Workout: Give Yourself Credit

Today, it's about you. So let's start with this definition of confidence. Confidence is your belief in your ability to figure things out. Now, often you cheat yourself because you think, well, no, confidence is, I've done everything I need to do in the world and I have all the successes and I'm on the COVID of magazines and I'm rich. And we tell ourselves, I'll have confidence when. But if you're going to change your life, you need to right now adopt a more confident mindset and say, you know what? Confidence. I don't have to know everything in the world. I don't have to be most successful person on the block. What I need to do is believe in myself and believe in my ability to figure things out. Give me enough time, energy, resources, mentorship, study, I can achieve my dreams. That's where it really begins. Belief in our ability to figure things out. Now, of course, at a deep psychological level, we know that confidence is all about your sense of worth, your sense of capability or ability to do things, and your belief also in not only yourself, but your future. And let me say those couple things to you. Worth, ability, future. If you don't believe you're worth anything, obviously your confidence is there. If you don't believe you're able to go do anything, obviously your confidence is there. Psychologists often call this self efficacy, right? You just don't feel like you can be efficacious or be a person who gets things done in the world because you don't believe in your ability. And last, confidence has a lot to do with your perception of where you'll be in the future. If you think you're gonna be broke and a loser in the future, obviously you're not gonna go for if you see yourself as lonely and an outcast in the future, you're obviously not going to walk up to her or him and say, hey, how you doing? And so these are big topics. Your worth, your sense of worth, your abilities. And most importantly, what's your future going to be like? This is so critical. Listen, I think that what happens is you sometimes fail to be as aware as you could about how far you've come. You forget sometimes where you started. Sometimes you forget all the obstacles you've overcome. You never really integrated the wins into your body and your mind and your identity. You had some wins. You did good in that relationship. You did good at that test, you did good at that business. You did good on that day. You made that sales call, you helped that person. But you did all these actions and you never changed the perception of yourself. You just held onto like, well, my identity is who I was as a child or what my parents told me or what these people told me. And it's been shaped by other people versus you. Giving yourself credit when you do things and you overcome a lot of obstacles, but you overcame them, and you're just like, oh, well, what's the next obstacle? And you were reacting to going to the next one or chasing the next one, but you never integrated confidence. I mean, I've worked with Olympians, CEOs, celebrities on covers of magazines, and guess what? These people sometimes lack confidence, even though outwardly everyone goes, what? They've achieved so much. Yes, they achieved things, they overcame things, they helped people, and yet they never stopped and said, you know what? Let me tap that into my identity a little bit. Let me allow myself to feel that credit. Let me appreciate myself and how hard it was to overcome these things or even just to survive today. Give yourself credit for that. Give yourself credit for being here. Sam.