Workout: Elevate Relationships

I told you on day one I like to use this kind of outcome model, this performance outcome model here. So we talked about on day one the importance of activating your mind and body. We talked yesterday about the achievement strategies. That one flip chart slide of learning the 60% rule about your day. That one idea. Simple. Quarterly, monthly, weekly, that weekly review and that weekly prep. Simple. That one thing of making sure you're running the right strategy since you're working so hard.

Simple.

The idea of bringing the joy. All those achievement strategies yesterday still apply.

To what we're talking about.

But we gotta move this transition and conversation from activation to these people skills. And to get that, here's my first belief about this, that almost all of our people skill issues. I'm gonna use people as a general category of all your relationships in your life, spouse, marriage, partner, those you love and you serve. So when you see people skills, think relationships. I think what happens, most of the conflict that happens, challenges that happen, trouble that happens, loss of energy happens because we don't get our mind and our bodies activated to have presence with the people around us. We check out in the modern era. Mostly we're checked out because we are distracted or burned out. And when we are distracted and burned out, that's the opposite of being present with somebody. And so the first thing I believe we have to do when we talk about relationships, I never ever start in the relationship first. I start with, how are you feeling? You, how do you feel in your energetic state and life and health when you interact with people? If you keep staying in a stressed, exhausted, fatigued place, you cannot make the impact you want either on the world or with your spouse or partner. And I think most problems in relationships when I'm coaching a high performer and now they want me to work on their partnership together and they want me to work with both of them. It's almost always like the key to unlock that is teaching them to have more presence and energy individually so that when they're coming together it's not closed, closed, fatigue, fatigue, battle, battle, battle. It's that we are being responsible for the energy we are projecting and creating into this relationship. The energy in our eyes, the energy in our non verbals, how we hold ourselves, how we look at each other. Because most of the world looks like this at each other. And this can communicate a lot like I can't believe she's saying this to me right now or I'm so tired I didn't hear any words or I'm really thinking about something else and we're just kind of like slack and disengaged, you know, it's just the same that we're working, we're tired. Because when you're tired, you don't even hold yourself open for people. Watch how people talk in groups now because of our modern culture. They're not even. They don't even know. They're giving off subtle things of disengagement. Yeah, because your body is an open thing or it's closed and posture matters and non verbal matters. I mean, it's like your tongue is falling out of your mouth like a golden retriever sometimes, you know, like, ah. It's like, no, it's like, hey, like when my lady, my wife, my love, when she walks in the room, Brendan stands at love. That's right, I'm there for her. I'm ready. What's happening, honey? How you doing, babe? It doesn't matter. She comes in the room, I perk right up because I know that this is not going to help me tonight. I'm just saying, Men, you gotta open up to your ladies. And ladies, you have to realize too, openness is beautiful. We have to remember that we are communicating something. That people skills are literally originating from that top of the triangle mind body activation. I told you on day one, it's not the difference in like, some people are lucky or it's like some people are activating and I need you to activate your health. I need to activate your posture. Like, I need you to activate as a person to be interested in other people again, to be deeply interested in other people. Like, you got to activate. That's why we started at the top of the triangle from day one. We gotta activate differently if we want different results. You can't actualize your life until you activate your mind and body. We have to do that. So I wanted to share with you some of my favorite, like activation, health, energy, things that just. It shouldn't be a struggle. Activating shouldn't be a fight. Activating is a fight if you don't have good habits. Activating is a fight when you have to force it. Because it's the first time. When it's the first time and you have to force it. That's hard when it's just how you do the day. It's different. Everybody's always fascinated. Brendan, how do you have so much energy to do this? I've never seen a speaker do this many hours. Omg. I'm like, oh, you think I'm doing something different here? How many follow? I'm talking about, oh, I'm not doing stage, Brendan. I'm not having my morning stage. No, this is easier for me. Not because I've done 90 of them. It's because how I live 365. And that 365 makes this possible. If I was forcing this for three days, you'd know it. You'd feel it. And so it's about, how do you live365? So here's my personal ones. I promise to talk about how we activate. This is what I tell my clients all the time. I just call it now seven for elation. It's like, how do you feel? Elated, Energized. Engaged. You know, if you read my book the Charge, how do you feel the charge physically and mentally? So these are my secrets. I know everyone else has their own, and these will be quick, but I want to remind you, your energy matters in your relationships more than anything else. Your energy matters in your relationships more than anything else.

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