Mental Health Matters - Let's fine the LOVE!! 😍 💕

All right, so question is, can y'all hear me? Okay, so I just did a test so that I could see if you all can hear me or not because DJ right now cannot hear me, so he's having the problem that I had 2 weeks ago or whatever, because I'm looking at the chat right now. Y'all can hear me? Yes, I can hear you on my computer. So I don't have a DJ because he's trying to go out and come back in. Anyhow, hi everybody, welcome to Mental Health Matters. Every night, every night, good Lord, no, I love y'all, but I don't love you that much. I do love you that much, but no, Um, every Saturday night, 9 PM Eastern, a little bit after 9 here and there when we have various, um, whatever those are called, uh, glitches, because, you know, uh, technology is so much fun. 5x5, loud and clear. Yay! Um, excellent. GPW or Gunpowder Beauty, thank you so much. Um, yes, isn't it lovely? Can you actually read it? It does actually say love. Oh wait, where is it? Yes, it is very dazzling. I got them on this and another USA one while I was on vacation down to see my brother down in Tennessee. So welcome everyone. It is Valentine's Day, so love is the thing that we should be talking about tonight. And because It's not just for lovers and all of that stuff. Now, did my husband take care of me this morning? Yes, he did. He got up and he made me popovers this morning. He had a card for me. Did I have anything for him? No, no, I didn't. And I told him, like, hon, we're not doing anything. I got nothing. I'm working Thursday, Friday, Saturday. Um, tomorrow I will take care of my husband when I am not working. So in And someone told one of my students, like, no, Valentine's is for girls anyway. Y'all gotta go buy us chocolate and stuff. So on the plus side— sorry, I'm looking around— I do have chocolate here somewhere. So, um, love, that is what we are here to chat about tonight. And think about the things that make you feel loved. Think about the way that you show love to others. All of us have our different things. Like my husband, I used to get popovers once or twice a year, uh, with my grandma, uh, because my grandma— my, my grandmother did not cook a whole lot, and she cooked a couple things, and she cooked creamed tuna. And if you've never had it, don't ask. It's a little bit like Scrapple, but not really, not as bad as Scrapple. Anyway, creamed tuna and popovers and pancakes. I think that's about the limit of what my grandmother actually cooked. And, uh, but all of it was lovely. And so I don't know if— I haven't looked yet to see if Tara is out here. Um, so, uh, Tara Chasing Ghosts— Chasing Ghosts, yeah. Tara's here. Uh, Tara's other channel is Tara Smith's Kitchen. And I used to love watching her channel and watching her cook because for so many of us, excuse me, food, food is a language of love. Food is lots of different kinds of emotions for many of us. But one of the nice things about watching Tara's program was the fact that it's like, mm, food. She knows how to cook. She can feed me. That makes her my friend. Yes. So things that make us feel loved, things that make us love others or express our love, and it's different for everyone. And what was it? Oh my gosh. So today on the range, and yes, it's like 28 degrees here, 22 degrees. I've got hardy students here in New England, and we're down on the range. And my student— God, it was so funny. She, um, I have, I have, I have shooting steel set up at 20 yards. I've got a plate rack, I've got some rectangle steel, I've got some circle seals, and I've got those big honking 12x24 that you use for Steel Challenge. So at the end of the range there is the plate rack, a circle, and a giant rectangle. And this is her first time on my range, and our paper targets are way close because right now our target stands are currently frozen to the ground. So I have choices: we can shoot at 10 feet for— because that's what we need for a pistol permit class— or we can shoot at 20 yards. And this particular student, um, it was so funny because she's shooting our paper at 10 feet But she keeps pulling the trigger, looking over the gun, pulling trigger, looking over the gun. I'm like, no, no, no, stay on target. And that's the problem with shooting really close is that people want to see what they did. And I'm like, all right, we're going to go out here to the far target. I'm like, that big rectangle. And she's looking downrange. She's like, what big rectangle? And I'm like, that big rectangle. And this has a point. I really promise it does. She's like, what big rectangle? The big rectangle is just the snow. And I'm like, no, the actual big white rectangle that's a piece of steel down there. She's like, I don't see it. And like, 12 by 24, big rectangle. And her brain was looking at that plate rack and seeing the rectangle that was under the plate rack. She's like, you want me to shoot under that thing? And By the time we figured out what she was looking at versus what I was trying to get her to look at, we were laughing hysterically because