Suicide Prevention Saturday - What could this mean?

Shoutin'— oh yeah, I know you don't want to hear me sing. Oh, it's so close. All right, so since I was late last week, I figure I should start early this week since, hmm, I've had more than one person call me today to make sure I was going to be on tonight. So I appreciate you all because I do need help. It's true. Um, I mean, staying on track, staying on target. Staying on task sometimes. Yes. So hello everyone. Uh, YouTube, Facebook. Yeah, that's all the places I am right now. So thank you for popping in on this Suicide Prevention Saturday. And I even have a list today. So not only am I here a few moments early, I am also theoretically gonna stay on task. We will see. Um, I keep going like this because it's been, it's been, it's been a day. Uh, so BNW Woods, yes, thank you DJ. Uh, always appreciate your help. Again, wouldn't have happened last week if it weren't for him. I would have gone to bed and woke up the next day. Oh, I forgot. MK Joe, how you doing? G-Webs, all good, sir. Um, uh, DJ's ready to go. Wee! Uh, yeah, we do all need wake up. Well, I don't know if everyone needs a wake-up call. I can definitely help with a wake-up call. Nice shirt. You like it? Educate, not legislate, baby. That is what we are about. DC Project just had their first meet and greet here in Connecticut today, run by our wonderful state director, Mrs. Mary Forges. We got to meet 30-ish new members, hopefully, with any luck. Yeah. Hey Tara, how you doing? Cooking, I hope. So anyway, what am I doing here? Perspective. That's what today is going to be about. Perspective. It seems like we've been talking a lot about perspective. And I say we, I mean me and other people I actually talk to, not me just talking to you guys. Yeah. Oh wait, hold on. So yes, since it's public knowledge, I guess I'm like, yeah, Tara is— I don't know, I talked to her earlier last week, earlier this week. So yeah, so do let us know. Tara got into an accident and is healing currently, hopefully well. With any luck, we'll be walking soon again because that would be good. So anyway, perspective. All right, so actually let's start there. Let's start We'll start with Tara. Ready? So Tara got an accident, pretty banged up. Uh, uh, not my details to share, so I'm gonna just stop there. But perspective, right? Um, A, still alive, bonus. Still breathing on their own, also bonus. Um, and I'm not gonna talk about Tara, I'm gonna talk about me. So, because I know I shouldn't talk about other people outside of class. But anyway, I am about 4 weeks off of crutches, and I can do stuff, but there's stuff I can't do. Like I told you about last week's competition, I learned I can't stand up quickly, I can't move from my left to my right quickly, that sort of stuff. So I have to remind myself I'm 4 weeks off crutches after being on crutches for November. December, January, February, and March. So I was on crutches for 5 stinking months, um, and I keep reminding myself that because like my feet hurt and I wonder why my feet hurt, and part of it is I was on crutches for 5 months, so my feet are just learning how to get— how to touch the ground, how to hold my weight up all by themselves. Because up until now I have had, um, I've had my arms holding me up, not just my feet. So hello, sir, how are you? Does this mean your wife is watching the kid because you're on Facebook? I just want to know. Um, so anyway, um, healing, healing, healing, healing. It is about perspective. We just never know how long it's going to take because God knows it takes longer than any of us want to deal with. Um, because None of us ever want to be sick. None of us ever want to be injured. We don't want to suffer. And yet, ready? The thing that everybody hates: what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right? And I'm pretty sure most of us who've been through the what doesn't kill you make you stronger thing have been like, yes, God, I am strong enough. I don't need more proof. At least that's how I feel about it. So, um, For those of you who believe in prayer, do give a little healing prayer out there for Miss Tara from Tara Smith's Kitchen, uh, because it's hard to heal. It's hard to have patience for ourselves, um, that sort of thing. So perspective— where you are versus where you were. Uh, sometimes things are better, sometimes they're worse. Life is always like this, right? We have our highs, we have Harlow's and bacon. I heard bacon. So, um, according to PN Woods, we've got bacon makes healing better. Not like really likely, but you've had bacon. So yes, bacon is always good. There's nothing wrong with bacon. Bacon is all sorts of goodness. So anyway, life goes like this, right? When you were in the hole down below in the deepness of the darkness of where we can go That's where perspective helps us. When we start to look up— I don't know how many of you remember, but your eyeballs, if you look up, you feel lighter, you are more connected to God. When you look straight ahead, we are sort of even keel. When we start looking down, we kind of end up going down into ourselves and get more connected with our body and more emotional. So when we're doing this, imagine your eyeballs. Ready? Ready? Eye test. Up and down and up and down. You actually will go through different feelings as you move up and down. So perspective of where you are, where you've been, and where you are going. Oh wait, let's see. I can't— I'm being tortured. I'm being