Workout: Confidence

Don't tie confidence to image. Don't tie your confidence to image. Like, how do I look like? You know, this is that old thing. It's like, oh, well, if you're not in the perfect body weight, there's perfect size jeans, or you don't have six pack abs, or you hate your hair that day, or you know, something in terms of your image is not what you want, then what ends up happening is you lessen your sense of and you feel like your confidence is lowered. You know, I don't like my body, Brendon, so I'm lacking confidence. I'm like, why is your confidence tied to your body, huh? Or they say, well, Brendan, you know, I'm embarrassed by, you know, my website. It's not as nice as other people. So I've lost confidence in my dream. I'm like, why is your confidence tied to your website? We just got divorced and, you know, it's embarrassing when I walk the dog because I'm not with my husband anymore and I know what the neighbors are thinking. So I just feel like I'm lacking confidence. I'm like, why is your confidence tied to what you look like when you are walking a dog? What we do is we externalize our confidence and it causes so much pain. We gotta change this deal, y'. All. We think it's the outcome that gives us confidence. But if that's your life, you'll never have the confidence that you really could have. The accolade, the award, how you look in the mirror, those things are gonna change throughout the life. Now you're going to hit a certain look and you're going to want a different look. Or you're going to have a certain award and want a different award or a bigger award or a certain bank account and want the next level of bank account. Because those external things are always moving. If your confidence is rooted in those external things moving all the time, you feel like this all the time, right? A lot of your insecurities is because you're trying to glom onto all these external things. Image, right? These external things. And I want these external things, but they're not solid. You've got to start rewarding yourself based on effort and not outcome. Instead of like, good job, Johnny. That final picture won the best picture over the seven other kids. Instead of saying externalizing his comp, good job for that thing instead, good job, Johnny. You kind of painted in your unique way. You worked hard at that. You spent a lot of time on this. In other words, we got to learn to reward our effort, not the image. Number one. I personally believe that confidence, real confidence, deep confidence, soul driven confidence is really the belief in my ability to figure things out. It's not about having or even having done that exact thing. It's I believe inherently in myself and that I can learn it, I can do it, I can learn it, I can do it. If you don't have confidence right now at the level you need to lead, serve and earn at the next level, it is not based on what you have currently achieved right now because you've already struggled through things. The problem is you never gave yourself sufficient credit on the struggle, on the effort, on the heads down, on the working through, on the belief, on the desire of the hunger, on all of the stuff that was going on to get you where you're at. Don't tie your confidence to image.