we're like, some communication seems like it should be simple, and in our heads we know what we mean, but then transferring that information to someone else, so much harder. So, um, we're laughing because— and then she told me another story about like another incident like that where it's like she was looking for wood glue and her girlfriend found a glue that says it, it, it glues everything. And her and her friend were having the conversation and she's like, well, it says it's glue for everything. And she kept asking, does it, does it hold wood together? And it says, it says everything. And so communication is hard. That's why we need to talk about what our love communications are. Like, those of you, whether it's your mom, your dad, your brother, your sister, your sibling— your siblings are your brothers and sisters— um, your, your friends, your family. Like, oh, this morning one of my students brought me this lovely little beaded bracelet for Valentine's Day. And, um, and so, you know, gifts— we like giving, and sparkly things are always good. And it's just like my husband waking up and making me popovers. That's a way that he expresses love, right? My son Maxwell, we were talking about it at dinner tonight because I'm like, I'm doing the show, I need more stuff. So said, asked my son Max, I'm like, all right, now I know one thing for sure, and his thing is hugs. He hugs everybody all the time. And he goes out of his way to make sure that I get a hug and dad gets a hug and sister maybe, maybe not sometimes. But so I've got a 19-year-old, yeah, he's 19 till May, and an 18-year-old who still give their parents hugs in public even sometimes. So I know that that's one of his things and then I asked, well, what else? What are ways that you feel that connection with people? And he's like, going out to dinner, having a meal, you know, breaking bread. This is one of those things that, you know, in the Bible they talk about the importance of breaking bread together, uh, families breaking bread together, spending time together. And there's like that nourishment that's not just nourishment for the nutrition in your body, but that nourishment of being around family and feeding one another, um, that sort of thing. Uh, and, um, sorry, I'm looking at the things, uh, but I'm just gonna kind of throw this in here because Taryn— oops, and I clicked on the wrong thing. Uh, something about a little boy's hugs. Little boy's 5, and I pray his hugs never stop. Yeah, and I'm like, see, I don't even think of— I never thought about the fact that my hugs would ever stop. So don't even think about it. It's not a thing. Um, But, oh, see, so I'm like, oh, DJ, should we do the roll call? But DJ's not here, so sorry I didn't get— we didn't get that straightened out before the end of the day, but I know he's still out here. Um, what is your language of love, right? Food, lots of things, right? Uh, what else is there? Hugs, there's that. Cards, like I said, my husband actually got a card for me and he wrote something nice in it. And one of my favorite birthday cards that I get once about every 5 years is I have a list, and for every whatever my age is, my husband writes a new letter, a new reason to why he loves me. And so I think last time I got it was at 50 or somewhere in there. So he owes me one. So maybe for this birthday I'll get another one. So each year I've got a "I love you because," and, you know, each year he comes up with one more thing, and I put it away in my, my, my drawer, and then he steals it at some point and puts something in and then gives it back to me. Oh, Abigail, you got me, kid, for sure. Listening to Lucy's heartbeat as I fall asleep in her arms. Mm. Oh, gives me goosebumps. I love putting my head on my husband's chest and listening to his thump, thump, thump, thump, thump, thump. It is just so heartwarming. And it's just like, it's also finite because every one that we listen to is one closer to the last time we hear it. And it's like, ooh, that kind of sucks. But just the joy of hearing the heartbeat. And it's like, since we're talking about like a 5-year-old and babies and kids and all that, it's like the first thing you hear is either your mom's gas of bubble bubble bubble or her heartbeat, right? Probably the heartbeat for sure, or at least it's the first or second thing. So the first thing we hear when we're in the belly is that heartbeat. So that is our first connection with anyone. And it's just like, that's the first thing we get to hear in our life. So yeah, it makes sense to me, at least for Abigail and I, maybe not all of you guys out there or ladies, but to hear that heartbeat, because that's the first thing we actually get to perceive as a human being. So it is awesome. Oh, wait a second. Sorry, I'm just going to laugh because Apparently I growl a lot and make or fix things. Can't find anything to eat, I will take that all or nothing in the cabinet and make a meal. And see, that is absolutely one of those things, um, that I think is really cool about watching your Tara's