tortured by my beautiful wife who is currently changing my bandage. She's a nurse, so I'm in good hands. Well, that's a good thing. Yes, um, yeah, I could go so many wrong places right now with being tortured by your wife. Um, but anyway, I will not. I'm gonna say this is a PG thing and I'm just not going to go down there. Anyway, um, yeah, here we go. See, now I'm just— I'm gonna go back to this. All right, so perspective: where have you been, where are you going? Pay attention to that. PTSD— how does perspective have to do with PTSD? Well, um, for some of you only on the YouTube side will see this, but I do have Mario Mosin scheduled for May 21st, and he actually has a really good video, I think, on PTSD. Well, more or less more for our veterans more specifically. So I'm going to post the link over here. In this video that I'm putting in the link, the link, depending, you know, see Facebook, YouTube, YouTube, there you go. In this particular video, he talks about PTSD, but he also is talking about why veterans commit suicide. And he talks about, like, I'm trying to give you the short version. It's only 16 minutes. You should definitely watch it, but I'll give you the short version. As folks who are in the military, the military sucks you up, takes you in, says, here's what you need to do, go kill these people and stay alive while you're doing it. And that is their job. And now they come home, they don't have to kill anybody, and they really don't have to do much to stay alive. So the military gave them their purpose and then sort of took them, took it away by letting them go. And so a soldier who is used to completing the mission and having a specific mission now comes home, is kind of lost. It's too quiet, it's too simple, and they don't have a mission anymore is the short, short version. You really want to watch the video that Mario put up because he talks more about it. And they've lost their perspective on what's important because they were given a thing and then it was taken away. And Mario talks a little bit how the military does not do so awesome with letting people go. And unfortunately, the first thing that pops to mind is it's very similar to what we do with our prison population, is that people get incarcerated, they're, you know, 3 hots in a cot every day, and they're like, okay, serve your time, go figure something out. When we've got tons of rules and laws and stuff that are against hiring felons and making it really hard for these people to then reintegrate into society. Not suggesting that prison and military life is the same, but it's similar in my brain because you're given solid— this is what you do, get up at this time, you do this, you do this, you do that— and then being put out into the regular society is like being put into the wild and left to fend for yourself. Hello, GT3. Um, So perspective, Aiming for Zero. All right, I got more stuff for you. Oh, I lost my link. Hold please. I almost have stuff for you. I would love for you guys to donate to Aiming for Zero. Mario's interview on May 21st is the night before I go and compete at my Aiming for Zero match. So I'm trying to get to the share screen portion of this. So Aiming for Zero is veteran suicide shooting competition, and I will be shooting competition for this, which is a mere 4 weeks away, I guess. So I should probably do another dry fire series. You can just simply go to donate right over here. And if you do go to donate, um, I believe there's a thing for you to, um, when you click on donate, you can either send something in or you can do it online here. And if you donate this way, oh my goodness, yeah, it's not going to show me what I want to show. Um, you can put in Aiming for Zero New Hampshire because that's where I'm going to go. So I want to try to help us get lots of donations for Aiming for Zero in New Hampshire. Since a lot of you folks are all over God's creation, you can always go to events calendar for Aiming for Zero and see what's happening somewhere around you, I think. So, um, Yeah. All right. Voilà. Oh yeah, that was what I was watching before. This is Mario. All right, I will stop screen share. See, this is where if I had DJ, I could probably tell him what to do. So anyway, uh, let's see. So Tara's not doing well without the dog, the sun, and I'm home for the weekend. He's the only one you could talk to. So the separation anxiety is that you're— you and your son or the dog? I'm guessing it's probably the dog. And thank you for the link, DJ. And I gotta throw it over on the Facebook side. But any of you all watching on Facebook side, I will do that after. Yeah, well, not everyone knows you yet, Tara, because like, you know, this is the YouTube side and then there's the Facebook side and, you know, I don't want to speak out of school. But I am definitely, you Yeah, I kind of figured it was the dog, but it'd still be funny if it was the kid because, you know, anyway. All right, back to perspective, right? Aiming for Zero, we have shirts. Icarus is my handy dandy. They are a proud sponsor of the Aiming for Zero shirt. This was, I don't know what year this was, but this is not this year. This was last year or the year before. Or the year before. Oh wait, it wasn't last year because last year I had my appendix out for the Aiming for Zero. Um, then there is this other Aiming for Zero. So each year they come out with a new, um, whatever it's called, pattern, picture, etc. You can even get just a boring old t-shirt. However, I