Workout: Feel the Win

On December 31st, when you're looking back at the whole year and you're like, what did I do this year? Oh, I can't really remember. Do I feel good about this year? I don't know. You know what I'm talking about. So you need to have a weekly scheduled block time where you think about the week with the sole purpose of asking, what did I do well this week? What do I achieve this week? What went well this week? What good things happened that I didn't even anticipate? What good things did I do? How can I feel good about something that happened this week? What could I notice that happened that brought me joy or brought me fulfillment or brought me a sense of accomplishment or even just made me feel more connected? I wasn't a super confident kid. I kind of had to fake my way into it by revving myself up and doing a lot of things that motivational guys talk about, like rah rah stuff. But we all know that's like a band aid. At some point we have to integrate our accomplishments and achievements into our identity if we're going to feel stronger. So when's your time going to be? What happened that was great this week? How can I feel good about something? What can I notice that I appreciated? What small step did I take that you know what, Maybe it didn't get a big win or maybe it didn't get appreciated, but it moved me forward, even if it was just a little tiny thing, even if it was just sending an email, even if it was just making a call. What small steps did I make this week that are going to make me better next week? What small steps did I take this week that will help me continue climbing the mountain towards my highest ideals? What small steps did I take that I can celebrate? If I don't ask that question every Sunday? It just doesn't happen. Feel the win. You have to relive it and feel it and integrate it if it's really going to generate confidence for you. If you just want to sit there, close your eyes, think about something great you did a small step you took, and then just allow that heartfelt deep connection of satisfaction or engagement that comes with recognizing yourself. It's your time to get a better connection with your internal world. And one way to do that is allow yourself to feel those small little steps and wins. Like, literally feel it. Little steps, and I'll allow myself to feel it. I like, even if it's a total disaster and people call me horrible names, I'll be like, but we did it. You've never met a kid who celebrates the dumbest little things like me, right? If you're ever around my wife or my family, we're so easily amused. We take so much joy in the smallest dumb little things and I think that's what spurs on that curiosity and later that confidence in life. So allow yourself to really feel it. Connect with what you're doing again. A lot of people have a job they don't love and they start disconnecting their feelings. A lot of people are in a relationship that maybe isn't as fulfilling as they had hoped to be at this stage of their life. So they disconnect. And we're so good with anytime a feeling comes up or we're unsure what to do, we turn to our phone so we can disconnect or we turn on Netflix so we can disconnect. Reaching that next level of enjoyment in life is re engaging, reconnecting, allowing the feeling to come back in again.