Workout: Doubting Yourself

When you have a doubt about something, you have to teach your mind to ask questions, to evaluate that, to do a better job. So my doubts as a coach, beginning, I'm too young. I got hired by an executive in a Fortune 500 company who is CEO. I've never been the COO of anything. How do I coach that? I got hired to work with an athlete at a high level. I've never even played that sport before. Like I had a lot of fear and doubt about me being capable in fields I don't know about. But that's not what coaching was. I would find out after I got training. It's like, oh no, coaching isn't about you. Coaching is not about the coach. Coaching is about the clients. And the way they are thinking and approaching their goals and dreams has nothing to do with your background. My ego is tied up to it. And that's what usually doubt is coming from. Doubt is usually coming from a concern of ego. I don't want to look dumb, I don't want to be wrong. I don't want to make a mistake that other people see. I don't want to start small, I don't want to be embarrassed, that kind of thing. But let me share some questions you might ask next time you have a doubt. Here's my favorite first question. Is this thought or worry? Because all doubts tend to be a thought, right? It's a thought pattern. Usually the thought pattern sounds like what if? Followed by a negative statement. What if she doesn't like it? What if they make fun of me? What if I fail? So it's a what if? Followed by a negative statement. So it's a thought pattern, right? So that's why I say, is this thought or worry helpful to my joy and new story? My doubt is I'm too young to do this career. Now I go, okay, is that helpful to my joy? No. Because every time I think that I feel like crap. That's a good indication. If you think something and you feel like crap, maybe not the right thought. So why are you holding on to it if it makes you feel like crap every time you think it? Oh, I hate my body, I hate my body, I hate my body. And every time you say that you feel like crap, maybe that is not a thought you should be hanging on to. It's not serving you. And when you think about the new story now I had to think, oh no, the new story is, I'm going to become a world class coach. Will this belief carry me to my desired life? Because you're riding to your dreams, my friends, on your beliefs.