say get the Ecura shirts because I got a really cool one for this year, and that is the tab that I lost. Oh, Gizzard Gary. Um, so I'm gonna look for that real quick. I still have a song in my head that I was almost singing to you guys at the beginning of this. Luckily, you were saved from having to listen to me sing. So perspective though, right? If you liked my singing which I'm not sure any of you will ever get to hear that. Um, sorry, I suppose that's mean. But, um, if you like my singing, like my children when they were little, when they didn't know better, um, you would want to hear my singing. I don't know where I'm going with this perspective. Perspective. So help me out here. Perspective. If you look at something and it's good, it's good. If you look at something and it's bad, it's bad. From your perspective. Um, unfortunately, the only thing that comes to mind currently is an example of solar power. If you only look at one piece of something like solar energy— oh, the sun is there, it's generating radiation, the radiation is free, it's free energy— and that's one way you could look at solar energy. However, if you look at the solar panel that it takes to take that radiation and change it into energy, and you actually pay attention to how much strip mining is done, how many toxic chemicals are created, and what happens for the shelf life of that said solar panel, all of a sudden not so free. All that money has cost, has impact on the environment, all that sort of stuff. So perspective is about what you focus on. When you're taking a little tiny piece of information and you focus on that, it's going to be all of what you expect, whether it's all good or all bad. And with our minds, we have to be aware of our perspective of how things go. I'm gonna have to throw that Icarus, um, whatever it's called. I'm gonna have to throw that, the the shirt thing up later. Unfortunately, tomorrow is the last day to order so they go to New Hampshire. Um, and, and I was trying to figure out how to save you guys all money on shipping by having them sent to me, and then I would send them to you, and I'm not doing good with that. So here we go. Perspective solar panels. Look a little tiny bit. Awesome. What does this have to do with suicide prevention? Everyone? Anybody? Anyone? Perspective. If you are dealing with stress, anxiety, depression, it's how you're looking at that thing. If everything in your life sucks, it's because you're focusing on everything in your life that sucks, and Could everything suck? Possibly. Probably not though. Are there good things in your life that are really actually there? Remember how I did this, right? So when we're thinking everything sucks and everything is down in the ditch and you're in the deep hole and you can't imagine ever getting out of the hole, crawling out of the hole that you're in because everything sucks so bad, the more you focus on what's up there, whatever that up there is for you, As parents, maybe it's your children. As grandparents, maybe it's your grandkids. As a married couple, maybe it's your partner. I don't know, but I do know when we focus narrowly upon ourselves and all of our shortcomings and all the things that we suck at, we will see more of that. Perspective is about understanding that no matter how bad something is, My favorite line out of the Bible: this too shall pass. And here's the other— the rub on that one is, if everything is awesome, spectacular, and wonderful, this too shall pass. So perspective is get out of the hole. As far as if you're focusing on crap, try to get away from focusing on crap. When you are having a good time, try to actually really enjoy that and really feel the happiness that is within you, that you are capable of. We are all capable of amazing love and hate. And as the Apache Native Americans' fable goes, you have two wolves to feed. There is a good one and there is a bad one, and you get to decide which one wins, because we get to choose where we're putting our energy and our attention. Because where our attention— where our attention goes is where our energy flows. If all we see is the bad, the horrible, the nasty in the world, which there is plenty of, could make us all cry all night long, or we look at the amazing things, the spectacular things that all the people in the world do on a regular basis Sometimes as simple as smiling and say, oh, nice shirt, or your hair looks great, or whatever it is. I don't know what dudes do, I just know what girls do. Um, little tiny acts of kindness that occur on a regular basis. If you don't see them, guess what? Be them. Because by being more of what you want to see in the world, that is how we change the world. We talk about mental health, we have to start with us first. I can't come here and tell you that everything is going to be okay because it's not. Life is hard, it sucks, bad things happen to good people, right, Tara? Sorry. Um, but you've got folks taking care of you, you've got someone who's watching your dog. Um, I don't know, you were— I'm assuming you had to have been in the hospital, that sort of stuff. You you have people to take care of you. I know sometimes it feels like we're terribly alone and that, um, oh wait, so ready? You are not alone. Reach out, right? Because when you feel like crap, it's really hard. But also just think about the times when you've been able to reach out to other people. So what am I saying? I'm just rambling again, and I'm super excited to