Audiobook Part 11. High Performance Habits: Summary Guide

Summary Whatever you are, be a good one. Abraham Lincoln Personal Habits Habit one Seek clarity Practice one Envision the future four. Have vision and consistently set clear intentions for who you want to be each day, how you want to interact with others, what skills you must develop to win in the future, and and how you can make a difference and serve with excellence. Never enter a situation without thinking through these four Self Social Skills Service Practice two Determine the feeling you're after. Ask yourself frequently what is the primary feeling I want to bring to the situation? And what's the primary feeling I want to get from the situation? Don't wait for emotions to land on you. Choose and cultivate the feelings that you wish to consistently experience and and share in life. Practice 3 Define what's meaningful. Not everything that is achievable is important and so achievement is not the issue. Alignment is. Look to upcoming months and projects and determine what might bring you enthusiasm, connection, and satisfaction. Then spend more time there. Always be asking, how can I make this effort personally meaningful to me? Habit 2 Generate Energy Practice 1 Release Tension Set intention. Use transitions between activities to renew your energy. Do this by closing your eyes, practicing deep breathing, and releasing tension in your body and thoughts in your mind. Try to do this at least once every hour. Once you feel tension, lift, set a clear intention for your next activity. Open your eyes and get to work with vibrant focus. Bring the joy. Be responsible for the energy you bring to your day and each situation in life. Focus especially on bringing joy to your activities. Anticipate positive outcomes from your actions. Ask yourself questions that generate positive emotions. Set triggers to remind you to be positive and grateful and appreciate the small things and the people around you. Practice 3 Optimize health. If the demands of your life require you to learn quickly, deal with stress. Be alert, pay attention, remember important things, and keep a positive mood. Then you must take sleep, exercise, and nutrition more seriously. Work with your doctor and other professionals to optimize your health. You already know things you should be doing. Do them. Habit 3 Raise necessity. Know who needs your A game. You cannot become extraordinary without a sense that it's absolutely necessary to excel for yourself and for others. From now on, whenever you sit down at your desk, ask, who needs me on my A game the most right now? What about my identity and external obligations makes it imperative for me to deliver today? Affirm the why. When you verbalize something, it becomes more real and important to you. Speak your why to yourself out loud often and share it with others. This will motivate you to live in congruence with your commitments. So the next time you want to increase your performance necessity, declare to yourself and others what you want and why you want it. Level up. Your squad emotions and excellence are contagious. So spend more time with the most positive and successful people in your peer group. Then continue building your ideal network of supportive and empowering people. Ask how can I work with the best people as I embark on this next project? How can I inspire others to raise their standards? On page 346 the social habits begin increase productivity practice 1 increase the outputs that matter. Determine the outputs that matter the most in determining your success, differentiation and contribution to your field or industry. Focus there. Say no to almost everything else and be prolific in creating those outputs which with high standards of quality. Remember, the main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing Practice two Chart your five moves. Ask if there were only five major moves to make that goal happen, what would they be? Think of each major move as a big bucket of activities a project. Break the projects down into deliverables, deadlines and activities. Once you're clear on these things, put them into your calendar and schedule the bulk of your time with working on them. Practice 3 Get insanely good at key skills Progressive Mastery Determine the five major skills you need to develop over the next three years to grow into the person you hope to become. Then set out to develop those skills with obsessive focus through the 10 steps of progressive Mastery. The most important thing is to always be developing the critical skills to your future success. Habit 5 develop influence practice 1 teach people how to think in every situation of influence, prepare by asking yourself, how do you want other people to think about A themselves, B other people, and c the world at large? Then go communicate that consistently shape people's thinking by by saying things like think of it this way. What do you think about what would happen if we tried? Practice 2 challenge people to grow. Observe people's character, connections and contributions and actively challenge them to develop those things even further. Ask people, if they gave their all, if they could be treating those around them better and if they could give even more or serve with even greater action, excellence and distinction. Practice 3 role model the way 71% of high performers say they think about being a role model daily. They want to be a good role model for their family, the team, and the greater community. So ask how can I handle this situation in a way that will inspire others to believe in themselves, be their best, and serve others with integrity, heart, excellence? Habit 6 demonstrate courage. Honor the struggle when you have the opportunity to learn and serve you. Don't complain about the effort involved. View struggle as a necessary, important and positive part of your journey