Camilla McGill shows parents how to respond when a child refuses school. Instead of dismissing their feelings, acknowledge the reluctance, then gently ask if it's a school day or weekend. This validates emotions while checking what's actually happening.
I'm not going to school today! What we usually say is, 'I'm sorry, darling, but you are,' and what your kid hears is, 'You don't care about my feelings.' Try this: 'I believe you when you say you don't want to go to school. It feels like such an effort, doesn't it? You'd rather stay home where it's cosier.' Then pause and gently ask, 'What day is it today? Is it a school day or a weekend?' And wait. Even if they still feel upset, we've gone a long way to having their feelings validated. Drop yes if you'd like my free guide, How to Get Your Kids to Cooperate Without Ever Needing to Nag or Shout.
