Four Secrets to Success

What's up Team hpx? It's Brendan. I'm back in Puerto Rico and just pumped about shooting this video for you, talking about the four secrets to success. And I can tell you like, these were not easy to learn along my path, but because I grew up in a town that was not near the ocean, because I didn't have a lot of abundance when I grew up, because I struggled a lot throughout my life, the great lessons really came from just a lot of hard work, a lot of study, and a lot of consistency in the contributions I want to make in life. And along that path, I had the blessing of working with and knowing and studying, coaching some of the world's most successful people. And these four things always show up in their life. And honestly, I kind of wish I figured this out like 10 years earlier so I could focus on them versus kind of bumbling in dumb, which is what I did. So I hope in sharing my experience with you, you understand how important these four things are to your success. Number one is competence. Competence. It means you should focus on getting absolutely competent at the skills that matter for your long term success. Whatever your dream is, think of it like, what's your dream? Break it down and say, okay, if that's my dream, what skills would I have to master, really master to be able to have that dream for me? As an example, speaking with you right now, I don't know how many of my videos you've watched or whatever, but you know, we've had a quarter billion video views and I was mortified to speak. Some of you guys have been in my seminars before, like 2,000 people, 10,000 people, 30,000 people in an arena. I was mortified. I was terrified to get up and speak in front of people. And so you're like, well, how did you develop that and learn that? Well, I had this dream to make a difference in the world and I wanted to impact a lot of people in the world. And I said, if I'm actually going to help a lot of people in the world, I need to learn how to communicate. Because where I grew up there wasn't a lot of emotional expression or a lot of communication. I mean, if a dude raised his hand in an emotional expression above his waist, I meant he was going to punch you in the face. That's where I grew up with. I didn't grow up with people being like outwardly expressive and joyous and like facial expressions and moving their hands. I didn't grow up with that. I had to learn like how do I communicate? And make an impact with people and share what I want to share with you. I had to practice that and learn that, but I had to become competent in that if I wanted to make my difference. And I think that's really important. The greats master their skills. Think of any musician you love. They mastered their art, their voice, their instrument. Think about any person you really admire. In business, they had to master business building. They had to master the process or the product or the thing. Think about anyone you admire in their health and wellness, they had to master their own body. Think about the happiest people you know. They had to master their mind. How did they do that? They learned. They studied, they studied, they studied. They applied. They applied, they applied. Competence is the thing that we know in high performance gives people the edge. When you are more informed, more educated, more experienced in the things that matter most to your career, you outperform everybody else who's just going through the motions, who's just showing up. But when you're learning in those dark hours of the night, when you are trying, when nobody else is watching and you are developing skill, guess what? We know from psychology that competence and confidence are very correlated. We call it in high performance work the competence confidence loop. Right? The more you learn, the more you're willing to try. And the more you're willing to try, the greater confidence you gain. The more confidence you gain, the more you're willing to try new things, which teaches you even more. So this confidence competence loop is the secret to lifelong success. Keep learning, keep applying. Because as you master new skills that matter to the direction of your life, towards your dreams, then you get more confident. As you get more confident, you try new things and you get more success. Number two. And this is really key, a contribution mindset. To not begin the day with me, me, me, me, not to look at your life with, I hope to get this. I hope to survive. Take your mind off survival, take your mind off getting for yourself and ask, how can I give? Right? It's biblical to ask. You know and you shall receive. But also it's ethical to give and you shall receive. When you change your mindset from getting to giving, when you change your mindset to contribute. When you think about your day, your work, your mission, your life as a way to contribute, instead of going into work to complain about your job washing dishes, you say, how can I go do this and help contribute to my team? Help contribute to somebody else's day. Help everyone else who's working in the kitchen. Let's all have a great Day contribute positivity, contribute like energy to the world. Cause even if you're not doing great things yet, you can do the little things with greatness if you approach it with the mindset of service. Like the contribution mindset is what always makes the difference. Cause think about it. Is it true that some people become really successful, rich, famous and you know, have everything outwardly there one wants, but it's still miserable. It's because they're not feeling the satisfaction and the fulfillment of service. They did everything they needed to get something, they became something, but they never felt fulfilled because they didn't utilize that or along the way, give and serve others. The contribution mindset can change your life. For me, what I learned along the way too is the third C is about community. And where I grew up, I didn't have a lot of people who are trying to really better themselves. I know, and I appreciate you because you're here for your personal development. People