're ready to go to another level, don't Forget, go to hpxcoaching.com Let me be your coach. Let me spend the first of each month with you giving you a personal development seminar. Let me help you get unstuck, break through your emotional blocks, find your real.

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