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Why won't my kid tell me what's wrong!

Name: Why won't my kid tell me what's wrong!
Uploaded: 2024-10-11T16:09:04+00:00
Duration: 9 s
Channel: Camilla McGill
Description: In this excerpt from Camilla McGill's YouTube video, two speakers discuss why children often refuse to share what’s bothering them. They identify several…

11 Oct 2024 · 0 min

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In this excerpt from Camilla McGill's YouTube video, two speakers discuss why children often refuse to share what’s bothering them. They identify several key factors: children’s emotional overload (“their cup’s just so full”), difficulty recognizing or labeling their own feelings, and a tendency to avoid confronting uncomfortable topics. The speakers note that children may say “fine” even when they feel off, because they lack the words or willingness to describe their distress, and parents may unintentionally reinforce avoidance by not probing further.

So reasons our kids don't open up to us is— I think there's all kinds of reasons, but most importantly, I mean, it's tremendously common and difficult.
Yes, their cup's just so full they can't process it. They don't even know sometimes, you know, what it is that's bothering them. So when they say fine, it isn't fine, but they haven't broken it down, right?
They just kind of know that something feels off. But, and again, how often do we do Yes. That's again, it's like, it's like, I just don't want to get into it. I don't want to think about it. I don't want to deal with it. I don't want to like figure out how to describe it. Things just feel bad. And I just, it's fine. It's fine.
And maybe there's some shame as well. You know, maybe something has happened that they're ashamed about and they don't feel like they can talk about it or they are worried about our response. So that's definitely one I've, I've had with my kids.