Kitchen— Tara Smith Kitchen— is that you just put stuff together and it works out great. And if anyone is not currently, uh, following Taryn on Facebook. She posts up all of these things, uh, about her family who are currently living out of their pantry. And so it's like they take what they've got and they put it all together. So, so many things. So love, love, love, love, love, um, so many things. And yes, I'm just laughing at Abigail for knowing my mom's probably— yes. So yeah, I figured you got a 50/50 shot. And the reason I even thought of the gas is because as we're having this conversation after dinner and we're just sitting around the dining room table, it was just like, literally heard my son's belly go, and I'm like, what the heck? So, you know, and again, when I've got my head on my husband's shoulder, on his chest, listening to the thump, thump. It's just like you do hear the bubbles and the gurgles and all of that sort of thing. All right. So here we are 13 minutes in and me without my DJ. So I am going to try to do a quick, hey, hi everybody. Um, and so I'm going to scroll and we'll see what happens if I get through this or not. All right. So needless to say, DJ was actually the first one to throw a comment in there. And then we have our Crabby Turtle, who is generally very good at pink hand waving. And when, uh, StreamYard first started, it didn't show me a pink hand waving here in StreamYard. It just said dot dot pink hand waving dot dot. So that is why I call Crabby Turtle pink hand waving. All right, Mr. Ballinger is here enjoying his life. Uh, Abigail, Saria Fan, what's up? Apparently he has snow and dogs. Uh, G-Webs is here with us as well. Oh, Hillbilly saying show some love, smash that thumbs up. Um, Woods, uh, giving me the loud and clear, and Saria Fan did that as well. Gunpowder Beauty, it's been a minute, love to have you here, thanks for coming by. And then Miss Tara Chasing Ghosts. Um, and Tara, drop your link. I think you can, right, for Sunday? Because I know you're gonna do your, uh, oh, she's gonna play guitar for y'all tomorrow and she sings to you because she is way braver than I am. Uh, KY Rimfire, uh, and Hobbies is here. Woods, I said hi to Woods. I say hi to her or not? I don't know. You said DJ, but who— no one can get enough of the dog nose, so Who here doesn't love their pups? And for you cat people out there, who here doesn't love their kitties? And you know, as far as love goes, who doesn't love, um, the dog nose? The dog nose is really cute. But also, there are so— oh my gosh, my husband. Something else I love, my husband watching stupid cat videos and laughing hysterically. So just like the heartbeat, the laughter. The laughter of a child, the laughter of babies. When I was in the ER earlier this week, there was a crazy lady who would yell at the orderlies and anybody else who went in her room. And then there was also like a little kid, I'm going to say 1-ish, somewhere where you could hear the googles— the giggles and the hee kind of thing. And it's just like, oh, I forget how the little ones sound. Um, New York Outcast, thanks and happy V-Day to everyone. All right, where am I? Where am I? Gunpowder Beauty said hi. New York Outcast, Sariah fan. Did I say it's for real? Um, there you go. Kitty people and funny cat videos, let's go. Um, all right, did I get her through everyone? Oh, I know. Oh, there's our Jamie. Hi, Jamie. Um,. And I know I— oh, Garage Guy, hey buddy! And this is why I need, you know, that DJ, uh, Taryn, who's already been up on the screen. T23. Oh, T23. Yeah, dude, it's me by myself, but this is going to take a little bit of time because I'm scrolling, scrolling, scrolling. Garage Guy said hi too. Yes, yes, Taryn. Um, all right. Did I get there? I know somewhere. Oh, there he is. C.E. Schneider Marketing, late but here. So, um, all right, I'm gonna keep going. I think, I think I hope I got y'all. If I didn't get you all, if you didn't, if I didn't say hi, feel free to say hi again and I'll try to get you at the end. Um, and or if you're just gonna sit there and be quiet, that's okay too, because sometimes we love to be quiet and calm and not be noticed. Sometimes we love to be the center of attention, and well, some people don't ever like being the center of attention, but, um, there is that sort of stuff. So your turn, drop in the chat 2 things for me. One, what is your favorite way to show people love?? I know one of my favorite things is to give stuff away. And then what is one of those things that make you feel so loved? Because back to after dinner chat tonight, talking to my, my daughter and my son, and it's just like hugs, food, compliments. This week has been pretty heavy in compliments for my daughter. I'm talking to different friends like, oh, Nadia is the funniest person I know. And she's super smart and that sort of thing. So then I pass those on to her and that makes her feel happy. So, oh my gosh, sorry. So Charles squeezing my feet on his tiny buns, tiny buns, shiny bunnies. I don't know, one of those things. She's