Three ways to stop arguments before they start: pause when you're frustrated so emotions settle, use "when" statements to frame what you need instead of blame, and watch your tone because a nagging voice makes people defensive.
Number 1: when you feel the frustration boiling up, press the pause button before you speak. It really helps. Number 2: use 'when' statements. So for example, 'When you say what's for dinner, I feel like it has to be completely my responsibility and I'd like to share the cooking.' Number 3: be really aware of tone of voice. Nobody responds well to a nagging tone of voice.
