When a child explodes at the word no, they're usually upset about something else entirely. The parent's job is to pause, figure out what that is, and sometimes redo the moment with an apology. This separates your agenda from what your child actually needs.
Understanding that it's a child's job to get what he wants when he wants it. He just wanted to do what he wanted to do and he didn't like being told, right? That's a reframe. Her behavior is telling me that she's upset about something. Whenever she feels upset and gets really angry, that tells me something happened that I may not know about. However you can Look at the facts. My agenda was to get us out the door on time to school. I'm the one who cares about that. My child doesn't care about that. And once you are able to reframe this and understand what's really going on with your child, then you can go back and do a redo of a situation if it feels appropriate, and you can certainly apologize.