be here tonight, and there's 5 million things I want to talk about, but I don't want to ramble on forever and ever. Because I just don't want to bore you guys to pieces. And I hid the comments, so I don't know what you're all saying. Um, yeah, so look up and find something to look up to. One of my favorite things from Tony Robbins is, if you don't know, ask yourself, what if you did know? Because so often when you say, how could you fix this? And someone says, I don't know, Say, okay, well, if you did know, what would it be? Because generally we do know, we just don't want to think about it long enough and hard. Um, hi, Gun Metal Guy USA. Um, all right, I am so bummed. All right, give me, give me one more minute of your undying attention. That's not actually what I meant to say. Um, I really want to find this link for you guys for the Icarus shirts. Because tomorrow is the deadline. And the reason I want you to do that is because it is for the, um, oh, come on. Uh, Icarus East 2022, because it's for the Aiming for Zero. And why do we care about that? Because Aiming for Zero helps prevent veteran suicide, and we're trying to lower the number from 22 a day to less than 22 a day. Um, all right, here are the cool shirts from Aiming for Zero for this year, and if I can share my screen, y'all get to see them. I'll see if I can just make the screen— ta-da! Wait, I want to go bigger. It's a little bigger. So this is the 2022 version. Like I said, I don't usually try to sell things here, but for real, I would love for you guys to support Icarus. A, of course, because they're my sponsor, but B, because all the proceeds from these— the sale of these shirts are going to go for the Aiming for Zero charity match. Like I said at the beginning, if you really just want to donate money directly Go ahead. That is the front. Um, this is the back. You can have your name on there. They are my favorite, um, whatever this is called, material, because it's all nice and soft. So I put the link there. Go buy a shirt. So here's the thing, if you don't buy them by tomorrow, I don't know if that's the end of them for this year. Or if buying them for tomorrow is when they would get shipped to New Hampshire. But either way, let me know if you get a shirt. If you get it shipped to New Hampshire, I will pick it up and bring it back to you if you're here in Connecticut, or at least New England. And I think that's what I've got for tonight. Mario Mosen— oh, May 21st. For those of you who are crazy like me and have all your stuff planned out at a time May 21st, I'm gonna go on at 8 PM, not 9 PM, because I have Mario, and that means we will probably chat for almost an hour. Um, I'm starting at 8 because I have a match the next day, so I really want to hit the hay by 9. So on May 21st, we're gonna do 8 PM. Uh, April 20— sorry, that's it. April 24th, which is tomorrow, is the last time you can buy the Aiming for Zero shirts. And if anyone doesn't get one, let me know. And since I'm shooting on Sunday, if they have any extra shirts, I can probably get you one and we can make a donation to Aiming for Zero. Um, sorry, I'm just realizing banned from, for Facebook ID. So you can't, um, yes, I actually will put up a different link for you. That's actually the Icarus, um, the actual Icarus website, because I forgot about that. Yes, I am. I wish I was banned. No, I don't wish I was banned. I do try to actually, um, I do try to do stuff. Oh wait, all right, so here is the actual Icarus shirt ordering. Ah, yes. Where are you, DJ? I think her shirts— oh wait, DJ already found it. You're so much faster than me. All right, so yes, I will happily explain Asian sizes to you. I actually have my shirts here just for that reason. So this is a small. I am not a small, but this is a little short, short arms. Much shorter than mine. It's sort of like kid sizing in that, uh, when you go to the website, it will give you the Asian sizing versus American sizing because Asians are smaller than us. I am a decent-sized girl, not necessarily ginormous, but This is an example of a 3XL from Asian sizing, and I'm probably comfortably a 2XL, whereas in American sizing I'm probably just a regular XL. So that's the closest I can come to explaining Asian sizing to you. Just go up at least one— like, if you're normally a medium in American clothing, go to a large. If you're generally a large go to an extra large, that sort of thing. And I think somewhere on the site, when you actually go to Icarus Shirts, which DJ dropped and then I went and dropped because then it goes on the Facebook side too, um, I think they even tell you how to figure out that. But really, it's just go up a size. Whatever your size is, just go plus 1 and you should be good. Like I said, I love the fabric. It's the cooling fabric so you don't get hot and sweaty and gross. So I love them. And yes, I've been— I am sponsored by them, so I have to say that part. But, um, and I just think it's a really cool thing because suicide prevention— our veterans are some of the hardest hit as far as, you know, fire suicide with a firearm. It's a large percentage of men, and of those men, a large percent of the percentage of them are veterans. So we want to do everything we can to help them out. So, uh, yeah, well, it's up to you. I— safety-wise, yeah, you could probably go 2 sizes up from what your normal size is. Uh, I tend to Um, well, yeah, and like I said, I think there's conversion chart right on there, but I definitely go