Shaping a Positive Reality

Hello my friends. I'm Brendon Burchard, host of the Brendon show and founder of growthday.com and I'm honored to be your high performance coach today. I believe that every day we can be inspired. We can live with intention and purpose. We can bring the joy and honor the struggles of each day to push ourselves to grow, to serve, to be a role model, to lead extraordinary lives. I believe that every day is a great day to grow. That's why I started my company, growthday.com it's an online personal growth platform where you can get me and the world's best personal development teachers live coaching you every week, sharing our wisdom, keeping you motivated and accountable, encouraging you to find the aliveness and the connection and meaning of life that we're all after. If you're not a member yet, please go sign up@growthday.com and join our huge worldwide community of achievers. For less than a dollar a day, you get the world's best teachers live every week. And look, you've probably known for a long time that you needed some expert guidance, an inspired community and life changing tools. So please, your breakthrough awaits you@growthday.com now let's get to today's episode. My friends, please listen closely. Maybe you take some notes so you remember these insights of personal growth and share this episode with three of your friends because we all have to share more positive messages in the world today. So share this with three friends just like you who are committed to their personal growth. And also be sure to tag me or DM me on Instagram. Rendon Burchard, Join our million plus community there on Instagram so I can say hi, thanks again for listening. Now let's begin.

How do I learn to accept reality? I think a lot of people have that experience where they've detached a little bit or they've allowed their presence to dissipate because what is around them might be something they don't like. And so they're not really acknowledging or seeing or sensing what is real. And they're not being able to accept the moment, accept the glories of the moment or the challenge of the moment at all. They're just kind of blocked up a little bit because they only want to see what is comfortable or safe for them. So what can we do? What's the most important thing? Well, believe it or not, my first suggestion is not to just blatantly accept reality. To not just carte blanche, say, well this is my reality and to just accept it because we have to be careful about what we are accepting. Because what is reality? Right? When you ask people that, you gotta be very careful before you accept reality. I say, let's see how you are defining it, attaching meaning to it. Because some people, they'll tell you, oh, my reality is so awful and horrible and my wife is so crappy and my kids are little bastards. And you know, every day it seems just like another day through the slog. But from an outside perspective, you look at their life and you say, what a lucky dude. He's got a wife and some nice kids who are healthy. He's got a job, he's got a house, he's got a car. You know, maybe his reality isn't so bad. It's his attitude that is bad, but he's defining it externally. Does that make sense? So a lot of us end up defining reality in negative ways. When reality is extraordinary and it's abundant and it's got vibe and pop and zest. See, that's how I define my reality. So that's what I experience every day. I see the charged life. I see people's faces and I see them smiling. I see and sense in my own body an incredible amount of engagement, enthusiasm. Even when some days my reality would say, Jesus not there. You know, he lost somebody who's important to him or his business isn't going the way he wanted, or he had a bad day or something is crazy in his life right now. But for me, my reality is defined by my own will, by my own decision about what I want reality to be about. And I accept that now. Some people, again, they do that in healthful ways and some people unhelpful ways. If you're oblivious to, to what is going all around. I mean, it would be ridiculous to.

Be in a war torn area of.

