Best Of: Achieve Success with Joy and Confidence

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Hey, my friends, it's Brendan Burchard and welcome to a best of edition of the Brendan show. These best of episodes feature training that I have done live, sometimes online to 10 of thousands of people or live on stage where I was speaking on.

Some stages across the world.

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Enjoy these because these are a little bit more of a deep dive look at some of my training as a personal and professional development trainer. You know, I focus so much on helping you find that deeper level of motivation and start practicing some of those high performance habits. Well, you hear me talk about many of those concepts that in these special episodes here. These are my best of trainings only and exclusively right here on the Brendon show. So I hope you enjoyed them. Please note that as you hear me speak in many of these, you'll hear me reference something because sometimes I'll have been training live or on video or on stage or through a broadcast. So you might not be able to see something I'm suggesting or motioning to or maybe even drawing out on a flip chart or motioning towards on a presentation, but you'll get the gist of it. So make sure you bust out your journal. Just take some good notes here because this is really valuable insights on the mindset or the strategies that you need to adopt in order to improve your life. And if you want to go and get more content like this, but much more deeper and have more of an interactive relationship with me in this type of training, make sure you join our high performance monthly training program. That's our monthly subscription program where I go live with you and our high performance students every single month and I train on a new topic or a new piece of research that we've created from the high performance institute and I train on that and then I do Q and A and actual live coaching, interactive coaching with people every single month. That's called high performance monthly and you can Access it at brendon.com monthly that's brendon.com monthly B-R-E-N-O-N.com forward/monthly to get deeper dive training similar to this.

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Joy. If you're not as wealthy as you wanted to be, you're probably not as joyful on the wealth journey as you should be. I was amazed by this. The level of happiness that high performers have, I mean, that's a big life outcome in the measures of psychology, right? Whether or not people are happy. And there's lots of scales that have been conducted and used over the years to determine that. And we leveraged a lot of that to make sure that we validated our overall construct here. It was amazing to see how happy high performers are worldwide now. You think, well, no doubt, Brendan. They're performing. Well, of course they'd be happy. Yeah. But one thing was really interesting. We think often the cart before the horse, we say, oh, well, you know, they became happy because they're high performing. But in my interviews, I often found that when somebody switched their attitude and became happy, in other words, generated happiness, then they started performing higher. It's like, they're not happy just because they're wealthy. They got happy and started feeling wealthier in all areas of their lives. Right. The abundance came into their life. Not, it's not like abundance came in, thank God, now I'm happy. It was reverse order. It was. They chose positive emotions over and over and over and over and over, meaning they chose their attitude, they chose to be an optimist, they chose to be happy. And by choosing happiness in their life, it became easier to perform even the mundane tasks that you and I wouldn't like. And maybe we complain about a little bit, meaning coming from that place of a deep sense of gratitude, happiness or joy, experiencing lots of joy. Not because necessarily something gave you joy, but you brought the joy that helps you get better. Like, if you're around me, it's pretty rare that I complain. I'll be very factual about, like, what I'm doing. Like, how's it going? I'm like bananas crazy. But I won't complain about it because I feel joyful in the opportunity to serve. I think that if you have the opportunity to serve, you don't complain about the work required to do it. You know, it's like you honor that part, that struggle, that difficulty to serve. But more than just like begrudging it, bring the joy. Look, there is a reason why worldwide that people understand the concept of whistle while you work. As soon as you say it, people go, oh, I know what that means. And it's not just because of Walt Disney, though, did a pretty good job on that one, right? It's because we know we should be happy, engaging our day and not waiting for some delivery day when we finally become Happy. If that sounds too common sense for you, okay, if I jumped into your life in the last six months and I looked at how much happiness you brought to the day, not took from it. You brought. I don't mean like, oh, Brendan, you could follow me around. My children brought me so much joy. I'm like, okay, that's one level, right? That's joy that the situations of the world can give you.

But you know what?

There's been a lot of turmoil in the world and we have people impacted catastrophically by earthquakes around the world, by other major storms, by political turmoil, by, I mean, real difficulties of life. And I know that hardship because I grew up with some very difficult times. And I have supported people in, in maybe the most difficult times of life, including death, by doing hospice work. I've seen a lot. And having coached for a decade, you can imagine I talk about people's problems all day. I'm pretty familiar with people, how they handle them and the person who can will themselves to choose happiness even amid that and bring it into the situations. About three blocks from right behind your camera is a street here in Portland, Oregon. It's a tough place and they have a couple soup kitchens on the line there. And if you ever go volunteer in your local city, I hope you'll volunteer in your community and make that a big part of your life. But if you ever go volunteer at like a, like let's say a soup kitchen, it's so obvious when you see a good volunteer. I mean, it's like it's this. It's not that they know where everything is. It's that they are happily doing the work that most people would see. Like, I mean, you're like, well, man, the guy's sweeping the floor volunteering. And you think, I'm glad I didn't get that task right. You could think that, but the guy would be whistling and having a good time and just so happy to be helping out. The people who are happy to be helping out are bringing joy into the situations of life. That's making them feel more happy, more engaged. And yeah, they perform better. Because you know what sucks? When you're just doing the grind and it's 10pm at night and you hate the process. You know what I'm talking about. When it's 10 o' clock and you know you need to stay up till 2 in the morning and it's a grind and you identify as just, I just gotta hustle and I just gotta grind right now. Guess what? That 10:00pm till that 2:00am you know what that's gonna feel like? It's gonna hurt. That's what it's gonna feel like. I know. I was there last night at 10pm going, I gotta go to at least 2am minimum. How am I gonna approach this next block of time? Am I gonna be like, oh, I can't believe I'll do this again? And we're like, I'm gonna grind it out. I'm like, okay, I'm gonna bring some joy to this process, because if I can put some positive motion on this. And guess what? 11 noon. 1, 2. Let's rock. Okay. Yes, sir. 11 midnight. 1, 2. Let's Rock. But I'm enjoying it. I'm having, like. If you actually saw me work, you're like, he must be on something. Why is he like that? And it's not caffeine, Trust me. Ask my team. I have no caffeine in front of me right now. Sometimes I do, but nothing right now. Because I. You know, I'm very susceptible to that.