watch my videos because they want personal professional development. And so I appreciate you being here. I call you guys Team hpx. HPX stands for high performance experience. Because I believe that not everybody wants to live the high performance experience. Not everybody wants to reach the next level. Not everybody wants that extraordinary vibrancy and connection and excellence that comes from trying to be your best. But those of you who do while you're here, my belief about Team hpx, about us, is we've learned we have to build the tribe necessary to succeed and enjoy life. You can't just take the energy and the people you have in your life. You need to strategically build the people around you to have the community you need to succeed and enjoy life. And often that brings up for people. Well, but Brendan, my spouse doesn't support me. You know, people make fun of me. The kids at school don't understand, the people at work shoot down my ideas. And it's not that you have to kick everybody out who's negative. It's not that you have to get rid of all these people because sometimes that person is your spouse or your brother, your sister or your friend. It's not that you have to get rid of them or judge them in any way. What you can do is limit your time and exposure to them. And even if you can't do that because that's the person who you are in love with right now, what you can do is separately build what you need. In other words, successful people build the community they need. They don't hope to have it. They're not born from it. They don't always have it in their current circle, but what they do is they go build it. So ask, what's your dream? What do you really want to achieve? And what's the type of people you need to be around to have that, experience that and accelerate towards that. For me, I had to start shaping new friendships. I had to do more networking in my industry to meet new people. I had to get myself around others. I went to seminars and workshops, networking events. I got myself around high achievers. I wasn't born around many of them. I had to get myself around them. And by getting myself in that proximity of a peer group that was positive, ambitious, service oriented, competent at what they do, it raised my game. Right. Other people can really inspire you. So build the community you need. And I think the last thing that I've learned that's so important is that successful people take command of their life. They take command of their thoughts, command of their emotions. They take command of what they're doing during the day. They're less reactive than other people. Cause they say, I'm gonna be the captain of my ship. And that sense of command is the difference maker in their lives. Where most people, they take their circumstances, they blame, they complain, they dread the struggle. And people who've taken command of their lives, they honor the struggle, they bring the joy. They decide what their day is going to be about. They work diligently towards their dreams instead of being distracted or run by impulse. They are focused and they choose discipline like they have commanded their life at levels most people don't. Because listen, you and I both listen. Anyone can have a bad day and come home and be like, you know what? Bad day? Netflix and Chill. And they give up their day or the next four hours to tuning out. What I learned about successful people is when it is struggle, when it's easy to be discouraged, when it's easy to go, I guess Netflix and Chill, they go, no, man, you know what? You had a bad day, so take command. Do something positive for yourself. Take the next two hours and create, work, connect, be with the family. Like they reset themselves consistently. And that's what I mean by command, right? Because we can't control everything. Isn't true. We can't control everything. Some days someone's gonna be a jerk to you. Some days the project's gonna fall apart. Some days it's not going to go the way that you want. But what successful people do in those moments is they reconnect to their personal power and say, okay, what did I learn? What can I do? Next. What's my next right? Action of integrity. They take command of themselves, so they don't let themselves feel sorry for themselves. They take command of themselves. Don't let other people tell them exactly what to do. They say, what should I do now Versus I guess I'll give up. So these simple ideas. Get extremely competent at what you want to succeed at in your life. Learn all the skills around it. Second, adopt that contribution mindset that says, okay, I know what I'm going to do here. And that is give. Give good energy, serve others, take care of others, contribute things that are excellent. Third, build the community that you need. And fourth, take back command of your life. You do these things. And also, success won't be secret. It will be strategic. All right. Hey guys, it's Brendan and I hope you enjoyed my video today. If you did, would you do me? Two simple things. Number one, share with somebody else. And number two, click subscribe down below. That will help so much. And then you'll get notices every time I post a new video. Also, if you're somebody who's always like looking at my work and you're wondering, like, how does he do it all? We have two new tools that can really help you reach what we call that high performance experience. As you know, I call you guys Team hpx, which HPX stands for High Performance Experience. It's that idea and that philosophy of living that says I want to live the highest version of myself. I want a life that's vibrant and connected and excellence driven. Like you want to reach that next level of high performance and success in your life. That's why I call you guys Team hpx. And we have two new tools for Team HPX that everyone is freaking out about. So I'll help you check it out. The first one is our new High Performance Planner. This is what I fill out every day to keep my mindset good and positive, to live a happy life, to really prepare myself for the day. 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