Your Biggest Obstacle Is YOU: Identify & Overcome Self-Sabotage Now!

Growth is how you show up and perform today. Growth is here. What is my intention? How I'm going to show up and perform today dictates growth, not where you'll be after you get something. Sometimes we hold people to this center idea. We hold people to this idea of growth, right? We want them to grow and grow and grow. And that is powerful unless we make it distant. See, some of you, you want your kids to grow and become more mature, but you're holding it out too far. Growth is where it's here. Growth is how you show up and perform today. Growth is here. What is my intention? How I'm gonna show up and perform today dictates growth, not where you'll be. You get something. Let me give you an example. Some of you are not growing your business because you think you need to lose five more pounds before you can go talk to your effing neighbor. Do you know what that's going to cause? Non growth you're waiting for. When I'm successful, then I will do the thing. No. Growth happens now. You learn to make money now. You learn to help her now. You learn to do the work now. When? Now. Turn the person left, right. Shake them, say, it's now, baby, It's now. Why haven't you sold? Because you're waiting for growth in the future. No, growth happens now. You become wealthy by your choices now. When you walk out these doors at the end of my presentation or at the end of this day, it's now. It's this moment. It's not. You have to stop thinking, fooling yourself. Personal development and growth and wealth and success has been cast into the future for so many people. I'm like, how are you today? How are you showing up today? Are you choosing a positive intention today? Do you want to help people today? Are you motivating yourself today? Even though again, you have all the reasons not to? But if you want to feel the day and you want to connect with other people and help them and you want to live more meaningful, it's going to happen when? No more waiting. Write it down. It means something different for every single person here. No more waiting. Growth happens now. I tell people all the time. You all know I run a company called Growth Day and we tell people all the time in Growth Day what you need more of in life is more days of growth and more days of growth. Doesn't happen at the end. It happens now. When you get that, everything changes. So if we all want this, why don't most people have it? Why don't most people have these things. Well, the good news is there's only three things in your way. There's three reasons you don't have more of all of this. It's the same for human. It's a human thing. It's a human need. It's a human desire. It's human intention. It's a human struggle. There's three reasons we don't have what we want. It's this picture. This is the reason you don't have what you want. That's it. It's all right there. Let me label these guys for you. See, I think that's the funniest picture ever. Cause you know what? I showed this to my wife last night on FaceTime. I was like that. She. First thing, she. First thing my wife says when I show her this picture last night, first thing, she goes, you look like the one on the right. Give me that confidence, babe. I can do it. Three reasons you don't have what you want. Number one, doubt. Doubt. You stop believing in yourself, and you stop believing you are worth it. That's that fearful dragon. That is that mean, menacing voice in your head. Sometimes it's even subtle. Most people struggle in their life because when they hear doubt, they stop. Successful people, when they hear doubt, they realize it's just a signal to learn. Soon as doubt becomes a signal in your head, oh, I'm doubting myself. What do I need to learn right now? Well, I need to get more competence. No, I need to learn. I'm not being present. I need to learn. I'm not being aware. I need to learn. Doubt is just saying, hey, brain, pay attention. It's not scary. Second thing that gets in our way. Division. Division. Look at the eyes of this dragon looking so judgmentally to the person to the right. This kills progress. Why are we in the state of the world we have? It's because everyone's so divided. We're so judgmental. I noticed this happening so much in the pandemic that I started this little hashtag around the Internet telling people, judge less. Feel better. If you feel terrible, you're probably judging people too much. It's just real. If you feel terrible, you're locked in some kind of judgment against other people. You're dividing. See, humans, we want to be part of something, that belonging, that connection. But as soon as we judge, we break the connection. We create a false facade of labels between us and other people. We're Division. What do you think the right one is? Anyone have an idea? What's the right picture? He Goes Brendan, are you sure? Labeling me. You know what gets in your way. If you know what you want, if you know you want aliveness and connection, you know you want meaning and