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Why is it that my kids will only respond when I finally wind up shouting?

Name: Why is it that my kids will only respond when I finally wind up shouting?
Uploaded: 2024-01-06T16:00:33+00:00
Duration: 57 s
Channel: Camilla McGill
Description: In this short excerpt from a parenting coaching video, the speaker walks through a common escalation cycle that many parents experience when trying to…

6 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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In this short excerpt from a parenting coaching video, the speaker walks through a common escalation cycle that many parents experience when trying to get their children to put on shoes. The sequence begins with a calm, polite request, escalates to impatience and a raised voice, and may finally succeed in getting the child to comply—but at the cost of the parent‑child connection and mutual respect. The speaker highlights that this pattern is not unique to any one family, points out the emotional toll it takes, and asserts that it can be broken. She promises that her clients have seen rapid improvements when they apply a few specific techniques, and she invites viewers to reply “yes” to receive personal follow‑up guidance.

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Here's what happens. We start off calm, asking nicely, "Get your shoes on, please," hoping desperately that our child will bounce off happily and do what we've asked. We might also be short of time, stressed about something else, and we start to ramp it up. "Hurry up, get your shoes on." They ignore us, possibly because they're engaged in what they're doing, or maybe they just don't want to leave their cozy house. And we're thinking, "Why are my kids so disrespectful?" 'No one else's kids are like this.' So we get more annoyed and then we wind up shouting, 'Get your shoes on!' Sometimes this does make them jump, but there is a cost to our connection and to our mutual respect. It is possible to know how to stop this cycle, and my clients say it's amazing how fast they can turn things around and stop shouting. If you want to know how, I've got a couple of brilliant suggestions for you. Drop me a 'yes' and I'll message you personally.