When People Don't Support You

This is the time right now where you go, okay? I can no longer let other people's opinions and judgments and approval drive me. My art, my passion, my hobbies, my dreams. Those things fuel me, not other people. Hey, my friends. It's Brennan Burchard. And welcome to another episode of the Bre and Show. So what if your parents don't support you? Who cares if your team doesn't support you? Who cares if your friends think you're crazy? Who cares if nobody in this world sees your dream? It is not your parents or your professors or your peers or the world's job to support your dream. That's your dream. That dream was sowed into your heart. That dream was given to you to nurture, to protect, to fulfill. It's not somebody else's job. So if your parents don't like your idea, you don't have to live your life to please just your parents. If your friends think you're crazy, it's not your job to make all your friends think that you're sane. If your professors or the people in your community think, oh, my gosh, you're just reckless and crazy and stupid. It's not your job to prove that you're smart to them. Your job is to fulfill that heart's desire. Your job is to fulfill that part of you that is begging you and pleading you to follow your dreams, to follow your heart, to create your thing. So first and foremost, don't think that it is everybody else's job to support you. It's not everybody else's job to cheer you on, to give you money, to invest in you, to pat you on the back every time you walk into your house at night. And you did a good job. It's okay that other people have a different vision for themselves than you do. Just like you don't need to judge other people because you don't like their dreams, their desires, or the way they live their life or do their 9 to 5. Then you shouldn't worry if they judge yours. And that's the first thing I always tell people is it is not other people's responsibilities to support you or to believe in you. And I know that. You know, when I wrote my first book, no one believed me. I quit my 9 to 5 job and everyone goes, you're so crazy to quit this job. Who are you to be a writer? You're a dumb kid. It's true. Who was I to be a writer? But I didn't worry what other people thought or if their judgment was approval for me. To go ahead. In my heart, I knew I wanted to write, I wanted to create. And that desire was what I listened to, not other people's judgments or opinions. And remember, most other people's opinions are completely uninformed opinions about you. So I say, first and foremost, own your dream. It's yours, Your job to cultivate. It's okay if nobody else believes you. I also think it's really important to realize that you often get more believers, the more momentum you get. So stop just talking about this thing. You know, maybe you've been talking about something for three months, five months, a year, five years, 10 years, you're gonna go do that thing, you're gonna do that thing, you're gonna do that thing, but you don't do it. That's why you get a lot of doubters, is because a lot of people just talk and they talk and they talk and they talk, but they're not implementing. The more you implement, the more believers you get. But also, the more implement you do, the more haters. You people start going, well, I wish I could do that. Or, who do you think you are? And so guess what? The more you follow your dream, often the more judgment you're going to get, too. You'll get more believers and more judgment. So if you don't deal with that fact that most people won't support you, cheer you on, understand you, believe in you, then as you get more successful, you'll be crushed because you feel rejected, you'll feel outed, you'll feel like you're stupid. You'll feel like, this is the time right now, where you go, okay, I can no longer let other people's opinions and judgments and approval drive me. My art, my passion, my hobbies, my dreams, those things fuel me, not other people. That's so paramount. If you can't limit your exposure to them, then change how you react to it. You don't have to accept their energy. You don't have to integrate their criticism. You don't have to pull into your body, into your heart, into your mind, into your soul, their value judgments against you. You don't have to replay their words in your mind over and over and over again. As I've written six books now, I have been surrounded by so many critics and so many judgments. You know, we have 200 million video views of my videos online. Guess what? A lot of the people were haters. But instead of seeing them and getting angry about it, I just see it, and it's like, swipe. It doesn't affect me anymore. Part of maturity is getting to that point where you can see criticism and see hatred and not make it your own, not make it about your identity to allow other people's opinions and judgments to live out there. Because they're not going to go away. You need to accept that the criticisms, the judgments, the hatred, it's not going away. You'll probably only hear more of it as you grow. Even as you get more fame or more people liking you, or more people accepting you, or you get promoted, people ultimately will support you as you get momentum, but people will still hate you. So if you don't deal with it now, if you don't make a switch in your mind that says, ah, either I'm going to limit my exposure to them or I'm going to change how I react to them, you will always be slave to other people's opinions. And that is not a life of freedom that you want to live. If you're ready to take your life to a whole new level, make sure you grab my book, High Performance Habits. 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