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"Can I have a word about your child's behaviour?'

Name: "Can I have a word about your child's behaviour?'
Uploaded: 2024-08-01T19:04:16+00:00
Duration: 51 s
Channel: Camilla McGill
Description: In this brief parenting advice segment, the speaker recounts a scenario where a teacher informs a parent, Joanna, that her son Joe pinched another child…

1 Aug 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief parenting advice segment, the speaker recounts a scenario where a teacher informs a parent, Joanna, that her son Joe pinched another child. Instead of confronting the teacher or the child on the spot, Joanna thanks the teacher and says she will discuss the incident at home. The speaker explains that reacting immediately can cause shame and defensive behavior in the child, preventing honest discussion. The key recommendation is for parents to always tell teachers they will address the issue later, positioning themselves as advocates for their child. The segment also emphasizes using love‑based boundaries and supportive strategies to guide a child's behaviour rather than reacting to external expectations.

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It sends a shiver down our spine when they say, can I have a word? Joanna was told that her son had pinched another child. The teacher was really annoyed about it. Joanna said, okay, thank you for telling me. I'm going to talk to Joe when I get home. In the past, she might have made a big deal about it in front of the teacher, and now Joe would've felt intense shame and would've been unable to describe what had happened or denied it. Take this point away. Always tell a teacher that you're going to talk to your child at home. Don't do it right there in the heat of the moment. So be the advocate of your child and do what's best for them instead of responding in the way others expect you to respond. And learn ways to help your child's behaviour that are based on love and boundaries.