Why Survival Mode Isn't Working

Hello everyone, coming online here just quickly, say hello and follow up from my chakra challenge. It started on Sunday and yeah, I'm so happy I had quite a few people join. Now if you're like, chakra challenge, I have no idea what you're talking about, I will link that below. And, um, I'd love you to join me this Sunday as well. I will have— I'm doing animal communication workshop starting tomorrow evening as well. It's donation-based. If you would like the link to that, let me know. And I believe I'm going to run it every month, uh, just so I can— people can join anytime that they want. At some point it will be up in the Soul Healers community membership So I think it's as little as $1.99 a month. You can get access to workshops, to live events, to private Q&As, and exclusive content for members only. And if you're new here, I'm Christine J Gold. I am a fellow empath, psychic medium, Reiki master and teacher, animal seer, author, creator of the Soul Healers Method, creator of the Soul Healers Community, creator of the Empath's Journey Oracle Deck. Yes, here it is. Super excited. Today's card was Clouds, and it is a beautiful blue sky day today, uh, number 7, and it's all about your messages, your dreams. It's all about love. Maybe sevens are really, uh, important and magical to you. Sevens are great number. So if you love numerology, that would be great as well for you. And, um, yeah, so let me know. Um, really, I wanted to talk today about, um, have you ever offered to help someone genuinely with no strings attached, and they just ignored you or they brushed you off. Yeah, that used to bother me until I realized something important. The other day I offered to help someone with marketing and sales. I wasn't pitching. I mean, I have 20+ years in sales and marketing. I'm AI certified as well, and I know a lot about the digital market, so I just wanted to make things easier for her. But instead of engaging, she started listing all the reasons— here it comes— she couldn't even think about right now. Her family struggles, her survival mode, waiting for the right time. When is it ever the right time? I'm going to ask you. I mean, I'm live right now. You tell me. Are you in survival mode? Do you tend to offer your help all the time? Are you a helper, a caregiver, a martyr, a people pleaser? I mean, it's, it's something that keeps coming back into my life. It's a lesson that clearly I have not learned yet. So here's what I've learned. When people are in survival mode, they cannot take in solutions. They tend to be more of a handout, not a hand up, and I don't do handouts. I used to do a lot of handouts. I used to do a lot of free things. I used to give away my energy like it was Skittles. I don't do that anymore. I don't, because guess what happens? You become overloaded, overwhelmed. You become resentful. Ooh, that's a bad one. And you tend to just go into burnout because you have no boundaries. Where are your boundaries? Where are my boundaries? Oh my God. So even if you hand them a lifeline, even if you see the train wreck coming, They're too busy holding on. They're just— they— and they're not at the energy— energetic match, at the energy level. I'm going to talk to people who are always on the soapbox spouting off this, spouting off that. Why don't you do this? Get off your soapbox. Nobody's listening. Nobody. Nobody. Okay, you, you don't need to do that. You don't. And it's not personal. It just means my skills, your skills, that doesn't mean they're not valuable, your offer isn't needed, it just means they're not ready. They're not ready to receive that. Ah, wow. And after hearing that, that's a huge load off my shoulders. Huge. Because I tend to carry a lot of the weight of the world on my shoulders. And I know I'm an energetic mirror. I am basically mirroring back what's going on with you. So a lot of times I get attacked, I get scowls from people. I get lots of love from animals and children because they're tuned into unconditional love, love with no conditions. They are tuned into the healing vibration of Mother Earth. They are open to everything and attached to nothing, whereas adults, it's pretty muddy in there unless they are already walking that path. They're enlightened already, right? So now I protect my energy. I do. And I'm— that's why I started this chakra series. Um, sign up for that because the next one is all about the sacral chakra. Which is your inner child. I do a lot of inner child work. I have courses, I have ebooks on inner child work. It's part of the Soul Healers Method as well. So I offer once now, not even twice, and if it's ignored, I step back because my energy is precious. Like being here right now, my energy is precious. It is. So if you're not at that point where you want to, to shift, to heal, to stop feeling anxious, to stop feeling depressed, to stop looking for the easy button, then you're not the client for me. You're not. You just— we won't work together because I'm not here to save you. You are here to save yourself. I merely reflect and guide what's already inside of you to be revealed, to be healed. And part of the, what the people that I work with, the beautiful souls I work with, they are self-aware. You have to know what's going on and that you no longer want it to happen anymore. You also have to be responsible, saying, you know what, I'm responsible for my own stuff and I'm accountable and I want to do the work. Because it is work. It is light work, but there's a lot of shadow. If you do not acknowledge the shadow, you will live in the shadow all the time. And it's a yin and yang thing. It's a dance. It's a shadow dance, I call it. So because my energy, because your energy is precious, I want to pour it into people who are ready and open to receive. That simple shift has saved me from resentment and burnout. So here's a mantra that you can keep close: I release what's not mine to carry. My help is a gift, not an obligation. And I save my energy for those who are ready to receive. And if that's you, you're ready to grab the lifeline My calendar is open. All the links will be listed below if you want to join the chakra challenge, if you want to join my animal communication workshop, if you want to join the Soul Healers Method membership and mentorship. All the links will be listed below. That's what I do, and I realize not everybody wants our help, and that's okay. And I realize survival mode cannot receive solutions. I also realize I offer once and then that's it. So I would love to work with you either way. If you are new here, say hello, let me know where you are in the world. And I have a ton of free content I have almost 1,000 videos on YouTube, so if you have a question, just look it up. And if it's not there, let me know. I'd be really shocked if it's not there. I talk about everything from Dark Night of the Soul, Spiritual Awakening, empath and narcissist. I talk about chakras, I talk about Reiki, I talk about soul purpose, I talk about Akashic Records, I talk about past lives, I talk about astrology. I am now deep diving more into chakra and energy work because I realize there's a lot of energetic things going on in the world and we need to do less, not more, simple solutions to receive parasympathetic, meaning you're not in fight, flight, fawn, or freeze. Your anxiety comes down, your cortisol levels come down, your depression, because really depression is a call for deep rest. That's all it is. That is all it is. And I know this because I've had it multiple times in my life. Whoo. So there are many, many solutions. It's really up to you. I am merely a guide. I do offer a guarantee. But here's the thing, I screen people first to know that they're ready to do the work, they are self-aware, and they're responsible and accountable. Hmm. That's how my guarantee works. So if you'd love to learn more, reach out, comment, share this out maybe to somebody just to give them a little nudge, a little love nudge, whatever you want to call it. And if you'd like to see more weekly lives, like this, uh, let me know as well and join my membership. I'd love to have you. So take care of yourself. I'm sending you lots of love. I hope to see you soon at one of my weekly events, whether they're online or in person. Take care.