Workout: Boredom

What do you do when you're bored to death? You know, when you know you've got some goals, you know, you want to improve your life, you want to make the magic happen, but you just find yourself over and over bored. You know, you're bored during the weekday, you're bored during the weekend. And it's like there's all this opportunity, all these things to look and learn and participate with, but you're bored and it keeps happening and you don't know what to do about that. Well, first, don't hate yourself for that because I know how that can feel. You're like, oh my God, there's so many great things in the world, there's so many problems, and I'm bored. What a jerk I am. And I don't want you to feel like that because believe it or not, everybody gets bored at times. So don't take it as some like, existential threat, like, oh my God, my life must suck, or I don't know what's going on. It's like, no, no, we just have to refocus you and realign you and change some of the ways you're showing up in your life, in your career, in your relationships. It's something you can totally fix. So you have to challenge yourself to show up in everything you do with way more presence and engagement. See, boredom isn't always about this long term thing that you don't have a purpose or a goal. It's that you're kind of going through the motions and you're allowing yourself to go through the motions each day. It's the way that you are doing things that is making you bored. You're not fully engaging it. So yes, you're busy, but by the end of the day when you look back and you say, did I give my all today? Re engage today with full presence, full, full challenge of yourself. You know, people are married to people or have long term relationships and what they end up doing is going through the motions with their relationships too. You know, they don't even know what their partner likes or their spouse likes and so they don't engage that. And now that relationship becomes boring because you're not mutually trying to do something together. Explore new restaurants, travel new places, try new things, go for new walks in different parts of town. Like, try to help each other achieve each other's goals. Your relationships are the greatest fountainhead for all of life's vibrancy. So if you're bored, reengage those relationships, like go way deep in relationships, get greater depth and just feeling there, that will change things for you. What happens is people go, well, I'm bored. So what do they do? They turn on TV and they just start randomly flipping through instead. If you'd say, okay, I'm bored. What are the long term skills I need to develop? What would I love to learn about this part of the world or that part of the world, or this idea or this strategy or this skill set or this business idea? And instead of going to television, like literally go to the bookstore, get some books, get some biographies. If you're not a reader, that's great. Then find some podcasts that you can listen to that will re engage your learning journey. Watch some videos on Ted, watch some videos on YouTube, watch some videos that aren't like just casual like browsing through, but are rather like very directed towards helping you develop. Because when you engage personal development again, professional development again, when you say, oh, I'm gonna really learn about this thing, your body and your mind gets enthusiastic about it. I've never met somebody who gets bored learning about something they care about. Right? You might get bored with the way you're doing it, but now when you really reengage and you challenge yourself, that will make a big difference. You've got to take the mantle of leadership in whatever you are doing in your life. You might not accept it, you haven't owned it yet, but you are leading the kids. You are leading your peers at school. You are leading the people at work the way that you show up. See, people who are bored are often bored because they're in their own head. They're not someone saying, you know what, I'm a role model. People are paying attention to me. I want the kids to see a fully vitalized mom. I want my team to see me have the best attitude here. I want other people to see me following my dreams. So I'm going to work hard for that. They're not a aware of others and they're not aware that you are a role model. Good or bad. You really want to get out of boredom. Start leading people, start defining a bigger vision with other people. Start setting bigger goals for your teams, for your family, for other people. And start talking about those goals all the time. What do they really want? How are they working towards it? Cheer them on, empower them, inspire them, give them tools, but lead other people to a bigger vision. This comes back to you also leading yourself. You've got to reengage yourself in a different way to avoid boredom. Like, you gotta paint a big vision. I remember Maybe four or five years ago in my own career, I was like, everything was coming along. We'd kinda hit way bigger goals than I ever wanted in my entire life. And everything was going great. And so what did I do? I said, you know what, if I just accept where I'm at right here, I can be happy, I can be satisfied, I can be fulfilled. However, in three or four years, I'm going to end up bored. I'd better take on something big right now. I'd better decide instead of just doing my things, I'm going to start a movement. And so I said, I'm going to start a movement around this topic of high performance, about pushing ourselves to reach the next level of success, re engaging in life in a different way. I'm going to do some research, I'm going to roll out some new brands, wrote some new events, or out some new courses. I'm gonna start a movement around this topic of high performance. Cause nobody had owned it. And I said, I'm take that, I'm gonna own that out in the world. And it's been a great challenge for me to lead this movement of high performance. If I just kept saying, I'll just teach personal development all the time. But I didn't decide to make it a bigger community thing, a bigger movement thing. I'd been bored by now. I took the mantle of leadership. Even though it's hard, even though I don't know what I'm doing sometimes, even though I gotta build a bigger team and do all these big challenging things, that's the changing of the game. There's so many things that you can engage with, change your life, give you back that full charge and put you on the path to high performance.