at least one size bigger. And how did a barbecue get in here? Oh look, there he is! I mean, I didn't see you before, but hello. Oh, Harding, for perspective, you have a bad day, come up as a negative, and also do that with some good and evil, some just normal, then you can concentrate for short period on the negative, switch to neutral, uh, positive enough to maintain balance. Yes. And here's the thing, I, I love the negative part in that, uh, Dean Graziosi is another one that I listen to, and he's like, it's not that bad things aren't going to happen, it's not that you're never going to get pissed off or mad or frustrated or disappointed, but give it a minute. Literally like set a, a timer and give it like a minute, maybe 5, and then let it go and push it and go to the next thing that is better, whether it's a smile or something along those lines. Well, they— wait, I've got a 5XL. I can show you my 5XL over there because they do go that large. They actually go to 10XL. So, you know, I'm pretty sure they got a size that'll fit you. Oh my goodness. So yeah, all right, now you're all chatty. Um, and, um, yeah, see, it's Saturday night and we're now we're talking about spanking. First we're talking about bondage— I mean, bandages. And, uh, yeah, a good thing Barbecue is going off on his show in another 10 minutes, so I have to get off here. Um, what do you mean you didn't see you either? Uh, but yeah. I would love it if y'all would go get some Aiming for Zero shirts, or like I said, if you don't need a shirt, just donate. And in the notes when you donate, say, um, you'd like this to go for Aiming for Zero for New Hampshire from Pioneer Sportsman Club. For those of you who shoot out there that are in the New England region, I'm pretty sure you can actually still go to practice score and sign up and come shoot, uh, Let's see, Aiming for Zero charity match. Uh, I don't know. I'm saying I don't know because when I go to it, it just wants to show me my stuff and I just want to show you the match stuff. But I don't know. Here, I have a feeling if you go here it's going to send you nowhere, but, um, it might get you to— at least if you go to Rigor 2022 Aiming for Zero charity match. Stop there. It will probably bring you to the right place. Um, because unfortunately I'm signed in, so I can't sign out. And yes, I am so using you as an excuse to go. And plus, you get into garbage talking, so I just am not going there. Um, so anyway, there's that. Anywho, all right, perspective. Keep your stuff together as best as you can. When you lose your stuff, you know, just remember to go pick up your toys and go play. No, um, heads up, eyes up, shoulders back, big breath. And just something as simple as that is enough to change your perspective. And if I teach you that then you can teach somebody else that, and then they can teach somebody else that. And if we teach everybody one little simple thing that they can do, even if it's making— picking up the phone, making that phone call that they don't want to, but if you encourage someone and they need to make that phone call, then it helps sometimes to get permission from somebody else. We shouldn't need permission, we shouldn't have to be pushed, but at the same time You just never know. Yeah, well, Barbecue, one of these days you're gonna be on time. And if you wanna know about the spankings and bandages, bondages, bandages, yes, just ask Tara. All right, so on that note, I really am gonna go, go check out Barbecue. Man, I don't know. They're gonna be talking about God knows what tonight. In theory, has something to do with guns or barbecue. So there is that. Often it has to do with the intro about fat people being everywhere, but I just, I can't even go there tonight. So anyway, that is everything I can think of. I'm super excited to have you guys here. Thank you for checking in every Saturday. Do what you can to spread the love and the happiness. Guns, ammo, good target shooting. Understanding, um, that mental health is for all of us and we all have to find a different way. And each one of us is going to have a different way if we're going to reach somebody else. And yes, I appreciate you, GT3, by all means. Uh, yes, give me thumbs up. There, there, I think is where they would be in Torrington. In Torrington. Oh good Lord, I need to go to bed now. Yeah. Oh, there we go. So for those of you who didn't, who've never been to Barbecue's thing, it says Gizzard Gary, that fat guy is from Michigan. I'm not body shaming. I'm just talking about the truth there. So I don't know who your favorite is. I'm assuming I'm your favorite, not like GT3, but whatever. All right. Love to y'all. Have a lovely day. Take a deep breath, shoulders back, head up. If you do nothing else, that will make you all good. I will see you back on next week, and it really will still be at 9 o'clock, and it will be here. And, um, oh, T-Web, you've been so quiet. Uh, you are welcome for the series and normalizing conversation about 2 out of 3 gun deaths. Yeah, 2 out of every 3 gun deaths we hear about in, in the in the media are suicides. And if people really wanna save lives, they'd be focusing on suicide prevention, not about legislation. So spread the word, let people know. And as DJ says, be safe, have fun, and rock. I cannot do his voice, but that's as close as I'm getting. All right, y'all go check out Guns N' Barbecue on YouTube in 5 minutes now, if he doesn't fall asleep between now and then. See y'all next week.