The Bully

Hello, beautiful souls. I'm Christine J Gold, and this is the Heart Led Soul Fed Show, solo edition. And let me ask you, One question: are you a bully? Do you know of a bully? Have you ever been bullied? And have you ever been a bully? Now, you might not see this if you're listening, but I have my hand raised for 'have I been bullied' And have I been a bully? Because you know what, I have to acknowledge a shadow side where I have been a bully in my own right. And, um, meaning pushing my agenda, pushing for what I want, pushing, pushing. You know, that, that's a bully energy too, if, if you think about it, right? So come on in, say hello. Um, yeah, this is just something that kind of came up um, earlier in the week, and I had posted on my personal page about the bully, the archetype of the bully. Um, and this is episode 249 as well. And, uh, you know, definitely send, send me a message or let me know in the comments below whether you're live, um, or if you're watching on the replay. Um, if you've ever experienced that. And really, um, you know, the definition, uh, of a bully is for just, you know, it's, it's diminishing someone's power. So, you know, everything in life is about power, whether we're gaining power We're giving away our power, which I feel, you know, many of us have, uh, in this lifetime, in past lives as well. And now we're— it's fully coming, you know, to a head, kind of like a volcano. Interesting that we use that word because there are quite a few volcanoes around the world that are quite active and are erupting. Um, and I mean, that's a cycle of nature. It's been happening for thousands of years. And I've always said, you know, we human beings, we are the virus. Nature and the animal kingdom, they don't need us. We are the cause of our suffering. And, and I will include myself because I'm taking responsibility. I think that's the biggest piece. Um, you know, growing up, um, I was all the tallest. I, I felt like a giant. I mean, I had said this to a woman yesterday. We were at a networking event, which was a fun networking event, a not a I'm going to pull up my elevator pitch and look how wonderful I am and all my certifications, and I'm going to sell you something after. Not one of those networking events. Let me know if you've ever been to any of those. But she said, oh, it's so nice to meet someone who's my height. I'm like, okay. And I said, you know, I, I was actually the tallest until grade 9. She goes, same here. So it's just interesting. Um, so I was already a target because I stood out. Right? I didn't fit in. I looked different. I was different. Now, whether it's your height, your weight, your race, whatever that happens to be, uh, I get it. You become a target. And the, the bully has no self-esteem. The bully has no— feels— has no power. And that's why they target you. Because they want the power. They want to feel powerful because they don't feel powerful. Um, and I remember, you know, being picked on a lot, and, um, it was more than that. It was all, you know, everyone's insecurities. And then myself, you know, uh, reading energy, reading the room as a young child, interacting with animals, the animal kingdom, seeing spirit and aura. Right? So definite weirdo. She's crazy, whatever that is, right? Uh, I laugh about it now, but it was hell. H-E double hockey sticks, hell. School was hell. I did not enjoy it. I enjoyed college. I did not enjoy the system, the institution called school. And I know they're not— they're changing, they're evolving. There's a lot of— if I had the chance to be homeschooled, I wish I was, but my mom did not have the capacity for that. I understand, it's, it's fine. But what, what happened is that, you know, I was picked on, and then I started to think the— and know and believe these were true. That's who I was. And I remember in grade 6, this, um, East Indian boy, uh, he would push me down. He, he was awful to me. And I'm thinking, okay, Now I'm thinking, how was he taught? He learned that somewhere. And you know what, thinking about it, I could have crushed him, but I didn't. You know what, I was a, I was a girl, right? Boys aren't supposed to do that. Anyways, it's a whole thing, and I'm, you know, just reflecting on all of that. So really, the, the bully feels they have no power. I'm sure we've all felt that way, where we have no power. They need to feel safe, and there's a lot of fear involved in this, and no self-esteem, like I said. And I'm sure you know, there— you might know someone, or even in the family, they're never wrong. The bully is never wrong. They know everything, because if they didn't, they would be humiliated. And heaven forbid if they reach out for cooperative support or wisdom. Always, uh, feel like they have to be on the attack or the offensive, defensive. There's both parts to this, um, kind of like lingering over, like hulking over somebody. You know when they say the, the micromanager, someone's breathing down your your neck, you know, over your shoulder type of thing. Um, sorry, little Keanu here's getting all playful. Um, but, uh, yeah, it's that energy. It's, um, feeling threatened when, let's say, someone who is in the