The world and say, you know, I'm totally safe, I'm totally safe, I'm totally safe. We still have to watch out for ourselves. There's no question about that in some contexts. But we should also recognize that, you know, let's accept what is real based on what we are going to decide is real. That reality is not a fixed thing for any of us. Your reality is not fixed. You can change your perception of your reality and anytime you choose to. And that is what gives us an extraordinary amount of personal power in life, but also can really challenge us if we're not careful about it. Because it's very easy to start, you know, saying reality is bad. To start taking the reality of a victim to taking the reality of blaming everybody else. It's very easy to shape and shift our reality into things that we believe to be true when they're not necessarily. And it is our own beliefs and our own faith sometime that can get us in trouble, believe it or not, because our own beliefs can say, ah, reality is terrible, people are bad, the world is bad, I am bad, and so my reality is bad. And defining it in that way, I say, don't accept that. If your view and your perspective of reality is not supportive, is not positive, is not charging you with energy and joy and zest each day. It is time to change what you are paying attention to. It is time to change your focal area. It is time to change your very definition of what reality is, what your life is, what your future will be. It is time to redefine your reality if it's not supporting you. And so before you accept anything, look, there's no true acceptance in life without going through a meaningful processing, right for us to decide, what does this mean to me? So I just say, give it empowering meanings. Accept that there are great blessings in life, accept that there are challenges, but also accept the fact that you yourself can figure things out, that you yourself can move things forward, that you yourself can shape reality. Because if step one is to not accept reality as it's been presented to you by the media or by other people or by your negative impulses or your own fears, if we accepted the world as has been presented to us by the media, every single one of us would go put our head in the sands and we would cry to mama all day long. You know, it's like, look, the media is telling us a very bad story. So if you believe that's true, we also have to ask, well, what's the story you're telling yourself about your reality? And is it something that is empowering you, encouraging you, drawing enthusiasm and charge from you? If not, redefine it and find something better and more empowering to accept.

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Second, then we need to shape it. We need to bring the full force of our attention and our will into shaping the reality that we want to experience, right? Even if it's as simple as, well, Brenda, but I asked you this question because I just want to accept reality so I can find more peace in life. I'm like, great, then shape a peaceful reality. Wake up in the morning, say some things to yourself to experience peace. Go throughout the day breathing the way you would breathe if you were having a reality that was peaceful. Meditate the way you would meditate if you were having a reality that was peaceful. Respond to chaos and circumstances and people in a way that is peaceful. In other words, start making reality bend to the will that you have of what you desire of life. You want to have enthusiasm? Bring up the enthusiasm. I always say, you know, the power plant doesn't have energy. It transforms and generates energy. Well, the same thing for us. We don't have a specific reality. None of us do. Reality is infinite, but it's also arbitrary, based on our own meaning. That gives us power to say, well, if there is no reality yet, then let me transform the energy around me. Let me generate through my own will, my own attention, my own actions, my own habits, my own routines, the relationships I choose to have, the work I choose to do. Let me start shifting and shaping and creating and generating the reality I want to accept and I want to live in. Now, does this mean that we can't accept some things that we don't like? Of course we can. Part of the great maturity of life. And I bet part of the intention of this question is to say, well, can I learn to accept the negative things too? And I would say, well, certainly you can learn to accept reality when it's presented. Look, when you lose a father or a mother, that's real, that reality happened, that they are no longer here physically in the Moment, present with you, that's okay to accept. And it's important to say, okay, they're gone now. Now what am I going to be about? How will I choose to remember them? How will I choose to honor them? How will I choose to raise my own family? How will I choose to carry on my work? How will I choose? How will I choose? How will I choose? And in sharing that with you, I say, yes, we can accept everything, but we all still must also choose the next step, the next thought, the next belief, the next behavior. Because what a lot of people do is they accept a negative and it's okay, they accept it. What I'm trying to do is, yes, accept it, but don't absorb any negative stuff from it over a period of long time, right? Don't say, well, that negative thing happened to me. That's real. So now I am negative, my life is negative, and I'm just gonna drown in this pool of pessimism about negativity, right? I would rather you say, okay, this thing happened. How am I going to choose to deal with that as if I was dealing with that for my best self, for my highest self? How would my highest self take this reality, accept it as it's needed to acknowledge it and then transform it and utilize it to generate the reality that I want? That is what will give you that personal power. That is what will help you accept the negative but will help you shape the future positive. And I think when we start doing both of those things, we start to feel a different level of control, a different level of joy, a different level of acknowledgement, appreciation, acceptance of what is as we continue to shape what we desire. I hope that all makes sense and I hope you put those things into practice. No matter where you're at in life, realize, there you are. Now, what are you gonna do next?

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