Best Of: Dealing With Transitions Well Pt.2

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How do you deal with transitions? Well, you know, most transitions I've ever been involved in, the ones that succeeded were the ones where there was, like a shared purpose amidst all the teams or all the players. But you have to have that in your own personal life, too. Does your family really know what you're after in this transition? Does your spouse, your friends, do they really know what you want? If they don't, they can't support you. But more importantly, you might not stay accountable to what you really want. Because what happens sometimes is we make a transition, but no one knows what we really want. And now we feel like we're alone again. We feel like nothing's really happening for us. And in that challenge of not being clear about the outcome, but also not having a shared outcome, no one gets behind us. And worse, we don't have a public service sort of face to it. I think the most important thing is when you want something new, that everybody around you frigging knows it. There's no question everybody around you knows it. You talk about it, you share it, you build a network, as we'll talk about, behind it. But it's got to be very, very, very clear. If it's not, good luck. Let me give you a very tangible example. Transitions happen for a lot of people. Maybe it's happened for you before. Maybe you transition from high school to college or higher education. Think about that process. That kid who's unclear about what they want from college always really struggles. They don't need to know their major, but they need to know why they're going to college. They need to know why it's going to be different than what it was in high school. They need to know what they want of their life, even if they don't know their life's career. They need to know what they're passionate about. They need to understand some interests and think about if they go to school and they're not sharing with, like, their mom or their dad, here's why I'm going to college. Here's what I want of that experience, even if just to learn, to grow, to develop social maturity. If it's not something like that, then we're just all meandering all the time. And I'm cool with wandering about for a little while, but once you're in that transition, you better have your goal and you better share it.

Big one.

You have to work and share a written plan. Think about when you went to college. One of the things that was great if you went to college was, you know, there was a plan you went to. Everything was set up for you to implement a plan, wasn't it? You went in, you had to sign up for classes that were on specific days at specific times. They gave you a campus map. They gave you sort of the structure of how college worked. And you kind of had to implement that plan, right? It was like, if you wanted this major, you had to knock off these classes, these prerequisites, and these core classes to be able to achieve that major, to achieve that bachelor degree or that master's degree, that higher education degree. You had to work a plan to get there, and that structure helped you in that transition because you were scared when you showed up on that college campus. You were like, I don't know what to do with myself. There were all these unknowns, but at least there was a plan. You had your class schedule, and your whole life could fall apart. Go on the adventure with the guy. But no matter what, you knew where you're supposed to be on Tuesday, and that saved your butt in college. Hey, same thing happens for this next career change. You know, it's one of the. If you're. There's a great book called the first 90 days about what a senior executive.

Needs to do when they join a.

New company and how they should be thinking about those first three months of leading the company or learning about the company. The same thing happens if you're changing a career or a business. If there's just no plan, all those uncertainties will overwhelm you and they'll derail you. But if you know you're supposed to show up and do this one thing during the day, during the week, during the month, at least, you know, to show up there and you can start getting some momentum. I hope that really makes sense. Like, I just don't allow any of my clients not to know and have written down a plan and shared it. When I work with somebody and we're writing some big aspirational goal for them, we break it down into chunks. We break it down into block time and into habits and triggers and consequences. And most importantly, we take that plan, we show it to their spouse. We take that plan, we show it to the kids. We take that plan, we show it to their assistant. We take that plan, we show it to their team. Everybody knows that there's some type of plan, and without that type of plan, everybody's just going, I don't know. What are you doing? And there's no way to get momentum. And for you, there's no way to deal with the chaos and the uncertainty, you know, without sort of pillars in the ground and guideposts telling us where to go. It's very easy to get distracted, and it's very easy for us not to implement well through the transition. See, that's really important. I don't care if you're moving your house, I don't care if you're changing a career. I don't care if you're starting a new effort in higher education. You got to have a pretty tight plan to be able to pull things off. And the less people who know about that plan, the more likely it is you're going to mess it up or not have the support that you need. Push yourself to be better in this transition. Demand excellence from yourself. Hey, look, if your last relationship, you're kind of an angry jerk, don't carry that into the next one. If that last career, you kind of went with the flow, you kind of gave your best once in a while when you felt like you were getting recognized. Don't play that same game in the new career. If in your last business you were at the top level of what you were doing in the new business, go to another level. A lot of people fail in transitions because they wander in with the mindset, the mediocrity. Their thought through transition is survive and I will share with you. If your only intention is ever to survive, you will never find true engagement. Energize enthusiasm, fulfillment with what you are, are doing because you're just going through the motions. Transitions should not be just, oh, I hope I get through it okay. Transitions should be, I'm going to approach.