Christine J GoldOwner, Soul Healers Sanctuary · ADHD Burnout Recovery Coach

#grief #death 💔 Are you ready to LOSE in order to GAIN?

27 May 2021 · 3 min

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In this reflective monologue, the speaker shares a personal journey of loss and transformation that began in 2020. She describes the end of a six‑year relationship, the decision to shed most of her possessions, and a 1,200‑mile move west with her son, framing these actions as intentional steps toward shedding ego, perfectionism, and the inner critic. The speaker emphasizes the importance of creating boundaries, protecting self‑worth, and embracing a lighter, brighter state of being that emerges from letting go. She also honors the recent death of Terry, the adopted mother of her oldest son, expressing gratitude for Terry’s impact on her family and offering a heartfelt tribute. Throughout, she invites listeners to consider whether they are willing to “lose in order to gain” a more authentic, child‑like self as they were created, while clarifying that she is not advocating reckless abandonment of responsibilities. The tone is conversational, introspective, and inspirational, blending personal anecdote with a broader philosophical call to embrace loss as a catalyst for growth.

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Hello everyone. It is a beautiful, sunny, and peaceful day today. I just wanted to talk about loss. I thought about it quite a bit. I don't like— I haven't really experienced loss because of course my mind goes to, you know, death and losing someone in the family or dying or along those lines. And then I'm like, what are you talking about? Because that's the ego. The ego wants to play a trick on you first and foremost and make sure that, you know, to hold you down, to make you think things are, you know, catastrophizing, I guess is what I'm saying. So loss, yeah, I lost a lot in 2020, but it was something that I was building towards. It was a vision I had, and So yeah, a 6-year relationship gone. My choice. And you know, when you're a people pleaser, you try everything, and you know darn well what I'm talking about. So creating boundaries, protection, worthiness. No more perfectionism, no more inner critic. So I'm losing all of that, which is great. It feels lighter and brighter. It does. Giving away and selling most of— I'd say 98% of my possessions. Whatever fit in my car, that's what I took. I took my son with me as well. 1,200 miles west. You could say I'm like a Renaissance here, that I'm creating something new out of the loss. So in order to invite new, you have to leave the old behind. Okay, now I'm not saying go quit your job, go leave your husband, whatever it is. Don't— that's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is, are you ready to lose in order to gain your beautiful, childlike, as God created me self? That's what I'm talking about. And we did lose somebody today. This person raised my oldest son. She is the adopted mother of my oldest son. She passed away today. So I'm honoring this video to Terry. I know you're with me. I know you're with us. Thank you so much for everything you've done for me, for the family, for Connor, for Kiefer, for John, for Stephen, and your sisters, your family, and everybody else you touch, and all of your animals. You can rest now. You're healthy, you're happy, and you're free. God bless you.