How to Be Beautiful

Welcome to the Charged Light. This is Brendan Burchard. What makes somebody beautiful? Oh, that's a good one. What makes someone beautiful is that they appreciate the beauty in other people without any jealousy or mimicry. You know, they can. A beautiful person can look at you and they actually see you and they accept you and they recognize the beauty and the divine in you, and that's what makes them beautiful. Their presence and ability to be with you makes them beautiful. Their ability to just be alive in that moment and to appreciate what they're seeing and what they're sensing, I guess that makes them beautiful. You know, at least that's for me. That's a big thing for me. But, you know, I think there's a general categorization that's even higher than that for a lot of people when they think about beauty a lot. I think the first thing about beauty is just genuineness. You know, a person who is really authentically themselves. And I know people hate the word authenticity today, but it's such a good word. It means that the person is true to themselves, that their unique spirit is on display for the world because they're not mimicking the world. They're not trying to be somebody else or act like this other person over here. That's just them, you know, like an aliveness in the moment. You can sense from it, like, you know, someone is genuine when there's spontaneity to the things they say, to the actions they take, to their reactions to the world. They're spontaneous. They're not so measured and calculated at every single thing. Because when you see those people, you don't think they're authentic. You think that they're manipulating. You think that they're. You know, it's hard to see them as beautiful because there's a darkness to them. You're like, I'm not sure this person is real. I'm not sure this person, you know, has my good intentions. I'm not sure this person right here, I can't vibe with them because there's nothing, you know, popping about them that shows me that that's them. Right? Every beautiful person that you think about, there's a unique characteristic to them. It's not just about how they do their hair or what they wear or is their makeup perfect. It's like, no, no. There's something about them that you're like, wow, that's a unique character. There's something. I don't even know exactly what it is, but, you know, I can tell they're genuine. They're Alive in who they are and they're demonstrating their unique and true spirit to the world. That's sexy. That's beautiful. It doesn't matter their size, their shape, their background, their color, their beliefs. None of that matters. It's. Are they, are they alive in themselves of who they are? That genuine true spirit, if that is there. Woo. That's sexy. I think another thing that makes people sexy is they're interested. They're interested in the world. They have a curiosity about you, they have a curiosity about other people. They're just interested in things and it's that curiosity that you're just like, oh, wow, this person's. They like to learn. So it makes them more beautiful because they're interested in the world. They're compelling to talk to because they have so many interests. They can have a longer discussion with you because they're not just so narrow about knowing one thing in the world. They've got lots of interests around the world. They can talk about lots of interesting things, things going on in the world, things going on in their personal life, things going on in other people's lives because they're paying attention. That's that awareness that makes someone beautiful. There's an awareness and an interest and a curiosity about them that it makes them intriguing because they are intrigued. I think another thing that makes people beautiful for me is that, you know, there's passion there. They're passionate about something. They don't be passionate all the time like me. I mean, I'm a clown. I'm this annoying all the time, believe me. It's like. But they have a passion for life. They have a passion for a specific topic or a specific person. There's something that they geek out about, you know, that they just, they love to talk about, even if it's something silly. And it doesn't have to be all the time where they're fired up and gesturing and running around and I mean, they don't have to be crazy, you know, they don't have to be like me, they have to be themselves. But they have to be so interested in something that when they convey it, it comes across as real energy. Right? The people who are not attractive are black holes. These people of dark energy that just sucks everybody in and drowns them in pools of pessimism. I like to say, you know, a pessimist is not that attractive as a person. Not because, you know, their beliefs about things might not turn out well. I mean, a realist can just be as could come across as pessimist. That's not what it's about. It's about, is there something that they find a passion for that's positive, you know, because some people are passionate about hatred, right? That's not sexy. That's not attractive. When you see someone who's passionate and enraged with anger, that's not sexy. That's scary, right? There's nothing to that, really. There's no. Especially when they're out of control in anger. Then I just. It's even hard to respect it because they can't and will not take personal responsibility enough to align their actions or their behaviors and emotions in ways that are supportive to others or supportive to situations to handle them. They just fly off the handle. People who fly off the handle are not that attractive. Some people are initially attracted to them because it's passion, but then they discover that that passion is attached to a negative expression. Passion attached to negative expression over and over and over becomes grinding, and it is not attractive. I believe passion attached to positive things, Passion attached to things that progress humanity forward, that's sexy. That's why people with the cause or a mission, volunteers who are passionate about something, man, they're sexy. Even when they're running around with those ugly ass, you know, volunteer shirts that you get, they always give you the big super extra large shirt and it's got some dumb logo on it. But, you know, volunteers, they're sexy, you know, because they're passionate and excited about something. They're genuinely doing something that feels like they're serving and doing good and giving. They're interested in helping other people. And that's why I think Do Gooders are sexy. You know, they're beautiful people. It doesn't matter their size or shape, background. It's just about their spirit. Their intent is so positive. So those are things that for me, I think just make somebody beautiful. And I think they all wrap down to two very simple things. If we can roll it all up, it's like one, there's an aliveness about this person. You know, there's some kind of positive passion, a genuine expression. There's an aliveness and animation to them that's unique to them that is sexy and attractive. And I would say that there's an authenticity to them, a real awareness of self, an awareness to their experience in which they can respond in genuine and real and spontaneous ways that you say, wow, what a beautiful person. Hey, everyone, it's Brendan. Did you like this episode? Be sure to subscribe to the next one and tell a friend about us. If you want free books and world class training on motivation and high performance. Visit me@Brendon Burchard.com and enter your name and email for our newsletter list. 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