Some of you guys are, too.

You know, it's like, if my arm got cut off and you gave me an Advil, it'd grow back. You know, it's like, I'm very susceptible to things that I put in my body because I'm pretty clean in general. So I'll tell you, it's like, it's not that that gets me through. And what gets me through is joy. Write it down. I really mean this. Write it down in your journal. What gets me through is joy. What gets me through is joy. That attitude didn't just change my life. I found it over and over and over again in the top 15% of the top 15%. They engaged the work, even when it wasn't sexy, because of the attitude they brought to it. And you know this again, I know it's common sense, but not common practice, but Viktor Frankl talked about it. The last of our human freedoms is the ability to choose one's own attitude. Next up, confidence. You got to start approaching your work with confidence. Same thing. Listen to this. You think, and this might be your big stumbling block. So please listen. You think just as soon as you get more success, just as soon as you get more accolades, respect, support, money, experience, competence, a better community of people around you, then you will now have earned the right and the blessing to be more confident. Is it true? People wait for something to give them happiness. They also wait for something to give them confidence. And that was a stunner. Confidence was so strongly intertwined in the conversations between the six habits that we'll go through. It stunned me. Even though I have a program called the Confidence Course, I still didn't know until we did this data to understand how important that is for people.

So.

But not to have it to generate it. Your next level of performance at what you're doing does not only need to come from confidence. I'm sorry, Competence community, which usually that's where people take it from, right. I get better at what I'm doing. So the more experience I have, the more easy it is for me to do, the more confident it is. Right. Like for me, I've done these live casts so many times, I know I can do this. Right. That happens from experience. You might have the same thing in your genre or your career or your life. You've done it so many times, no problem, right? But there's an unconscious competence to that because you've done it so many times. But then there is a willed confidence that you're just saying, you know what, I'm gonna do this confidently. Write it down, my friend. Just write down, literally write down the words, I'm going to do this confidently. Just choose that. See, most people, they start bumbling into something and then they want it to give them confidence. When I first started doing videos or books or training or on the big stages you might have seen in that movie that we got, like, my development was a little slow over my first couple years. I don't think I performed that much better. And it was because I kept waiting for something like some kind of like size of a stage or I don't know, I don't know what I was waiting for to be more of a confident speaker. I just stepped in full to the ownership role of who I was, because I owned it now. I was confident that that's who I was and what I did. No bigger paycheck, no more team, not any smarter or maybe smarter by choosing a different disposition. Right? I think a lot of intelligence is choosing the right disposition for how we need to serve. I just owned it. Well, I know it might be simple to think about, but let's ask about maybe, are you in a relationship right now? Maybe you're married or you have a significant other, or maybe if you think about a relationship you have with a family member, have you fully stepped into owning that role yet? Like with confidence? I've worked with Olympic level athletes and if they don't bring the confidence on the field, they're going to get smashed. And it wasn't like they needed 10 more training sessions. It's the mindset that we're walking into things. So I know I'm going a little bit long on these particular three things, but I do this at High Performance Academy, I do this in my training programs. Because if we're not, you and me on the same page here about this, it's going to be hard to make you another level of success for yourself, right? Because you can't feel like you're going to be self made unless you finally say, I'm going to own this moment. I'm going to bring some joy here and I'm going to do this confident. Maybe it's time for you to be more confident in the relationships and the roles that you play in your life, to really own them. If you're going to be a good wife, own that and be a great wife. Like, know that is part of my identity. Feel that, you know, if you're going to be a great leader with your team, own that. Walk in the office tomorrow more confident than you have in six months for no other reason. I promise. People go, whoa, what's up with you? And that feeling that you have like that emotion, these things, presence with your team, joy with your team, confidence with your team, Social contagion, baby. It'll spread, but you gotta bring it. You can't wait for your team to give it to you. You can't wait for Skills to give it to you. You can't wait for support to give it to you. If we can get you pulling these three feelings into your life, we're gonna put you on the same deck as high performers. Because as I walked around and had the conversations, they had these things, some of them, but most of them brought it, they generated it, they chose it, they owned it. That's what I like you to do. So make sure you write that down.

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