Suicide Prevention Sat - The ONE thing that can change your life

3, 2, 1. Okay, it went faster than I did. Hi everyone, G23 is here because he said he is first and he's been sitting there for 10 minutes waiting for me to finally pop on. And the funny thing about this, hmm, is it says no one is watching right now, so G23 may have come and gone. I'm not really sure. You just need to stop. Come here. Um, hey everyone, it is Saturday night, it's 9 o'clock. This is who I'm talking to, this is Smarty. He's not bleeding from the face, he just is a rusty puppy because apparently this is a poodle thing. So it is Saturday Night Live— no, it's not, it's Suicide Prevention Saturday. And no, I have not been drinking, I swear. Um, Suicide Prevention Saturday, why? Because as a gun owner and someone who abhors violence when we're talking about gun deaths, we need to remember and know for sure that 2 out of every 3 gun deaths the CDC is talking about are suicides. And because of this, we need to be ever vigilant to talk about actual mental health stuff. So the— sorry, I just— hi Tara, um, I'm glad you just got home. It's better than being on the road and typing. So for those who don't know, this is Tara from Tara Smith's Kitchen. If you're hungry, go learn how to cook something over here at Tara Smith's Kitchen. Um, so why do we talk about this? As gun owners, we're always sort of blamed for the violence in the world, in that if we would give up our guns, there wouldn't be violence, which couldn't pretty much be any further from the truth as to what is true. One of the interesting things is over a decade ago, I started looking into violence prevention because unfortunately I live in Connecticut and that is when Sandy Hook happened 10 years ago. So what prevents violence? Funny, same thing that helps prevent mental health crises and suicide. So what's the one thing? I don't know if y'all read the description, right? I said one thing that can change your life. There's lots of things that can change your life, but maybe there's just one. So when we're talking about mental health, when we're talking about violence prevention, when we're talking about saving lives, suicide prevention, the same stuff that helps prevent violence is the same stuff that helps prevent suicide. It is always communication, feeling understood, being understood, being taken care of, and being fed, clothed, shelter. Then there's education, mental health, and having a community that you belong to. All of these things— oh my goodness, I am sorry, someone super, super famous, Miss Gina Roberts. She actually got out of work either early or on time, I'm not really sure. Or wait, it's Saturday, why would you be working on a Saturday? Because she's a workaholic. Um, she usually gets the replays. So anyway, that's Gina. I think she was at SHOT Show. I think people said there were Gina sightings, but I'm not really sure. So mental health, suicide prevention, violence prevention, all of it goes together. However, the name of tonight's show is What Is the One Thing That Can Change Your Life? Ooh, and DJ just threw this up for me and it reminds me that I need to throw the banner up because apparently unbeknownst to me, I took away all his powers. And so he just has to remind me stuff so that I can put things up like that. What's one thing? Well, here's the deal. I have no idea. The reason I put the title— way that I put the title is because sometimes one thing is all that you actually need, but we don't know. So last week, for those of you who are with us, we talked about how, um, shoes— understanding what my actual shoe size is made a huge difference in my life. It made little things in my life that I didn't know about could be so stinking easy, but for most of my life it was totally as if I had no concept that I needed to learn something. So the reason I talk about this week, as far as there being one thing that can change your life, it's about learning. It's about understanding how can one thing change your life. So I have a couple of examples here, right? Health. What do we need in life? We need some basic simple things. We need good nutrition. Guess what else is something that many, many Americans are Lacking— oh wait, no, it's not a Gatorade commercial. See this? This is clear stuff. This is water. Something as simple as understanding you're not drinking enough water to hydrate your body is a simple one thing that could change your life. For example, one of my wonderful challenges in life is I get headaches like crazy. I don't know when I learned my one thing, but I learned a lot of times my headaches are caused by dehydration. Can you drink any liquid? Sure. Do they all hydrate equally? No. Can you get super fancy water? Yes. Do you need super fancy water? Probably not. If all you do is add 1 more cup of water, if you currently have 0 and you add 1, you will have more, right? That'll be a change that you make that helps you get closer to health. Now, Those of you who followed me a long time understand I've done 75 Hard. So you know what I drink? I drink 4 of these a day. 30, 60, 90, 120 ounces, because it's roughly half my body weight. Yeah, kind of. Um, because that's one form. But here's the thing, here's where we get messed up. It is currently January. What happens in January? New Year's Eve. Well, you know, New Year's Eve and New Year's Day. What happens when we all do that? Oh, we're gonna start doing this, we're gonna go to the gym every week, we're gonna do 5 million things. And what do we do? Ready? We fall flat on our faces and fail miserably because we don't have a plan and we have too many things. This is why one thing matters. Water is just the simplest thing. Now people get all caught up in, well, how much water, Brooke? And how much— it's like What are you drinking now? If it's currently zero, a glass of water will be improvement. But I live on my diet soda caffeine. I've got a friend of mine— excuse me, I have a little bit of a cold, so runny nose— who lives on Diet Coke, and that is her thing. And she's pretty sure it's going to kill her, but she's going to drink it anyway. She could change one thing: a glass of water. See how it