so that you can find true peace and personal power. Don't bemoan the inevitable hardships of self improvement and chasing your dreams and have reverence for challenge. Practice 2 Share your truth and ambitions. The main motivation of humankind is to be free to express our true selves and pursue our dreams without restriction to experience what may be called personal freedom. Follow this impulse by consistently sharing your true thoughts, feelings, needs and dreams with other people. Do not play small to placate others. Live your truth. Practice 3 Find someone to fight for. We need a noble cause to rise for. High performers tend to make that cause just one person. They want to fight for that person so they can be safe, improve or live a better quality of life. You will do more for others than for yourself and in doing something for others, you will find your reason for courage and your cause for focus excellence. These six habits and the three practices that strengthen each are your path to an extraordinary life. There are other basic strategies in the book, but these six meta habits are the ones that most move the needle toward progress. For even more resources including checklists, posters, assessments, day planners, journals and corporate training tools, visit highperformance Habits Tools. Get more professional resources and continuing education opportunities@highperformanceinstitute.com where you'll be able to see information about these four things. First is the Planner. Need help managing your daily workflow and priorities, setting goals and evaluating yourself each week so you can succeed over the long term? Get the High Performance Planner by me, Brendon Richard. 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Application only@highperformanceinstitute.com Acknowledgments this is the sixth time in my life that I've sat down to write the acknowledgments section after having just completed the last page of the manuscript. I feel blessed knowing that so many of the people who inspired and supported the last five books are still in my life. Long term relationships are more important to or perhaps the very meaning of long term success. If you're familiar with my work, you know that I feel grateful to God first and always for the second chance I was given after my car accident. Every day I hope to earn that blessing, what I call life's golden ticket, by seeking to live more fully, love more openly and make a greater difference. My work would not have been possible without the love and strength of my parents, siblings, mentors and wife. Mom, thank you for showing all of us how to honor the struggle and bring the joy to every moment of our lives. Dad, we miss you. I've never gone a day or written a page without thinking of you since you passed. David, Brian and Helen, thank you for inspiring me to be a better man and brother. I love you more than you know. Linda Belew, you were an extension of my family and my first real mentor. Thank you for teaching me to create, write, film and lead with excellence. Denise my sunshine, thank you for believing in me through it all and for showing me what it looks like to be a thoughtful, kind, loving and extraordinary human. You are the most remarkable person I've ever met and the greatest gift of my life. To Marty and Sandy, thanks for the example and for cheering us on. While I frequently disappeared over the course of two and a half years writing this book, my remarkable team at the Burchard Group cheered me on, protected my time and kept the momentum serving our students and mission to my team. Thank you for your commitment, excellence and creativity in amplifying my work well beyond these pages. Few will ever know the blessings and sweeping difficulties of of serving millions of students and tens of millions of fans in this genre. But you know, and you make it happen every day. I'm so thankful and in awe of what we've built. Denise McIntyre somehow manages to keep us all on track. Thank you D Mac, for your extraordinary belief, trust, leadership and friendship. You've been there through it all and I can never say thank you enough. Mel Abraham has guided many of my big business decisions, introduced me on stage, kept away the bad guys and become one of my dearest friends. Everyone should be so lucky to have such generous comrades as D. Mac and Mel. This is the broader team whom I'm privileged to serve with every Jeremy Abraham, Adam Coleman, Karen Gelsman, Michael Hunter, Alex Haug, Hannah Haughty, Michelle Hulyv, Maggie Kirkland, Jessica Lippman, Helen Lynch, Jason Miller, Terry Powers, Travis Shields, Michelle Smith, Danny Southwick and Anthony Trucks. Thanks too to the original BE crew, Jennifer Robbins, who supported my early career and set the bar of excellence that we continue to strive to meet. There are other extraordinary people who made this book happen. Bringing a book to life and market takes a lot of hands. Scott Hoffman My agent believed in me from day one through six books. I've never felt alone knowing you're out there buddy. I'm honored to have you as a friend and comrade on this incredible journey. Reid Tracy took me in at Hay House after another publisher failed to see the promise of the motivation manifesto. Reed, I will never forget your generosity and the honor that you've given me to be part of of the Hayhouse family. You're the most important leader in the history of personal development publishing and I hope you know the impact you've had on me and the world. Perry Crow, my editor at Hay House, ushered this baby to completion with a patient hand and kind spirit. Thanks Perry for your excellence in editing and corralling. Constance Hale took a look at the first draft and provided great early edits and and comments and thankfully scared me enough to begin again. Thanks Connie. If this book is in decent shape, it's because of Michael Carr, the best editor