little. He's like marrying a little tiny pixie. Um, so, and he, he talks about that being one of his favorite things always. So that's why I'm, um, yeah, let's see. All right. So Taryn's, how she loves to show her love, meeting unspoken needs. It's such a blessing to see what people need or areas that can be met that they hide or don't vocalize themselves. Oh sure. That's why you text me all the time, isn't it? Um, Taryn is one of my students here at A Great Start Junior School. And she's turned into one of my friends. And we joke about the fact that her coffee mug in the morning is as big as her head. Like, when she goes like this, like, literally it looks more like a bowl than a coffee mug, let's be real. But Taryn checks in from time to time, says, hey, how you doing? And our first— all right, ready? Can I do this? I'm gonna do this. Yeah. All right, so our first lesson We've known each other an hour, going on an hour and a half maybe. And what did she say? See, maybe I should say this, save this for when I actually get you on here, because you're going to get on here. Sorry. So now Charles is going with hiney booty buns, so we're going to go with that. Um, so anyway, my short version of what I was about to say about Terrence— Terrence is good about finding those unspoken needs. And that's— and then yes, we'll get you on here so it all makes sense. Spending time with people, doing fun things, and/or eating good food makes you feel loved and makes you allowed to be loved. Ooh, let's talk about that just for a tiny minute. My daughter and I were also having a different conversation at the end of dinner, which was not as lovely. Because in my line of work, I deal with people who are abused, right? I have women who are coming here to learn how to handle firearms so that they can find a new skill, build more confidence, and sometimes they choose that that's part of their self-defense plan, but not always. And we were talking about people who are in abusive relationships and how some people do not believe they are worthy of love. And most people at some point in time in their life don't believe they were worthy of love. And this is a hard true fact, is that so often we're willing to give out stuff and we're not very good at pulling it back in. So as we talk about what is your love language, how do you like to you show your love, and you think about how do you like to receive that love, what things you enjoy, check in just a little bit and just make sure that you're communicating to other people what that is, how do you receive, because some of us are not very good at receiving. And I will happily tell Taryn that I think she's great and pretty and all of that sort of thing, But then if Taryn says to me that I'm great and pretty, then I'm like, oh really? I don't know, maybe. Okay, I guess. And at 55, I'm starting to believe people when they give me compliments. But it's been a long line— big— been a long, uh, road to hoe. Row to hoe. There we go. All right, let's see, where'd I go? We got meeting, spending, these snuggles and cuddles. Now Surya Fan said it's the kitty that this is the snuggling and cuddles. But oh my gosh, is there not anything better? Well, wait, no, that's not— I'm doing that wrong. Um, how great is it when you have a cat that falls asleep on your lap? Because that is the ultimate reason to also fall asleep, because you cannot disturb the cat because the cat is sleeping and it's holding you down and you cannot go anywhere. Um, and Abigail also likes the hiney booty buns. And, uh, the, uh, getting weapons for each other. Um, where was it? DM Foss had a Valentine's, uh, whatever that's called, survey, and he's like, what are the best Valentine's presents? And it was like, cough— not coffee. I see I'm thinking about Taryn. It was like chocolates, flowers, a card, nothing. And I'm like, how did he not have ammo on that list? Because I know my husband for our anniversary will buy me self-defense ammo. So once a year I get to shoot my old ammo, and then I go put my new ammo in. And once a year I get ammo for Christmas. Christmas, my thingy, whatever that's called. Words. All right, those of you who haven't met Charles yet, He's going to be our comedian. I'm a dude, love language simple, show up naked, bring food. Yeah. And my daughter and I were having— no, not this conversation. I should stop. Nadia and I were discussing the fact that men are simple and straightforward and generally easy like that. And G-Webs receive piles and piles of cash as love. Is there any rich folks out there? Yes. And here's the truth of that. Is like, I love shopping, so I love spending money on things. And, um, and sometimes money is a love language. Now, depending on your— yeah, trying to figure out how to put that out so I don't get banned for what I was about thinking. But, um, yes, money can be a love language because it shows a way that you can take care and provide and all of those things. So, and yes, Abigail, biting cunts can be as a love language. You just never know, just depends. And