same type of business as yours is doing something similar of yours, or you feel like they ripped you off, or whatever that is. It's like No, that's not true. That's them, that's not you. And you should be admiring them and seeing how you could work together with them, um, because that, that just comes from a very, you know, uh, survival limited mindset. And they can't take orders either. No way. No one tells me what to do. But I love giving orders. You know when they say the matriarch in the family? Mhm. Yep, yep. Yeah, so yeah, these are just some of the things that I have come to know about the bully, and I'd love you— love you— I love you, yes, but I would love for you to share your experiences and how we could, you know, support each other. And that's why I have, you know, those monthly groups, and I have a private community because, you know, we want people to feel safe and feel like they can be authentic and be themselves. Because bullies control their environment, and make no mistake, they're also the loudest ones in the room too, and they're very charming in public, but in private, they're hell on wheels. I've seen it play full out in my family as well. Gossip and exclusion are forms of bullying as well, you know. Oh, I gossip about this person, gossip about that person. And oh, you know, I hear this sometimes where, oh, my sister didn't invite me to, and it was just them together. And I'm like, that's bullying when you exclude somebody on purpose. And of course, the bully has an entourage or a group, and because they need this inflated sense of power. And I witnessed this yesterday. Um, there is a place that I'd love to go to all the time, and um, and then, uh, somehow we crossed paths at one of my events. And then I was there at a networking event, and I remember when I was there the first time, this person was so loud, like they had to— it was like they were giving a speech. They were on stage. They had to make sure the whole place, the, the restaurant, heard what this person was saying. And I'm like It's really bizarre. And then it happened again yesterday, and I'm like, okay, thank you for confirming. I do not want to be associated with that. So I left. And I'm sure you witnessed that, where people feel like they're on a stage and they have to almost yell so everyone can hear what their opinions are and what they think. And then people gather, so they get louder. Anyways, so, and we know that this bully, uh, is an active agent in the world and can be applied to countries as well. I mean, think about Ukraine and Russia and the US, let you know, they, they're in, in China. Let's just think of those countries, right? And you can come to your own conclusions. And bullying is, is much bigger than two kids fighting it out in a classroom too. That is a learned behavior, normally traced back to the parents, and then the parents learn that from their parents, and so on and so forth, until somebody breaks the chain. So really, it's the collective consciousness, and, um, we are seeing it played out right now, for a while at least, especially since 2020. And our— this is our entry point into wholeism. Whole, being whole, holistic, um, inviting that, uh, Age of Aquarius, that energy in community. I know you're going to be like, Christine, you said this since 2023. Well, just in case you forgot, because we tend to forget. I get it. And it is getting rougher and rougher out there because People don't want to accept people. They don't want to empower others because they feel they have no power. So it's better to keep the man down, as they say. Um, I gotta get ahead, I gotta get ahead of that person, I gotta get more because there isn't enough. That, that energy. They want to bully others and nations into submission. And really, this will backfire. It will. But who's going to pay the price? Because that is the plan of evolution, and the greater plan will play out. Not in our lifetime, though. So really, this is a great time to stand up to a bully and also be aware when we are bullying someone into something. And that's what I mean. I can think of, you know, especially with children, we, you know, we have our agenda, we have our ideas, we feel we have, you know, our kids' life mapped out. And if they fail and don't finish high school, then they're a failure. If they don't go to college, they're a failure. If they don't do what I think they should do, they're a failure. It That's, that's terrible. That goes back to us, has nothing to do with the child, you know. Our children are born from us, but they are not ours. Do you know what I'm saying? So yeah, there's just that whole archetype of the bully, and, um, I really wanted to bring our day. And I hope that, uh, this resonates with you as well. I wanted, um, I wanted to, um, I pulled, you know, I love cards, I love divination tools of every kind. Cards for me were the strongest next to crystals that, you know, would step forward. So I, I asked the question before we started What would you like to tell us about the bully archetype? What is it about the bully? So from the Light Seers Tarot, very— it just, like I say, you can't make this shit up. Um, the Empress. The