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Tell Grandma to go away. Eeek! What do we say when this happens?

Name: Tell Grandma to go away. Eeek! What do we say when this happens?
Uploaded: 2024-03-03T16:00:21+00:00
Duration: 57 s
Channel: Camilla McGill
Description: In this short parenting advice segment, the speaker addresses a common scenario where a child tells a grandparent, "Tell Granny to go away, I don't like…

3 Mar 2024 · 1 min

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In this short parenting advice segment, the speaker addresses a common scenario where a child tells a grandparent, "Tell Granny to go away, I don't like her!" The typical parental reaction—shaming or scolding—is highlighted as often counterproductive, leading to further protest or withdrawal. The speaker advocates for an empathetic approach: first recognizing that the child's rude comment signals underlying feelings such as overwhelm or excitement; then stepping into the child's perspective and responding with validation, e.g., acknowledging the child's excitement, offering them space to play, and gently inviting them back when ready. The segment emphasizes that this style of parenting does not come naturally to many and offers a call to action, inviting viewers to DM or book a discovery call for deeper guidance.

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'Tell Granny to go away, I don't like her!' Oh no, we feel mortified and we jump to shame tactics. 'Don't be so rude, Granny won't come again if you treat her like that!' At which point they usually protest more or retreat inside. Now, if you're the kind of parent who wants to understand your child's feelings as well as helping them to be polite, we need to start by realising that something is up for our child to say words like that. Try stepping into their shoes and say, 'That's strange. I know you were excited for her to come. Maybe it feels overwhelming and strange now she's here. You can take your time and have a few moments to play by yourself, and when you feel okay, you can come back and chat to Granny.' Parenting this way doesn't come naturally to most of us, so if you want to learn more, send me a DM or book a discovery call, and I can tell you how I can help.