yes, Tara, purr therapy, because cats are awesome as long as they're not being jerks. Because I don't know, I got a dog that can be a jerk. I've had cats that can be jerks. The worst is a cat that pees on everything. Oh my goodness. All right, so back to the whole love sparkliness, right? Your ability to receive. And Jamie's out there somewhere, even if he's being quiet. And, um, on Friday nights he does his Georgia Shooting Connection at this time. I believe it's 9 to 10, right, Jamie? Um, feel free to throw that in there. And, um, The ultimate love is that which you connect with your creator, and the creator has lots of different names. If you're Christian, it's Christ and God and the Holy Spirit. If you're of a different religion, there's so many names for who you believe your creator is, and That is like the ultimate love connection is family, friends, the universe, God, Christ, whatever it is you connect to that is bigger and better than you. Because when we connect to something that's bigger and better than us and we understand more that this is not it, this is part of it. We want to do the best we can while we are here and we want to grow our hearts as big as possible. But it's nice to have a savior or a model that helps you realize that no matter how much love in here, our Father has even much, much more, more love than we can even comprehend. And to understand that that is more— sorry. So yeah, but there's always more of it. The more you give, the bigger your heart gets. The bigger your heart gets, the more you can receive. And you have to allow yourself to be able to receive that love. And like I said, check in sometimes because some of us love to give and we're not so great at receiving. Some of us just want people to give, give, give, give, give, give, give, and we're just going to hold on to it all and you can't have any of it. And that's also the wrong one-way street. And the best love is the stuff that comes and goes, right? Is, um, started this talking about being here every night. I'm like, I love y'all, but not that much. I do love you all. And no, I still wouldn't do this every night, but it's just like, and then you guys show up and because you were here making comments, having conversations in the chat, and DJ shows up every week and all of these things is like, that feeds me so that I can talk to you guys. And, uh, last week, who was it? Was it Woods? Somebody, somebody said thank you for doing this. And, um, it's one of those things where it's just like receiving is awesome, and some, for some of us, harder than it— All right, thank you, Jamie. So Friday night Eastern, 8 AM or 8 AM Lord, uh, over on Georgia Shooting Connection, 8 to 10 Eastern time every Friday night, Jamie has a chat for 2 hours with a big panel of folks, and they always go over— well, I'm pretty sure, I don't catch it all the time, I'm not as good as you guys sometimes, but, um, there's usually Bible verse at the end and that sort of stuff. Ah, believe it or receive it, but helps to fight against the self-doubt. Yes, when people will give you all those confidence Um, all right, I'm gonna go with this too. Abigail, money. I think Tony Robbins put it the best: money is neither good nor bad, it's— it just amplifies what you already are. So money doesn't make somebody an asshole. They were an asshole before they had money, not because they have it. That's just who they are. Just like the people who give the most or the people who have the most um, so yeah. Uh-oh, sorry. I then read Chasing Ghosts of— my cat figured out how to turn off my CPAP to wake me up. Yeah, cats can be totally, um, what is that called? Demanding. Yes, that. All right, um, so personality does have more meaning than money, but the conversation was um, it's just one way. Everyone's got a different love language, right? So some people like to do things, like give specific things to people. I love it when you tell me something that— oh, I know DJ likes guitars. Now, I don't— would never buy him a guitar because A, I already know he's got enough guitars. Uh, no, but like, I wouldn't know how to get him a get him a guitar. But, uh, G-Webs, if I want to send G-Webs something, I would send him puppy treats because I know he loves his dogs and I've met the dogs. Um, and it's just like knowing the stuff and being able to sort of what, uh, Taryn was talking about a little bit earlier is like finding those unknown needs and that sort of stuff. And I love noticing those little things. James 4:2, you have not because you ask not. And now New York asked, uh, oh, Cast, if your money is gone next week, you're doing it wrong. We gotta get the money, build the money, make it grow, all that fun stuff. Oh gee, Webs, does that mean I'm on the hook now? Wait, wait, see, ready? I'm trashing the place, but see, I could send y'all some dentist sticks. The boys would enjoy that. All right, so let's talk about that whole giving stuff. All right, so two things tonight. Number one, is there anybody here who likes sweatshirts, and do you like the color brown? All