makes you feel. Change one thing. Ready? Here's another fun fact people may or may not know. Vitamin D deficiency, just like obesity in our world, in America, vitamin D deficiency is relatively high. Why do we care about vitamin D? Hmm, I'm not a doctor, I'm not offering medical advice. However, I'm gonna put it over here, it's very hard to do everything backwards. Um, the doctor— the doctor 3. Yeah, vitamin D. D3 is what most of us are deficient in. I have been diagnosed by my doctor over the years to be, um, needing supplementation. Now, if you go Google vitamin D deficiency and depression, you're going to find that something as simple as not getting enough vitamin D in your life can help cause depression, amongst other things like rickets, etc., and so forth. I am not suggesting you go out and find your Google PhD to decide that vitamin D supplementation is what's for you, because pretty much all of the articles will tell you you need to get a test from your doctor to verify whether you, um, are deficient or not. Or you could be like people who don't want to go to the doctor, try it for a little while, see what happens. It's one thing that could make a difference. Um, all right, so I am not the only one who's been told to do vitamin D. Tara, also vitamin D. So here's the thing, how much are you supposed to take? I don't know either, but at least once a day, right? Just one thing. The idea of picking one thing that's going to help you is that we tend to overwhelm ourselves. We are— have— we are— have— yeah, I have good words today, really, I do. Sorry, I've been teaching all day. I did a pistol permit class today, which I don't usually do on Saturdays, so my pistol permit class went from 9 to 6. Um, I've had a little bit of downtime, but I don't think my brain has recovered yet. Um, now Mike White is out in the sun all the time. Vitamin D naturally from the sun, naturally occurring all the time. Absolutely awesome. And he also has to take vitamin— is something on— it is to know this one thing, right? One thing, vitamin D. When I do this consistently, I do notice a difference. Here's the challenge. It's just as easy, if not easier, not to do the thing, the one thing. So I remember for a while, I am happier. Hey, sorry, I do have a cold. Um, and then I forget because another one thing comes into mind and I start focusing on that one thing. So here's the thing, am I beating myself up for not doing everything? Yes, sometimes I do. Uh, do I try to get back to that one thing so I'm not overwhelmed with all of the things I could do? That too. So, um, all right, DJ's gonna go all the statistics on us. So adults 19 years and older, 600 IUs. So what the heck is this? This one says 2,000, and, uh, so it says super strength. Is more better? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. All right, one more thing. Ready? Are you ready for this? Are you old like me? Do you have achy joints and bones? Guess what's a really great anti-inflammatory if you can buy one that doesn't make you have what we call fish burps? Fish oil. I gotta put it up over here where it's not so bright, right? So I'm not suggesting that you go out and buy fish oil, but fish oil is one of these things that is a supplement that is good for your body. All right, so those are physical supplements to your body. How do you improve your physical health? Because here's the thing— sorry, yes, and Gina yelled at me for stop beating yourself up. So here's the thing, one of the things about any negative emotion, whether it's anger, beating yourself up, feeling sorry for you, etc., The chances of you avoiding that 100% are not really good. We are imperfect creatures. We don't tend to be perfect often. However, when we fall, the, the plan is recognize that you're beating yourself up and knock that stuff off. So you have to break the pattern. It's not that you're never going to beat yourself up. I mean, you know, that'd be lovable. Lovable. That would be lovable. Um, But the, the thing of it here is that you do want to understand if you're mad, angry, sad, upset. Recognize it, say okay, and then break that pattern. Give yourself the 5 or 10 minutes to feel miserable, unhappy, whatever, but only that 5 or 10 minutes. One of the reasons that people get stuck in anxiety, depression is because they get there and they stay there. And they hold onto it with all their might. So since Gina's gonna tell me not to do it, I'm gonna say, well, yes, but we can do a little bit, um, a little bit at a time. Um, so, huh, old like me. Yes, old like me. Hey man, I've been on this planet more than half a century. So there, that would be old, halfway to a century. Over halfway to a century. Of course, my plan is I'm not even halfway there because it's 60, then I'll be mid-life crisis because I plan on living to 120 because that's what it says in the Bible. God says we have 120 years. I'm planning on taking him up on that offer. All right, um, so yes, headaches, uh, I have migraines and I have regular headaches and dehydration. The simplicity of, oh, go drink some more water. Will it fix it every time? No. Will it fix it some of the time? Probably. Ready? Here, Tara, I'll give you another thing. Not that you can do this while you're driving, but you know, right here where your thumb and your forefinger come together. How am I going to show this? All right. I'm going to be a Gumby. If you take your thumb and put it right there, right? There's my camera. And then you squeeze right there. This is a lovely pressure point. If you are having a tension, um, headache, you can just squeeze here pretty soundly for about 10 seconds and then breathe while you're doing that. When you let go, give it about 5 minutes and it should release your headache, depending on which kind of thing you're having. Um, good news is Mike White has a heart, which he takes fish oil for. So every one thing that you learn about is one new habit that you can do. I know we're talking health and stuff, but let's talk mental health as well. Reading something like Zen Bow, Zen Arrow, this kind of is about what's happening right now. Here's a funny thing, um, I don't know, I lost Tara's thing, but she