Does Pectus Excavatum Make You Ugly?

And then she just. She just comes right out and says, like, you know, if, you know, next time our class has, like a pool party, you should. Shouldn't take your shirt off. That's pretty creepy. And like, wow, man.

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Or like, oh, my God, dude. What's up, guys? My name is Brian Wongada. Thank you for clicking on this video. Welcome to my channel. As you guys can see, the quality is, oh, so crisp. We're about to film a video. If you guys can't tell, I got Ryan and Will setting up in the background. I got a special one coming for you guys right now. Gonna go ahead and throw my boy Will in here. He's gonna tell a very, very powerful story about girls and pectus excavatum, what they think if you guys are just overthinking it. And I hope you guys enjoy. You guys are gonna get a really good value out of this. And we'll talk to you guys soon. Tune in. I'll let Will introduce himself first and then we'll kind of get into it.

How's it going, guys? Will been working with Brian, like you said, just over two months now. And I remember when he was first, you know, we first started getting to know each other, talking about things we do outside of work, and Brian was, you know, talking about his YouTube channel. So I said, all right, I'm gonna have to check this out. And I. So I go home and I start clicking through these videos and like, the very first one, you know how he's got that nice cobra pose, got the hands over the back, you know, shoulders popping up. I clicked on it and I was immediately like, no way. Like, there's no way that this guy that I've been sitting next to, like, getting to know has this same thing going on. Yeah.

So he went home, checked my YouTube videos out. The next day he goes, dude, I have the same thing. And then he immediately went to his chest and started doing it. I was like, damn, that's amazing. That's awesome. And then we started talking about a little bit more, the stories we had and how we went through similar things. And the reason I wanted to bring on Will is because, I mean, you guys hear from me all the time, stories that I have, things that I went through and things that you can relate to. But I want to bring on another guest who has it. And have him share a story that he shared with me that I think you guys are really going to enjoy. I get questions all the time. You know, what do girls think about it? How do girls react? I want to bring on Will because he has actually an amazing story that is really, really hard at first to hear, But, I mean, it gets better, and I think it's changed him for the better as well. So if you want to go ahead and tell them a little bit about that, that'd be awesome. Yeah, man.

Absolutely, man. I'd love to. So definitely now seems like a little bit less of a deal than back in the day when this happened. But growing up, I mean, you guys know how kids middle school, high school was, and I think this was. I was eighth grade at the time, so it was 13, 14. That age range.

Tough time, right?

Yeah, man. Kids are brutal. So I was sitting in, I believe it was my tech class at the time, and was talking to some girl behind me. And I forget what brought up the conversation, but it was something about pectus excavatum, which, again, I had no idea what it was called at the time. I just.

We had a hole in our chest.

Exactly. That's how I said it. You know, I just had a hole in my chest. Whatever. And then she just. She just comes right out and says, like, you know, if, you know, next time our class is like a pool party, you should. Shouldn't take your shirt off. That's pretty creepy. And, like, you know, now it's kind of like, all right, like, sorry you feel that way, but I don't. You know, whatever. But I mean, you know, when you're 13 years old, you know, girl says that to you, it's. Damn, that was a little rough.

Take me to, like, how you felt afterwards. And, like, that night, were you kind of staying up all night thinking about it? Like, what was that kind of, like, afterwards?

Definitely something that was always on my mind. I mean, just another quick thing throwing out there is. You know, I had friends playing baseball growing up, and one of my. One of my buddies, every time he would make this joke, it's gonna sound really silly, but he'd always be like, you know, hey, if we ever win sectionals, like, can I eat cereal out of that? Which I know sounds hilarious, and it is pretty funny, but, like, it's just another way that that's, you know, something How I was different from most other people, you know, is just always on the front of your mind, like, whether your friends are saying it or some girl in your tech class. So it's just something that you're always thinking about. And like, you know, again, I was, I guess, lucky in the fact that I wouldn't say it probably kept me up, but it definitely, you know, sitting in class, like, thinking about it, you know, I know this girl's behind me and, like, just thinking about this thing that I have.

And she knows, you know, and she knows.

And like, of course, you know, middle school, other people are gonna know. So it's such a simple thing, but it, like, turns into such. It can create such an issue and really, you know, stay with people for a long time. I mean, not only people dealing with this, but anything that, like, you know, might be different. So it definitely is something that weighs on you for a while. Of course, you know, man.

