Brendon Burchard argues that social media trains us to judge people in seconds, exhausting us emotionally. He shares how his inability to forgive a past relationship led to suicidal thoughts, and how twenty years of spiritual practice taught him forgiveness. Judging less, he says, improves relationships and emotional freedom.
Judge less. Feel better. This week on my Instagram, we rolled this out as a new hashtag, Judgeless. Feel better. Here's what I know a lot of people want in 2020. Emotional freedom. There's so much emotional weight and exhaustion in our current culture because of social media, but also it's how people live their lives. Like, if you are constantly judging yourself, you feel terrible. Especially you're judging yourself in a negative way. But what's happening is social media has taught us to judge something in 15 seconds or less, in 60 seconds or less, in 100 characters or less. And so you are constantly all, think about this. This is something humanity is missing right now. This action, quick scrolling through has sped up the speed of our judgment. We are training each day to judge faster. You follow? We don't realize it. We are physicalizing rapid judgment in our culture. It's why I don't look at my phone very often. Think about that for a minute. We are physically physicalizing rapid judgment. The infinite scroll created a situation in which you are infinitely judging at faster pace. And as you judge at faster pace, it's come into your brain and you don't even know it. It's literally part of you. Now you see her judge in one second, you've judged her in a second or less. And it's gotten faster in the human brain because of our technology and our tools. But also, judgment leads to exhaustion. Judgment leads to exhaustion. That's why I say judge less. Feel better. Please notice how often you're judging other people. Like, I think one of the reasons I have great relationships, I don't judge people. Sometimes if they do an action that's not right or something, I'll call them out. I'm very explicit about that. But I don't judge a person's character. I don't, like, globalize and generalize about people because I think all of us are going through struggle, and it's hard sometimes, and we don't all have our best days every day. And so I'm like, if you ever talk to a person who is forgiving, I'm that guy. I'm like, so fast and forgiving. Because when I was 19 years old, I couldn't forgive a woman who cheated on me in a relationship. And then I couldn't forgive myself for actions that probably led to her cheating on me in the relationship. And so I hated myself and I hated her. And I held on that to the point I became suicidal. And I got it. I was like, if I don't learn to let go I'm miserable or take my life. And so I developed this capacity for me, it was a spiritual capacity by reading a lot of books in spirituality of like, understanding that I have to forgive and I've got to let go. And so I've practiced for 20 years trying to do that. So if I get upset about something, I try to let it go super fast, acknowledge it, learn the next right action of integrity, move on. But think about your relationships. I bet there's somebody in your relationship, you're still angry about something they did five years ago and you remember it even when they don't. And you make sure to bring it up in a fight that's about the vacuum cleaner. And it really turns into something that happened five years ago. And this stuff is bubbling up for you because you had this judgment and this reaction, this feeling, and you're still angry about it. That's why you don't feel better. The way to feel better is to find emotional freedom. The only path to surefire emotional freedom begins at less judgment. You got to stop judging things so negatively, yourself and others. That's why I say judge less, feel better. Matter of fact, I told my social media community, I said, hey, next time somebody posts hate on a comment, like you post something and someone posts a hate reply back to them, judgless feel better. How's that for the haters? I think this is the best response to haters in the history of the world. Judgelessfeelbetter Hey y'. All, I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you did, would you please smash that subscribe button and also post any questions you have down below? Because it's these questions that you're all asking that inspires these episodes. I'd love to hear what you think about it. Also, if you would love to join us on our next upcoming live training. We call it our High Performance Experience Coaching program. If you like some coaching and have some perspective and get some two hours of Live with me every single month, then click the link in the post down below so you can join us in HPX Coaching. I'd love to give you some more strategies, more insight, and more interaction to help you reach your next level of success. Until next time. Again, please subscribe, share this video with anybody who could be inspired by it today. And and thanks one more time for being part of my community.
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