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"My toddler has a tantrum if I won't carry her. What do I do?

Name: "My toddler has a tantrum if I won't carry her. What do I do?
Uploaded: 2024-05-21T16:00:43+00:00
Duration: 45 s
Channel: Camilla McGill
Description: In this short parenting‑advice video, a therapist (Speaker A) recounts a client’s recent session in which her two‑year‑old daughter, Emily, throws a…

21 May 2024 · 1 min

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In this short parenting‑advice video, a therapist (Speaker A) recounts a client’s recent session in which her two‑year‑old daughter, Emily, throws a tantrum whenever the mother refuses to carry her while pushing a baby buggy. The mother experiences back pain from repeatedly giving in, and the therapist points out that the child learns the message that her tantrums grant her the privilege of being carried. The speaker suggests a cognitive reframing: the parent should view the tantrum as an opportunity to practice handling big feelings, maintain firm boundaries, and allow the child to cope with disappointment. The video concludes with a call‑to‑action, inviting viewers to comment “yes” to receive additional solutions.

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'Emily will not walk when I'm pushing the baby in the buggy. She screams at me, so I wind up carrying her and I've got terrible backache.' My client complained of this in her recent session with me. If she says no, Emily has a meltdown and my client gives in. But what's the message to Emily? It's that her mum is so upset by her tantrum that Emily gets to be carried. If we think about this differently, it helps us to choose our response. 'I can handle a tantrum. I'm not afraid of my child's big feelings. I know she can cope with the disappointment of not being carried, so I'm going to hold firm on this.' If this is the way you'd like to think about tantrums and want some more solutions, just drop a 'yes' below and you can find out more.