No, I know, man. And I have some stories too, but I guess, you know, looking back on those stories, it was really more of like a me thing, right? Like, I was. I was self conscious, I was insecure. You know, when you have those insecurities and you're self conscious about it, I think other people recognize that. I remember changing out in high school in the locker room. I would go in the corner, go in the corner where there was no one. Even by, like, the stalls in the restroom. I'd go in the restroom and just change out where no one could see. And no one had the chance to see my chest. And then, you know, point it out and, you know, sure enough, the whole locker room is looking at you. And I just had this vision, like, this fear of that happening. The whole reason I wanted to get you on this video, Will, is because I want to know your opinion when it comes to, like, girls and, like, what they think about it. Because I know I have a lot of people asking me what girlfriends think. If you have a girlfriend, if you talk to a girl. I have people ask me all the time on the comments on the Instagram, say, hey, I really like this girl. I'm just afraid of what she's gonna think when I take my shirt off. So I don't know if you have a story or just anything from your experience of how girls react.

I guess with just kinda girls in general hopefully becomes a thing later on. Because by the time you get your shirt off, you should have at least gotten to know that person a little bit. So hopefully they're gonna actually be more into who you are as a person. But I remember, you know, to talk a little more really about it. It's like, I dated a girl my freshman year and my sophomore year of college for almost a year. And that was definitely something I was self conscious about. You know, it's like, what does she think? Like I bet her friend, you know, make it shizzle someone a sorority. So I was always like, you know, do, do her friends, boyfriends look like this? They have this going on. Like, you know, are people laughing about it? And like I was liking the fact that she was very, like, it didn't bother her at all. She's like that, that, that little thing, you know, doesn't change how I see you. Which I think is a huge reason to get over it because I had someone supportive. But it was definitely something that I was like embarrassed of. Even, even after we had been dating for a month or two, like it's still kind of think like, you know, like what, what if I didn't have this? Like, would I be, you know, should she see me a little bit better when I see myself better? So it's definitely something that, you know, is, does stay on your mind, but you learn to, you know, get over. You find someone, you know, it's got a great, great outlook on it and just, you know, a lot of great information that, you know, watching Brian's videos is. Even at this point, like I said, I'm perfectly fine with it. It's how I'm gonna be, you know, for the rest of my life. But watching his videos just makes you feel even better about it, think even less about it, I guess, you know, so it's.

Yeah, and I'll say it with that too. My experience, you know, every girl that I've, I've talked to, I didn't bring it up right away. I mean, I just think it's unnecessary, but it's really just to own it, you know, hey, this is me. This is how I was born. And at the end of the day, you know, it's not gonna change. So if you look different, if you look differently at me because of something that I couldn't control, hey man. And that's on you. And if a girl doesn't like you afterwards because, you know you have this thing you were born with, then I mean, that just shows a true reflection of what type of person she is and the beliefs that she has and the values that she has. For the most part, for me, never brought it up right away. I would always build a relationship first. Like you were saying. I think that's important. They didn't really care. They were already committed to the relationship, to where it didn't matter, you know, we already had a special connection. So I think everyone's just thinking too in depth about it. It's learning to love yourself. When you love yourself, other people can see that you love yourself. You're confident in yourself and they'll recognize that and they won't think any less of you. If you think less of yourself, then of course they'll be able to recognize it, pick it up right away and then they'll notice your self conscious. So really, I love that you have it on. I love that you gave me that story because it just makes sense, you know, girls don't care. I unless you care. And I think that's really what it comes down to. The bottom line is guys, is that girls, they come and go. The real ones that are gonna stay, they're the ones that won't care and they're the ones that are gonna be in your life forever. Of course, we don't have that privilege yet. We're still 22 years old. We're young.

We got a lot to learn ourselves.

Yeah, we're young and killing it. Still on the grind. As you guys know, I'm always clapping my hands, getting hyped up, you know.

Saying like, it's got me doing this in the mornings. Telling you guys, by the time I'm like in my car on the way to work, takes 20 to 30 minutes, I'll find myself at some point just like, all right, let's go get a nice hand, get a clap going.

Clap your hands baby. And let's say let's fucking go.

Then I just sit there like, man, this kid, like positivity is infectious, man.

I appreciate that. Thank you. Alright guys, I hope you guys enjoyed the video. We just wrapped up. Thanks to my boy Will right there for being on the video, sharing that, sharing that very powerful story. Hope you guys got some value out of it. At the end of the day, man, it's all about how your mindset is. If you think you're self conscious, they'll recognize it. You guys need to start lifting heavier and thinking bigger. I hope you guys enjoyed this video. Leave a comment down below with your story. I want to hear what you guys have to say. Thumbs up the video. Like me on Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter and I'll see you guys next time. Take it easy.

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