The Real Reason You’re Working Too Hard

The biggest reason you work too hard, the biggest reason you work too hard is you don't trust anyone else to do it. Look, let me tell you a story and I'll tell you some of the other reasons that people work too hard. People like you and me. So I was coaching a new CEO of a healthcare business who was all up in everybody's business. The company was in the middle of a sale. The founding CEO is exiting. There wasn't a lot of years of lead up to this transition. We hadn't developed a whole succession plan. And now I needed to help coach the company through the transition and deal with all that. But the new CEO was so worried about the old and the new team and everyone getting together well and their role as the new CEO that they were micromanaging everyone in process, including me as the coach, telling me how to do my job. I saw them getting in everyone's business, all the place. And behind the scenes, people were complaining to me. And the CEO acknowledged to me, yeah, I'm kind of micromanaging. I've got to make sure this thing goes right. They acknowledged to me that they were doing it. They didn't really acknowledge the cost. I think they were clueless about the cost. But they, they said, I'm, look, I'm doing this because. And then they had a reason, right, because it's got to go, right, Because I have to make sure, because my butts on the line. Because it's got to go, because it matters, right? There's a lot of my career, everything else. And then they went ahead and did it anyway, knowing that it wasn't the best idea, but being willing to trade off that whole thing. Well, look, what happened is that the whole transition took a lot longer. There was a significant impact on the churn of the leadership and people in the team. New people that should have worked out didn't work out. Old people couldn't wait to get out the door. There was a whole lot of issues with that. Now the transition eventually went, but there was a real impact to the business, the business performance, the financial results and the cohesion of the team. Time lost, money lost because of that CEOs micromanaging, they just couldn't let go. And they were willing to look at the cost of what they were doing. Now we had a lot of people in, in this business and there was a lot of money tied up. This is a major company that had grown from, you know, a handful of people once upon a time to a big company. Now there's a big exit and all and a lot of money riding on a successful transition. Except we've got a leader who's, who's, you know, doing it the way they're doing it because they're terrified that the people aren't going to get it right and something's going to go wrong. They ultimately, they don't trust the, the other people involved, including me, the coach. Right. Telling me how to do an opening exercise or how to run a time or I, any number of things that, you know, I have done for many, many years, like basic level kinds of things. Right. So a fundamental, like root core thing. And it probably wasn't the first time this person had done things, I think in any time of pressure over their life. And in fact I learned as I peeled back in conversation they had done this since a very early age when they got on a project with fellow students at a young age in class and the others weren't picking up the thing. They just did everybody's job for everyone else. And they did very well in school and in their career with that. Except there's a cost, right? We'll, we'll get to that as well in a future episode. But let's talk about the reasons first. It could be that you do that for that reason. That's probably the biggest reason. But trust and perfectionism, this thought that only I can do it, only I can do this, can get this right. And then you and you might have a combination of these things. The second one that we hear a lot of is fear of failure. Right. I'm not sure how this is going to go. I can't afford for this to do. I've got to work really, really hard and I'm just afraid something's going wrong. And it could be there are real consequences, like there's a lot of money on the line, there's your career. It could be, depending on how it is, your house, your family, your relationship. Like there's things hanging on your success or so you think in the business and you're just not at all confident of the whole thing. Another one could be your ego. So this is the hero syndrome, right? So the third big reason is you just are a big old ego that's unchecked and lacking a lot of self awareness and you're going to save the day. And look, it's, it's intoxicating to be the hero. And there are many times when those of us who started companies love that. I love to be the hero. I love to do. But a hero requires a victim, a Hero requires a crisis, right? For a hero to thrive and to show up and to be a hero. Need problems to go deal with. Our ego's deeply invested in that and so that could be a play. Another one is kind of habit. Like it's a founder syndrome. And it wasn't the case of the CEO that I was talking about in the story, but it could be that you started the company this way. I have another company that I'm coaching actually right now. Founders started working in a particular way. Now the company's growing and going through rounds of funding and it's time to change their leadership and approach. It's time for them to bring more like direction and mentorship and coaching to the team and less doing and less involvement in every little thing. But they have a habit. This is the founder syndrome, right? A lot of past based behaviors that they haven't snapped out of yet. Maybe they've never done it, maybe they've never had to work a large distributed team where they didn't have direct control in things and that's all they know to do. They haven't developed that muscle yet. And then the last one, at least our top five is they're just too busy to delegate, right? So I'm really busy right now. I'll work on delegating later. After this crisis, after this project, after the thing, and pretty much like after this week things are going to get easier is a kind of thing we tell ourselves from now until we die or retire. So like after this week things will settle down, right? That's like a thing that you find yourself saying and at some point wake up and I don't know, maybe in your, in your 40s and you're like, oh, I've been saying that for a while, haven't I? Maybe that like dealing with one crisis after another, one major project, one crunch, one like whatever, is kind of just how life is. Like we're always kind of. You do get a vacation every now and then. You get a breather, you get a good night's sleep every now and then. But a lot of times, a lot of what we got is, is kind of that, right? So let's think about the reasons that you and I do it. I can say that at one point or another I've done all five of these. So I don't think that like doing them now, you might have one more than another that you will do. Definitely. The ego hero syndrome is a kind of thing that I've done plenty of times. I've had fear of failure More than once I've been in a habit like being a founder, just having my hands all up in the business and I'm just used to it. And so I just jump in without even thinking. I've been so busy sometimes that I haven't handed off that one. I do a little bit less the trust and perfectionism, a little bit less for me. So what is it for you? What do you think it is like? You know, I can think of different CEOs that have this playing and then not just CEOs but other leaders in the companies, whether they be a small entrepreneurial company or a fairly large mid stage company. I can see these going on all the time with the different leaders that, that I've worked with. Now here's the deal. Overworking, overworking, working too hard, it isn't a badge of honor. It's a sign that you haven't really built and empowered your team. So this is a useful thing to remember here. Your overwork, your micromanaging isn't a badge of honor. It's a sign you haven't built a real team. So think about why you do what you do. And that is maybe the opening to begin to shifting it to getting out of this mode, to moving beyond to something else. The first let's look at why you do what you do and then maybe you could invent a new why. You could make up a why that empowers you in some way to shift your behavior. Look, I'm not micromanaging, I'm not overworking today. I'm going home early, I'm working on my tennis game, I'm going sailing, I'm going surfing, I'm going to take a run, I'm going to play with my kids because I'm building a great team, because I'm building a company that lasts, because, right? So what is the why that you would invent that would shift it? Your work, your product, your service, your marketplace. The problem you solve in the world is so important that you've got to retrain yourself from this habitual way of dealing with crises and problems and challenges. You've got to retrain yourself because your new why is so important. The mission, the purpose, the team, the legacy of the business is that much more important. In my coaching all the time. This is a key thing that we focus on. Aside from the basics of scaling up, right, Developing a great strategy and dialing in the execution, getting the team right and optimizing the cash and all that stuff, the strategy and the planning work that we do through all that is you as the leader and your behaviors. How do we shift your mindset that so if you've got one of these whys for working too hard for micromanaging, let's have you create and invent a new why that has new behaviors naturally show up. So what is a why that makes shifting your behavior so important? The mission, the purpose, the company, the reason for the company's being. That's the kind of thing. So we want to help you build a stronger team so that you scale with ease so you can grow your business without sacrificing your life. That's the kind of thing we really care about here. I hope this has been helpful. I hope it gives you something to think about. I'll be back. I'll talk to you more about some of the ways that we do it, how we shift this more. 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