growth. What gets in the way of most people, it's what's killing everybody right now. Delay, delay. You're waiting. You're waiting. You're waiting. Some of you have been waiting years. It's not gonna get better till you change. So let me give you a simple framework of how to deal with these things. Number one, realize you gotta turn doubt into belief. Belief. What does that mean? Doubt into belief. What does belief mean? Here's what you need to know. Belief is two things. Only two things that are gonna get you going each day. And overcome the doubt. Doubt means, number one, worthiness. Worthiness. I tell people all the time, belief has to start with your sense of worth, your esteem for yourself. I am worthy of this success, just like she is. If you see people up here as different than you, you've already failed. You think I'm different than you? Why? Because my outfit. You think I'm different than you? Why? Because my haircut, which I am still doing since the pandemic, by myself. What is it that makes me so different than you? See, soon as we don't believe we're worthy of the same amount of success or experience as other people. I didn't know I'd be on stage one day. The first time I did my own seminar, it was in a room with 15 people. 15 people. Half were there free. When I count the 15 people, I count my mom, my sister and the guy who kept coming in to refill the water. He counted. There's three right there. Three right there. Three right there. The guy who came in helped with the av. That's four. They've got four people. I had no idea I was telling Michael this today. This is the last arena in the United States of America and Canada. This was the last one. This is the only one that I had not yet keynoted. The only one. Thank you. Now, I could have never imagined that, but I believed I was worthy. I believed I could try. Because you know, the other part about belief. Is capability. Do you believe you are capable, not capable now. Capable of figuring it out? Confidence is the belief in your ability to figure things out. Let me say it again. Confidence is your belief. It's what. Belief in your ability to figure things out. That's what confidence is academically. Belief in our ability to figure things out. You can figure this out. You can sell. You can connect, you can Build for your family. If you don't believe you're worthy and that you can figure it out, go home and watch more Netflix. Someone else will take your earnings and give it to their family. Someone else has a belief. Someone else has the belief again, I told you I won't be all as popular. My job as high performance coach is to push people. And I'm like, someone else will give that money to their family. Someone else believes that they are worthy and that they will figure it out. And you should believe it too. Second big breakthrough here is division becomes unity. Division becomes unity. You have to stop seeing her is different than you. You have to stop seeing her as different than you. Unity. You know what we all want. I know some of you are religious or believe in God. Some of you might not. But in spirituality, the ultimate enlightenment that every spiritual leader in the history of the world figured out. Enlightenment. All of enlightenment was unity. The concept of oneness. We are the same. We are in the flow of the universe or under God, similar. However you decide it. Unity was always the breakthrough for the highest levels of enlightenment. I'm not separate than you. The separateness is tearing our country apart. The separateness is ripping you from your neighbor. The separateness is why you don't earn more money. Unity. You gotta bring the people together again. This is your job as a leader. Bring them back together. Make that a fierce focus. That desire for connection. Tap into that and create something that's united. Beachbody will not succeed unless everybody gets the idea. We succeed together. This thing builds up together or it don't build up. Can I get an amen on Saturday? Unity. Unity. You gotta unite with each other at home, with your neighbor here, with your teams, with this company. You want growth, it comes from unity, not division. Unity. We've gotta figure it out. Last idea today is turning delay into action. People always say, yeah, yeah, but I get it. I'm like, but I can tell you why you're not acting enough sometimes. Why aren't you taking more action? Well, just like you're not feeling the day, or you're not feeling connection, or you're not feeling the meaning, or you're not feeling now to grow. What happens is sometimes all those things are in your feelings, in your life here. And sometimes you got to get outside yourself. I always tell the story. When I started my job as a speaker and a writer and a coach, I was terrible. I was always delaying. I was this one. I was so distracted, I couldn't get it done. I couldn't figure out why Here I was going broke, moved in with my then girlfriend, trying to write a book. Every day I'd go to the cafes and I'd get the green teas and the