Workout: Do What Matters

This is a very common thing. I learned from a very famous female executive leadership coach. She was sharing with me that a lot of her clients, when they were down or disappointed, they'd be at home. And she said that what they would do is they decide to reorganize their closet. And I said, they said they reorganized their closet. And I said, did that help them? She goes, of course not. I said, did that make them feel better? She's like, a little bit. And I said, well, did you then tell them to later on when they feel bad to organize the closet again? And she's just like, laughing. We're having this conversation. And she goes, no. The. The truth is organizing the closet, it makes them feel good and gives them something to do, but it's actually a delay tactic from facing what is real and needed. And so it's just as bad as comfort food. I was like, wow. And so she asked me, she said, so, Brendan, what's your closet? I was like, oh, that's good. So what's your closet, Brenda? How do. How do you. Like, what do you do to delay taking on the things that are necessary when you are down or frustrated or hurt? And I had to really think about that. What. What do I do? That's not helping. But it's like a little busy work. It's kind of shuffling papers around. And I was like, oh, you know what I do? I go to my journals and my notes and I. I kind of review them or organize them. Just not helping. And I said, dang it. Okay, good. I said, what should I do? She goes, find the needle movers and get a little progress towards that. That major activity or major project that actually matters. Just don't give time to all the other busy work, because that's just comfort food. Dang. That is a really huge insight. Progress towards those things that matter. So what I'll do is I'll identify my five major moves, and I'm like, I'll swiftly move towards one, because momentum can shift mindset. And so if I'm in dark disappointment, down momentum, like, achieve some goals. But here's what's important. Notice I said the five major moves. That's what I mean with progress. Because what a lot of people mistakenly do is they just start doing lots of tasks and activities that aren't correlated in any way to the meaningful pursuits of life. So here's what happened. I'm bummed. I'm down. So I'm do a bunch of work. Next day, they still feel bummed and down, because what was their work, there's a bunch of activities that actually didn't matter, that didn't give them any meaning. So if you're down, the most important work you need to be doing is the ones that you do feel connection, enthusiasm, meaning, fulfillment, satisfaction from those ones that do intrinsically bring you joy. Those are the ones that I want you to progress towards. Matter of fact, I really want you when you're feeling down, disappointed, major setbacks, dark days, what I really desperately want you to do is stop multitasking and doing all the little, like, busy work, things that don't matter. Find an activity that you find to be creative, compelling, engaging, filling, and do that, progress towards the things that have meaning.