Suicide Prevention Sat... a wee bit late

Okay, it says I'm live because I hit that button thing up in the corner over there, and then I can end broadcast. Anyway, replay viewers, how are you all doing? At least you don't know what time I actually went live, do you? No, no, you don't. Oh my goodness. Well, a phone just made noise. I don't know where the phone is that made noise, but there was no alarm that went off at 9 o'clock when I was supposed to be here. So it's not 9 o'clock on a Saturday night, but we're getting close. Um, hello, my name is Brooke Cheney and I am a firearms instructor here at A Great Start Shooting School up there in the corner. That there— it's so hard to do this. Anyway, um, I come in, I come on. Oh my goodness, I can so talk. Thank you, G Web. So sorry I'm late. Uh, luckily DJ saved my little took us from missing a Saturday. And it was funny because I actually just responded to one of your comments about saying, oh, you know, I only miss a couple of these a year. Today almost was one of them if DJ had not sent me an email saying, so was your show on tonight? Did I miss it? I'm like, uh, no, I forgot to have it. So I'm having it now. It's a little late. Um, so anyway, uh, today this is— hi, I'm Brooke Cheney. I'm an instructor here at Great Start Shooting School, and I do Suicide Prevention Saturday because 2 out of every 3 gun deaths you hear about when they're talking about gun violence is actually a suicide. So I think our media is being slightly dishonest with us when they're talking about gun violence and the numbers, if 66% of that number happens to be suicide. Now, nobody actually wants to deal with mental health problems. Nobody wants to talk about it. Nobody wants to be broken. And unfortunately, our society is that which— sorry, my throat is really dry. Mental health is hard, hard to talk about. So that's why I pop on every Saturday night for a couple minutes. All right, the cough drop while I'm talking was a bad idea. Don't do this at home, folks. You might choke. So mental health stuff. I just put up some posts— actually, I just scheduled some posts. I didn't put anything up. Oh yes, love the hair. I've been running around all day. It's been a very fun, exciting Saturday. Um, so why don't we want to talk about mental health? Well, because if we talk about it, we might have to admit that there might be a problem that we need help with. So if you think you have a problem, by all means call, um, and talk to someone. Now, can someone else fix your problems for you? No, not really, um, but you have to learn some tools to help you fix your own problems. Happiness may be an inside job, but we don't all necessarily have the ability to fix everything inside ourselves without getting some outside opinions. I don't know about you guys, but people have said, you know, you can have— DJ was just talking about you, dude. Sorry. So just so you all know, it's Saturday night. If it weren't for this guy here, yeah, I wouldn't be on because I would have gone to bed not realizing it was Saturday, and then it would have been a It's Tuesday, Freakin' Saturday on a Sunday because, you know, life happens and someone's an airhead from time to time. So anyway, getting help is not a sign of weakness. Getting help is a sign of knowing that you need help and that you're reaching out and that you can learn from someone else. There was a great— can I find it? Oh, would it be so cool if I could find this? There was a quote that there we go, that I just, I scheduled for tomorrow. But because you were here tonight, I'm going to share this with you now. So hold a second and I will throw this up here. Ready? You ready for this? It's very exciting. And I'll throw it up on the Facebook side. The sum total of our knowledge will never compare to that what we do not know. And I think a lot of us expect ourselves to know everything and to understand everything and be able to fix everything. I've been talking with lots of different people, as always, and it's amazing how hard we are on ourselves, how we're supposed to suck it up, buttercup, get over it, we can handle this on our own, we don't need anyone's help, that sort of thing. No, not true at all. We are social creatures for a reason. Do we need our solitude and our silence and our quiet time? Absolutely. I know as a parent I would give myself quiet time in times out when my children would be screaming non-stop, right? Um, I would put them in their cribs, they would be screaming, which is— there's nothing worse than hearing your own child scream. You just want to fix them, you want to help them. But sometimes the best thing to do is let them be, let them scream, because you know what, world, life, we will scream from time to time. It is how things will happen and how we heal sometimes. And just walk away from the screaming child. Some people need to do more stuff like that. Just give yourself time, give yourself grace to not have to take care of it all the time, and find that happy balance. I know I struggle all the time with, oh, I'm working, I'm working, I'm working. That's the reason I missed my normal 9 o'clock time, because I was getting stuff ready for school tomorrow. I was catching up on our bills from the week. I was running around today, went to a steampunk event in Manchester, Connecticut. It was fun. There will be pictures later, theoretically. And we can't do it all. We can do lots of things, but we can do more together. So for Suicide Prevention Saturday on this February 26th of a leap year, I believe because my friend Jess is actually going to be having her birthday for the 12th time or so. No, actually she's younger than me, so not that many. But anyway, on this February 26th, my hope, my reminder to you guys is reach out, talk to people, and find out how you can help. But also remember to listen to who wants to help you. I'm trying to work on that a lot more. Um, sorry. And laughter, laughter is also good. So PN Woods, parent people are the best people, teachers get to leave and go home. Yeah, well, I was a nanny for a while. I totally saw that whole thing happen where it's like I'd have beautiful children all day long and then the parents would come, they were not the same child. But so parenting is hard whether you're a single parent or a married parent or any of that, parenting is hard. But I lost track. This is the problem with me playing with the comments and everything else. But so, oh, if only I had something to drink. All right, guy that comments mental illness pulling a Thanos. I am inevitable. It's true. Mental health is inevitable. All of us struggle at some point in time. Do all of us need counseling? Do all of us need psychologists to go talk to? No, not everyone. Do a lot of us though? Yes. Um, I was actually replying to somebody else's comment about just the whole idea that we're not ever gonna stop suicides from happening, but the idea is if we talk about mental health awareness, if we talk about mental health in general and maybe give some one more person permission to ask for help. Speaking of asking for help, pay attention to those who are willing to help you because I'm trying to be better— oh, thank you, PN, actually this helps— I'm trying to be better about when people offer to help me that I am taking that. Like DJ who popped on earlier, I'm guessing he's probably gone because Barbecue's already started his show, But I'm trying to pay attention to the people who are offering to help me because I'm so busy going, going, going. I'm like, I gotta schedule my students. I gotta set up for my students. I gotta do my website. I gotta do my social media. I gotta do this. I gotta— and it's like, I have students that are like, hey, yeah, I can help you with that. I can do that. I'm like, oh, that's great. That's great. And then I have no idea which of my students said they would help me with that. So I actually am putting up a new shelter in my range this year, and I have a list of 4. That I actually wrote down and paid attention to that said, um, that they will come help me put together my shelter. And I plan on buying the shelter, bringing it down to my range, and calling them, and I will feed them, and I will watch them put it together. So, um, so he's saying I'd rather fight a bear than admit I need help. Well, I don't know how many people actually want to fight bears But, you know, chew on glass, walk on glass, rolling glass. Lots of people have zero desire to ever ask for help, and it's actually pretty bad because so many of us are so willing to help everybody else. And I used to wonder about that, but then a thought occurred to me. Why is that? Because if you need something, just like— oh, wait, wait, wait. So Pien's comment about parents people are the best teachers get to leave and go home. If I help PN with a problem, guess what? I helped them with a problem, I get to leave and go home. This is why we always want to help somebody else, because if I can help you with one little thing, then I feel like I've accomplished something. When I help myself with one little thing, I know there's a stinking stack of a mountain of other things that I need to fix, or be better at, or something along those lines. So yeah, it is hard to ask for help. Oh wait, this is a really long one. I'll have to go over this way 'cause I'll disappear. Oh wait, it goes this way. We are not the ocean, we are the grains of sand on the beach perspective. Today is just a second in time, our time. Reaching out to other walkers on the globe is a great thing to do. So yes, and I put a post up on this for next week, a little bit. None of us can do everything. All of us can do something. We all love to help others. And there's a dog coming in and my daughter, so you're going to be on YouTube and Facebook if you come over and say hi. All right, there's the dog, there's the daughter. This is Suicide Prevention— oh wait, and there's a third dog, although you can't see Hawkeye. You can't see him. No, no, not so much. Oh, you're giving me a dog?