croissants and I'd sit there with my laptop, got all prepared to pretend to do work. I look around other people on their laptops. I'm like, I'm here, I'm doing the work, look at me. And about an hour later, nothing's happening. I'm sitting around, I'm like, well, maybe I'll go for a walk. Maybe I'll look at my phone, maybe I'll do something. I'm not getting it done. Every night I'm sitting on this little stupid fold out table in this tiny room, trying to write this book, struggling to get it done. But I know it's gonna change my future and my family forever. It is my meaning, it is my connection, it's my aliveness. I love writing, I love teaching, I love it. I have aliveness, but I'm not doing it. I'm totally connected with being a writer and a coach and a speaker. It's not happening. It's meaningful for me. It's not happening. I'm growing, I'm learning every day. It's not happening. Why I'm sitting there frustrated one night, typing, and I'm looking over at my vision boards. Cause on the bed next to me is the vision board. All the bills, all my notes, all my research, everything splayed out in the bed because the apartment was so tiny that it was basically the bed and my little desk and I'm writing on it and I can't get it done. I'm just frustrated. My lady comes in, she's trying not to disturb me as I'm fake writing because I want her to see me working hard. I know some of you have done this before. Damn it. Just me. Okay. Some of you. Okay. Fake writing. She comes by, tries not to disturb me. Supportive of my dream. Comes over, goes to crawl under the covers to go to bed. And I'm typing and she's getting herself settled. And I look over and I notice that my love is sleeping under the weight of my bills. The woman who took me in when I said I wanted to be a writer and I'd gone broke. The one who was buying my groceries. The woman who believed in me, the one who was paying the rent. The one who went to work each day and came back and cheered me on. She's now sleeping under my bills. And I see it and I felt something inside Just go. Because none of us wants to be the cause of the pain of our own families. None of us wants to be, because of our inaction, the one that leads to that reality. And I know some of you have been there. We've all been there with financial struggles, but that's where I was. But that day and I looked over and said, no more. No more faking it, no more delay, no more distraction. She needs me to show up now. Someone in your life needs you to show up. Someone in your life needs you on your a game. Someone in your life, maybe they're here, maybe they're home, maybe they're in the future. You don't even know that. All the preparation you're going through right now is to serve them at the exact moment that saves their life. Someone needs you to learn to show up and perform and have that edge and have that desire and have that drive and have that success so you can serve them later. Sometimes it's your family, but I know someone needs you on your a game. I know your teams need you right now. And it is always one thing. It is a decision. It is a choice. It is saying, I'm going to feel alive again, even if I have to summon that. I'm going to connect with other people, even if I have to remind myself of that. I'm going to feel this meaningful moment today. Even if I gotta watch Brennan's dang video gonna tell me to give myself some credit here. You're already living a meaningful life. I'm going to show up in this moment and choose to grow and to give because not just because I want that, and we all want that because somebody needs me to show up. Somebody needs you. D. Sometimes we forget that we're living a meaningful life and we forget that there's a historical moment at play always in your life. There was history in your life three years ago, five years ago, 10 years ago, and even now there is history being made right now. There's more opportunity than there has ever been, especially in what you do because the whole world wants aliveness and connection again and you have it. This is literally what you offer people. So you have to show up for it. You have to decide that you are here for it. You have to decide that when you leave these doors and you leave the doors of your homes every single day that you're gonna show up alive. You're gonna show up to serve people. You can get that edge because people need you to show up and do the work. And you do deserve it. You do have the capability of doing this. You are not separate than the winners up here. You have it in you. You just have to choose to show up. You have to desire to earn this opportunity. You have to decide today. It's my time. I'm ready. You have to decide right now. It's my time. You have to decide. I'm ready. Turn to the person. Left, right, shake them. Say it's your time. Ladies and gentlemen, it is your time. Leave this place. Leave. When you go home with that fire in your belly. Aliveness is yours, connection is yours. Meaning is here already. You can grow and you will do it together.