was talking about arthritis. So one of the things that Zen sort of brings you to is paying attention to what's happening right now. So right now, what's happening? I am talking to you. My dog is walking around. There are lights on. I'm listening to see if my kids are coming home. There's lots of stuff happening right now. If I'm paying attention to all the stuff happening in this very moment, because that's kind of the idea behind Zen, um, I really can't get stuck in the what's going to happen tomorrow, or oh my God, what didn't I do yesterday? So being present, the pain portion of this. Here's the thing, those of us who have chronic pain, there's places in our body where we feel pain. Now here's a really cool trick regarding pain. Right now I have herniated discs in my neck. They cause me pain in the evenings, and so it hurts like a son of a bitch when I move, and if I pay attention and try to find where that pain is and locate it with my brain, hmm, it actually disappears. Now, is it magic? No, not really. It's just how our brains work. If I am in pain and I go and I'm like, huh, where is that pain? And I go look for it, it disappears. When I start talking to you again and I'm focusing on you guys, the pain creeps back because I'm not focusing on it. And so just this dull sort of, you know, having an ice pick in the back of your neck sort of— not that I've ever tried that, but this is kind of what it makes me feel like. Um, so it's criti— so it's one more thing. What's another trick? What is one more thing I can do to— A, because like, remember in the description I said it's one more thing that can change your life, or I teach you, you teach somebody else. And here's the thing, it may not make a difference in your life, but learning that dehydration is probably the number one cause of headaches might help somebody you know. So that is the idea behind the one more thing. Oh, oh yeah. Sorry. So Tara, we're all having crisis at different times during the middle of our lives, somewhere between birth and death. A midlife crisis. Yeah. So again, like I was saying earlier, crises last as long as we let them. Um, when I got notified of my daughter— my sister's, uh, car accident, like, your sister died in a car accident. I'm like, no, no, she did not. She's at college. So first, uh, walk through grief is denial. I remember that one really well. I think number 2 might be anger. I don't remember that one as well. I was too busy controlling and helping my mom and taking care of my 4-month-old or my 3-month-old and my year-old. So anyway, um, those are some of the things for tonight. What else do we have? DJ looked up Zen Bows and Arrows. Um, it is one of my favorite books just because it equates to so much in life. Something that I've learned that was useful out of here is— it's about archery, and it's one of these things that you're standing and looking at the target, you are drawn back on your bow, you see the arrow hit the target, and you let that happen. As humans, we tend to be control freaks, and we want everything to happen when we want it to happen, when we want it to happen. Biggest challenge my new shooters tend to have is jerking the trigger super fast. Why? Because they saw their sight picture where they thought they wanted it, and they have to try to grab it. When I teach them how to slowly apply pressure so that all of a sudden the gun goes off in a surprise Oh, their shots become much better and more accurate. Part of that learning helps you not just with accuracy in target shooting, but it helps you with the accuracy of how you get things to happen around you, is really and truly by not trying too hard. So that's what I have for you. Wait, I put the wrong thing in. All right, so, um, yeah, that was for a different live stream when we were doing dry fire practice. Holy moly. Um, ah, yeah. So I meant to put this one down here. So those of you who weren't looking, I'm getting a little bit better. In the description are all the 911, 988 phone calls, and you can always call 911 if you're in crisis. But, um, things like 988 are someone you can just talk to versus getting ambulance or police sent to you. So yeah, learning that it's okay to screw up live and in person. I do lots of that and it's okay. And that is what I have for y'all this evening. One thing, uh, I already forgot what I put up for next week, but I'm sure it's going to be good. So I hope y'all come back next week. Um, and I'm missing a comment. Um, oh yes. DJ from "But I Want It Now," Veruca Salt golden ticket. And what happened to Miss Veruca Salt? She did not get through Willy Wonka's factory. All right, ladies and gentlemen, thank you for popping in. I will see you all next week. I don't know, who knows? There could be— sorry, there might be another pop-up live. Y'all seemed to like that last week. We will see what happens. Sorry, I saw Tara's comment and that's what I was laughing at, because all of us who do this live stuff— and she's got it harder than I do though, because like she's trying to show you stuff that she's doing in front of you, and it's just, it's way harder. And so I'm saying it's easier to screw things up because you've got all this camera angle stuff you're trying to get done, and lighting, we've talked about that. But anyway, Mr. Woods, I appreciate you., and I appreciate you saying I rock because you rock too. And that— oh, there you go, that's another one thing. You can get such an amazing high by complimenting other people because it is just awesome. Good night, Miss Gina. I will see you next week, perhaps. Oh, thank you. And next week, what does crisis look like? Yes, because that's one of the biggest Other questions I get all the time. It will definitely get into that. Back dealing with docs in the hospital. All right, so G23, I don't know if it means like your back is busted, um, or you're just returning to. So either way, good luck. All right, good night everybody, and we will talk about crisis next week. Feel free to like, share, subscribe, all of those things, but I'm pretty sure all of you watching already have. And I will see you on Saturday. And that's the family getting home just in time. Bye!