Yes.

Okay. I missed you. You missed me? Oh, is that why you sent the other dog down too? He won't stay long. He will stay. All right, so Nadia, what would you tell my Suicide Prevention Saturday people? What's a great way to ask for help or get help, or what's a good thing to do?

Good thing to do is—

Come down here. Come down.—

a good thing to do is to listen to people when they talk to you and actually take them seriously, which is a good thing.

Actually be open to, you know, offer help if you can. That's it. That's it. That's it.

I want you to come see all my things.

All the work that you've done. All right, so— oh wait, no, you want to come share with them? What? You can share with them. So, um, this is my daughter, and today she kicked me out of the house. I guess I kicked her out of the house because she wanted to clean the house. Yeah, which she never does. But why, why did you want to clean the house? Tell them about your character.

Uh, there's this—

why? Because it's, it's a cool thing, the idea of a character inspired you.

Yeah, there's something— yeah, there's a character that I like that's from a game, and he's a housekeeper, and I was like, wow. I was like, that's kind of, that's kind of cool. And he, his philosophies are, make sense. So I was like, hey, I want to be more like this guy.

And so I cleaned the house. So, oh yeah, so wait, DJ was responding to your solid advice. Thank you. And if you could hear him, he'd be rocking. Oh yeah, he's totally got a DJ voice for real. Yeah, DJ voice. Yeah. So, and yes, it's an adorable puppy. All right, so I gotta go see what she did. Yes, I will be back next Saturday, theoretically at 9 o'clock. Um, and but before I go, I will address PN's comment here. It's a problem, the upbringing that many of us have. Asking for help is weakness. And it's not even that it's— my brain thinks it's wrong, but my upbringing soul doesn't like it. And, and this is— we have that mental health thing in our brain that I should be able to do this, I should be able to handle this, no one else needs to help me. However, I think the thing we forget all the time, it's how great it feels to be able to help someone else. And somebody recently said to me when I was complaining about my knee problem— I don't know, might have been DJ— but asking the kids all the time to do stuff for me. And he's like, remember to give people the gift of being able to help you, because you know how much it— how great it is to be able to help somebody else. So, all right, so I'm gonna leave with that. Yes. All right, friends, you all have a lovely evening, weekend, whenever you watch the replay, all of that sort of stuff. And we'll see you next, next Saturday. Yes. And then two Wednesdays from now, I've got that special event with Jake again. So Wednesday afternoon at noon, but I'll post those up. I'll talk to you guys later. Thanks for checking in. Bye, friends. I'll see you later. Bye.