Workout: Train Your Mind

You have to teach your mind to honor the struggle. You have to teach your mind. Every day you're getting discouraged instead of saying, well, I guess I'll quit. I suck. This is no good. It's never going to happen. You have to take control of the self talk and honor the struggle. Like, literally. Tell your mind how to deal with the process. Tell your mind, no, no, no. This process, this hardship, this struggle, it's part of conditioning me to be ready for the Dr. To succeed. This part of the struggle that I hate right now, it's developing character. It's making me force it, it's helping me grow. In other words, anticipate the fire, anticipate the difficulty, anticipate that it's gonna suck. Anticipate the days that you just don't like it. You know, I'm a high performance coach, so I'm blessed to work with some of the most extraordinary people in the world. And some of my favorite clients in the past have been working with the US Military. If you ever heard that Green Beret conversation where they use this ph. Embrace the suck, right? Army Special Forces will say, like, embrace the suck. Like, yeah, this sucks, but it makes us awesome. Like, let's dig in, let's get better, let's skill up. Let's use this to build our character, our strengths, our skills, our ability to win in the future. So all the things that suck right now, you're like, oh, my God, I can't figure this out. It's going to make you better. And I don't mean this just philosophically. Let me give you an example. At the very beginning of my writing career, I went completely broke. I mean, totally broke, totally bankrupt. Like, literally nothing. Wiped out clean because I didn't know how to do it. I didn't know how to write a book. I didn't know how to make money. I didn't know how to promote it. Just completely wiped out 100%. I couldn't even have credit cards because I had gone into bankruptcy. So they took the credit cards. I had no credit nothing. I had a debit card and no money on it. And it was like the worst time. And I remember I'm going through this and I'm like. And I want to be like a personal development guy. I want to be a life coach. I want to be a high performance coach one day. I want to inspire people and I can't afford a burrito. I was like. It was miserable, but I was like, no, this is going to teach you to be frugal. This is going to teach you to manage cash. This is going to teach you to be resourceful. When everybody else has fancy stuff, you're going to outperform them with stuff that isn't as great. I'm going to learn to be a resourceful human and prioritize being innovative and creative versus just having all this stuff. So I didn't have the fancy cameras. I wrote on my. I borrowed a three legged table from my mom from the sewing room, you know, and I would just like type on that. I borrowed a laptop from somebody to write my book. I was just like, you know, pinching every penny and dime to afford rent. And then when I couldn't afford rent, I had to move in with my girlfriend and ask friends for help and support. And it was so humbling. And notice I said humb. I didn't say embarrassing, I didn't say shameful, I didn't say sad, I didn't say discouraged. It was humbling. Right now I'm earning it. I'm putting in the miles, I'm dealing with the hardship. I'm going to honor this struggle as part of the process. Keep a good attitude, Brendan, because if you can survive this, you can build anything. If you can rise from this, you can crush anything. If you deal with this emotional hardship now, you will have intellectual, intellectual, physical, spiritual, emotional confidence for life. If you deal with this tragedy difficulty, when it gets easier, you won't give up and you won't quit. Because you know what happens? A lot of people do achieve their dream. And guess what? Once you achieve your dream, guess what? You don't have the dream anymore. You got the goal, you made it happen. And now if you show up and all is smooth sailing and all is easy, you know what a lot of people do when they get success the way they perceived it, they become tragic losses. And what are you without all the things? You're who you became as you strive.