I have ever worked with. Michael has edited all my books, which has never been an easy task since I've written each in a new voice and generally failed to learn from previous mistakes. Thank you Michael for all the late nights on this one and and for making me appear a better writer to the many friends, psychologists, professional coaches and mentors who shaped the thinking of this book and helped me with the surveys, research and analysis. Thank you. I must especially thank Danny Southwick for being as passionate as I am about this topic, for helping me lead some of our researchers, and for all the late nights of review. You're my brother from another and and you're a remarkable talent and gift in the positive psychology movement. Thanks also to Shannon Thompson, Alyssa Mrazek and Mike Murazik for providing additional analysis and literature reviews. Alyssa and Mike, thanks for the saves, reliability and enthusiasm. My team over@growth.com also cheered me on, served our coaching clients with world class professionalism and taught me so much about organization, organizational excellence. Thank you Dean Graziosi and Ethan Willis for leading growth and for building something so magical. I can't count how many great life lessons and business insights I've learned from you both. You're my new mentors to our first Leaders at Growth. I'm so proud of you and thankful including Dean's entire team and Damon Willis, Brian Hatch and Kerry Inouye to our worldwide community of peers who are certified High Performance Coaches. Thank you for the dedication, heart and leadership you bring to the personal and professional development coaching industry. You are truly the finest coaches in the world and I'm honored to serve with you. I'm also deeply grateful for all my readers, online students, social media fans and all their kind comments and support. Despite the recent and generous attention, I still feel like I'm just one small ripple and in a long line of people who dedicated themselves to teaching personal development. I would have amounted to very little in life if I hadn't read so many books on psychology and self improvement. Since I was 19, I've read at least one book every week. I've complemented that with at least one research article per day since I was 28 and I still feel like a novice. This commitment to to reading was perhaps the best habit I have ever begun since people always ask for my recommendations. These are the masters in my field who shaped my early thinking and life. Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale, Og Mandino, Norman Cousins, Jim Rohn, John Wooden, Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Stephen Covey, Louise Hay, Marshall Goldsmith, Brian Tracy, zig Ziglar, Harvey McKay, Peter Drucker, Frances Hasselbein, James Redfield, Debbie Ford, Dan Millman, Tom Peters, Les Brown, Richard Carlson, Jack Canfield, Rob N. Sharma, Tony Robbins, Daniel Amen and Paulo Coelho. And these are the brilliant minds and psychologists whose work inspired me to go even deeper and conduct this type of research. Abraham Maslow, Carl Rogers, Alfred Adler, Erich Fromme, Nathaniel Brandon, Albert Bandura, Richard Davidson, Roy Baummeister, Barbara Fredrickson, Edward Deasi, Richard Ryan, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Martin Seligman, Daniel Goleman, John Gottman, Carol Dweck, Michael Merzenich, Angela Duckworth and Anders Erickson. I'm just a coach, so if you truly want to understand the human condition and appreciate academic excellence at its finest, see their work. If you heard about this book from any video based online marketing, it's only because I learned something about that from Jeff Walker, Frank Kern, and another dozen or so great online trainers and marketers. To all who have helped me learn about sharing my message, and to all who have promoted my work and mission, I thank you. Who knew that online and social media marketing would become such a thing? To my friends and collaborators in the industry, thank you for your example, friendship and leadership especially Joe Polish, Tony Robbins, Robin Sharma, Peter Diamandis, Daniel Amen, Shalene Johnson, Nick ORTNER, Marie Forleo, J.J. virgin, Gabby Bernstein, Matt Boggs, Mary Morrissey, Janet Atwood, Chris Atwood, Jack Canfield, Brian Tracy, Harvey McKay, Lewis Howes, Chris Carr, Tony Horton, Larry King, Shawna King, Arianna Huffington, Stuart Johnson and Oprah Winfrey. To my coaching clients worldwide, thank you for the opportunities and for teaching me so much. To my dear friends Ryan, Jason, Steve, Jesse, Dave, Nick, Steve, Stephane, and all the wild ones and grizzlies from Montana, I love you and miss you. Thanks for believing in the scrawny, loud kid when no one else did. Finally, to all my friends, colleagues, students and fans who may have felt neglected at any time during this writing project, the longest of my career, I hope you find the final output justified. The absence you been in my mind and heart every day and every page. And to Russ and the entire team over at Rex Post, thank you so much for helping produce this audiobook and giving me a beautiful place to record my voice. That's it for this audiobook version of High Performance. How Extraordinary People Become that way. Please note that in the actual hardcover book of High Performance Habits, beginning on page 357, is an extensive endnotes and references section that has that comprises over 40 pages of cited notes and cited studies that back up many of the findings from this book. So if you're interested in going deeper into the research, make sure you pick up a copy of the book and look at the endnotes and references section so you can continue your journey of learning. For all other resources, visit highperformancehabits.com tools or anytime. To deepen your learning, go to highperformanceinstitute. I'm Brendan Burchard and I've enjoyed speaking with you.