right, so anyone here like a sweatshirt and the color brown? Oh, Viejo shows up towards the end. All right, Viejo, we love you. See, we've got shiny sparkly love for you here today. And if you happen to like sweatshirts— and oh, by the way, there's only one size, so don't get too picky here— but I have a sweatshirt and I've been giving them away since I bought them in December. And the brown one— this is the color brown. I'm not going to show you what's the rest on here. So here's a color brown. If you would wear this color, let me know in the chat. All right, so I got these— what are these— these sweatshirts. And I saw this sweatshirt 6 or 7 years ago at Foxwoods standing in the line at Dunkin' Donuts. For those who don't know, Foxwoods is the casino, first casino we ever had here in Connecticut. So I'm standing in line at Dunkin' Donuts and I see this sweatshirt, and then I talked to the guy who was wearing it. I'm like, oh, that's so cool, very— and all of that. Now fast forward to this past December, I see an ad for this sweatshirt and I go and I buy 5 or 10 of these sweatshirts, and they all say the same thing. The only difference is the color. So, um, are you all ready? And if nobody wants my sweatshirt, that's okay. I'm gonna find another student because I've been giving away to students left and right depending on what color they happen to like. So staying in line, and what do I see? Dear person behind me, The world is a better place with you in it. Love, the person in front of you. So because I am me, I talked to the person like, that is so cool. And so this is the sweatshirt that I'm giving away tonight if anybody likes the color brown and thinks that they can fit into— what is this? What size did I get for y'all? Extra large. And yeah, I think it's unisex. And then when I talk to him, he turns around and— oops, shucks, get out of the way— it says, "You are enough," which is one of those things where you have to believe you are enough in order to receive that love and that you are worthy. So there it is. Hoodie, extra large. Oh yeah, brown. You are enough on the front and Dear Person behind. I can't do this straight on. There it is. And this is from the Dear Person Company, is where I got these. So if you have to— you're inspired now to go get your very own, uh, you can go to Dear Person Company and pick out the color and the size you like. If you happen to like brown, you can let me know in the chat and I will get you one. I don't know. Oh, Taryn, uh, is gonna be getting one. Hers is burgundy or wine colored or dark red or whatever we call that color, but that one's sitting over there. Um, so there we go. All right, so Viejo, do you like it enough to send me your address so I can send it to you? Although it's probably too warm in California. Of course, I always forget you are Southern California. Yes, not like Northern where I live, where it's cold. Um, so yes, Chasing Ghosts, I would bring DJ to the guitar, uh, store. However, we've got a little bit of a challenge getting together. We've gotten together once in our lifetime thus far, and that was in Vegas. And thankfully, um, got to see him. I even have pictures, me, him, G-Webs, my, my husband. It was so much fun. Okay, yeah, so the Southern Place. So if— but if you have use for a, um, whatever that's called, sweatshirt, by all means, I will happily send it to you. And Ronay getting in under the wire just before we finish. So G23, I hope you are happy because see, it's a a little longer. It's more than half an hour. We're at 36 minutes, and I think we've talked enough about love on Valentine's Day. I want to say thank you to everybody who came by. And DJ, maybe tomorrow we'll hop on, or earlier this week, to figure out if we can figure out what got broke so I can get you back. And, uh, yeah, G-Webs. So SHOT Show 2024. Wow, really? Yeah, so, uh, SHOT Show 2024 is where I got to hook up with G-Webs and DJ, and we went to lunch, and I got to meet the puppies for real. Um, and so yeah, only 360-some-odd days left. All right, my friends, And New York Actcast is not wrong. Like I might have mentioned last week or the week before, my goal is to do this for 10 years, so we have until 2028. So I think perhaps for my grand finale, G2/3 will be super happy because I will just put together all of the interviews so it just runs for like 24 hours, and then he'll finally get everything that he's looking for. All right, that is enough of that. Thank you all for joining me. Top of the hour, hop on over to Hillbilly Nation. He's got his show starting up at 10 PM Eastern. The rest of you live in other time zones, y'all can do the conversion because I'm not good like that. So, um, top of the hour, Hillbilly Nation, and Guns, Beer, and Therapy if you haven't been there. Uh, he's always got lots of folks there chatting about all sorts of stuff. And thanks for popping in. Feel the love, let people know how to love you, and have an awesome, spectacular rest of your evening. See y'all next week. And if I can hit the button, we'll actually be gone. Fire!