Empress came forward as a message, and I'll read the shadow side of this because we really— that's what healing is, is integrating our shadow, acknowledging it. Infertility, so not being fertile, not growing. Emotional overwhelm, which happens to many of us and comes through as anxiety and other disorders. Shutting down. Yeah. Oh, I don't want to go there, that's too painful. I can't do it. If I release my emotions, I will completely crash and burn. The need for self-care. I, I'm so, you know, all about self-care. It's self-love. Why wouldn't you choose yourself first? And if you're codependent, a caregiver, people pleaser, you got to look at that. That's an addiction as well from trauma. Disharmony, negligence, being materialistic, which, you know, this world, I tell you, being overprotective of your creations. There we go with that. Well, I, I made this, so no one else should be copying it. Or they copied it, they stole it. Unless they really blatantly outright stole it, then you need to, you know, decide what you do with that. And being overly dependent on others, that's that codependency. So that's the shadow aspect of this. You can see the world on her womb, that's birthing. The Empress is divine feminine, loving ourselves more so we're not bullies to ourselves and to others. Prolific creativity, creativity that has no bounds or limits other than you yourself. Motherhood, unity, community, unity. The goddess being sensual, nurturing, nurturing ourselves, nurturing others. Abundant, abundance in ourselves, abundance in others. Empathy. You might not understand where someone's coming from, so you can put your weapons down, shut up, and listen, and try to understand where they're coming from with no judgment. Unconditional love and unification of the mind-body-spirit. Couldn't have said that better. So really, we're ready to give birth to our abundant, rich future. There are no haves and have-nots. The whole idea of separating and lower class, middle class, upper class— yes, that part is real, but if we can think globally and unified, then we're going to attract more of that energy. Instead of being critical and pointing out what's wrong. Now I don't know if you heard that noise. That is, um, Keanu's automatic feeder that just went off. Drops his, his cat food and it's— it, it goes off like 5 times a day and I think it woke me up at 11 PM last night because it's a metal tray. So that reminds me, I need to put— lay it with some felt or a paper towel or something so it doesn't go crash. Anyway, case. Um, and of course, I'd love to pull, uh, we'd love to pull from, uh, the oracle deck The Shaman's Dream by Alberto Villoldo and Colette Baron-Reid. It's a beautiful deck. Let me know if you have that one. Or do you have Chris-Anne's, uh, Light Seers Tarot? That one's my absolute favorite because I love colors. I mean, life is colorful, and, and that's how it should be, always, always. So we're asking, you know, in, in our dream state, to our evolution, our evolved state, what do we need to know more about this bully archetype? And that's how you ask questions when you're working with cards— open-ended, no yes or no. And you pick whatever card flies out, or you decide to cut. Or the card— like I said, the card chooses you. That's where you go. Now this one, I'm going— we're going to cut because just for time's sake. Ah, Net Caster. Love this. You can see a seahorse energy, definitely another maiden, a goddess energy coming through, just like with the Empress. Um, lots of stars and lights, and it's all about preparing a surprise, results beyond expectations. That's lovely. So stop praying for the fish, it's already arrived, right? So the more you have that bully type of energy, you're gonna chase things away. Things are gonna just You know, stop praying, open your arms and heart. That's your net. And this is all about new opportunities, patience, deep quiet stillness, right? So along with the Empress welcoming that energy, you've caught it all, you've got it all. And it's really teaching us how to be patient from all types of people, all types of energies, all types of situations, and seeing them as God sees me, as God sees you. We are all neighbors, we are all brothers and sisters, and that's all that matters. So thank you so much, uh, for being here. And I wanted to let you know that our Soul Healers Community is open again. Once again, yes, the doors are open. And you're, you're probably wondering, well, I'm not sure. Well, there, there are monthly classes, uh, chakra energy balancing, Reiki, private access to our community, weekly updates, sign-up bonuses, all of that as well. Um, we're opening the doors once again for Unleash Your Magic 8-week group mentorship that starts September 16th, 2023. I can't believe really we are halfway through the year. I'm sure we say this all the time, I don't know where the time went, where did the time go? Well, here it is. So I would Love to see you there. 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I love it. Christine J Gold. That's Christine J Gold. And, uh, I'm sending you all so much love. Please remember, healing begins where the ego ends. Take care of yourself. Bye-bye.